[ColSpanker]

Just a little curious as what the seasoned vets think about this style, as it is where I do most of my approaches.
How do you approach a woman who is sitting and reading/ studying a book? I get a lot of positive feed-back when I do. However I'm a big guy (6'2", 260#) and feel that towering over them is intimidating. I've thought about pulling up a chair, but don't want to "scare away the cat".
Any thoughts?

[drymarro]

(10-20-2011 09:09 AM)ColSpanker Wrote:  

Just a little curious as what the seasoned vets think about this style, as it is where I do most of my approaches.
How do you approach a woman who is sitting and reading/ studying a book? I get a lot of positive feed-back when I do. However I'm a big guy (6'2", 260#) and feel that towering over them is intimidating. I've thought about pulling up a chair, but don't want to "scare away the cat".
Any thoughts?

firstly, don't ask for advice from only the (pros)... you're not going to get help if you're being picky.
secondly, don't pull a chair up to her.. ever. just act like you're interested in the book itself and not her because you'll "scare the cat".

[muc]

Get Roosh's book Day Bang. There's an extensive chapter about approaching at coffee shops.

But quick tip: Walk by and while passing stop and ask if that is a good book. If it looks like a book about medicine or law (e.g. she's a student) I'd bullshit about that topic. E.g. "Oh hey, are you a law student? I have to ask you something. Am I required by law to free the seat on the train for an elderly woman?" and then tell a quick funny story about how you almost got into a fist-fight with a grandma on the suburban train the other day.. Shit like that, with practice it gets very easy to come up with this kind of stuff. But yeah, actually, just asking if it is a good book, should open already as she's probably open to a distraction.

If the conversation starts, ask if you can join her for a minute, sit down, and inquire about whether she's happy with her particular subject (or if shes not a student, a book) and inquire about for example if it's true that law students chose their subject because their parents are lawyers, too. Or ask if she has any recommendation for travel-literature for your next trip. And so forth.

If she's not open to talk to you, you can just say "Alright, don't want to disturb you, have a nice day." with a kind smile and leave. Easy.

[ColSpanker]

Thanks for the advice. I have read DAY GAME and find Master Roosh's tips to be useful. Just wanted some more insight.
Well, I dunno about RaviAuto's post. Kinda looks spammy.

[robreke]

To me, approaching a girl in a coffeeshop who is sitting on a laptop or something is super easy.

However, it seems 90% of hot girls I see in coffee shops are in and out like a freaking navy seal team offing a Taliban dude in some village.

I'm usually sitting in the shop doing work on my laptop when they come in and out. Hoping against hope they will sit and drink for a while...but they usually don't;

So...these girls come in. Order. Get their drink. Walk out immediately....the vast majority of them. Sometimes, I try to time my exiting the door when they do. A few times, I've lingered outside and stopped them...and chatted a second. But, it's never resulted in anything....whereas the ones ( much rarer occasion though it is ) that are sitting at their tables have often become lengthy discussions and number closes.

How to best approach and engage these moving beauties who are just in to grab a coffee and leave?

[baristabanger]

^ Second that.

I try to take advantage of it when I see them sitting down.

I.E. Yesterday a cute girl was sitting in the café of Barnes and Noble and after I grabbed my drink I rolled up sat down across from her at the table and said "You look way too busy for a sunny afternoon"
She giggled and we chatted a bit, went for the number and... boom 17 years old entering in her senior year at a local private school.

On to the next


Most of the book stores/cafés have old people in there and the frequent scifi meet up, until school starts up, then it's a bit of a buffet. At least around these parts.

[h3ltrsk3ltr]

^^^

Hahaha, that's how that shit goes down sometimes man.

I totally get the towering over them thing. Coffee shops often have low tables and it makes me look like the horny green giant.

This wasn't something I planned but I had this coffee shop in SC on lock a few years back. The first time I ever went in, I was wearing a full-on suit (actually I was missing the pocket square). I just posted up by the side of the "bar" or whatever it was that separated the college girls they employed there. I was thinking about serious shit and was just focused on my own thing and this blonde who was behind the bar came over and started chatting me up after she got me a coffee (I wasn't in the special "ordering spot" where the counter is lower where most people just line up like lemmings waiting to jump off a caffeinated cliff while watching me score pussy).

I was just super chill but I realized that by standing in my own spot and wearing a suit, I'd made myself:
a) Stand Out
b) Interesting as hell

I did some things naturally that I have to focus on doing now like being vague about my job, not caring about what she thinks, knowing that i'm in a suit and I look like I own property and shit.

Anyway, I'm about to do coffee shop game all week, it's been a while and I'm..actually I'm kinda anxious about it but fuck it, that'll go away. I might do one of those approach threads...

[Donkey_Riding]

(08-18-2014 02:24 PM)robreke Wrote:  

How to best approach and engage these moving beauties who are just in to grab a coffee and leave?

If she's just going in and out, she won't be receptive to a leisurely chat. Therefore, your approach has to be more like street game rather than coffee shop game. So, either do Roosh's "pet store" opener, or just go for direct game and "kill momentum" with a Krauser approach (see Daygame Nitro).

[iceman111011]

so today I met a cute 7 at a coffee shop. she came on my side to charge her computer and I opened by asking questions about her machine...it went quite well as we started discussing about her studies etc and then she made a comment about my tshirt...I almost chatted with her for about 20 mins I think and in the end ran out of conversation...so I asked her if she wants to hang out sometime and didn't ask her for her number...she said that we can chat here sometime in the future...I said alright and then left the place...
Do you guys think I should have asked for her number...well we did really have a good conversation but I don't know if my closing line wasn't good enough. I did get a bit nervous in the end. and I feel I always eject before asking the number which really sucks.

[robreke]

(08-26-2014 04:32 PM)iceman111011 Wrote:  

so today I met a cute 7 at a coffee shop. she came on my side to charge her computer and I opened by asking questions about her machine...it went quite well as we started discussing about her studies etc and then she made a comment about my tshirt...I almost chatted with her for about 20 mins I think and in the end ran out of conversation...so I asked her if she wants to hang out sometime and didn't ask her for her number...she said that we can chat here sometime in the future...I said alright and then left the place...
Do you guys think I should have asked for her number...well we did really have a good conversation but I don't know if my closing line wasn't good enough. I did get a bit nervous in the end. and I feel I always eject before asking the number which really sucks.

Had a girl pull this with me in a coffee shop a few weeks ago. It's a BS text/deflect. Actually this chick I talked to said "uhhh I have a I have a boyfriend" I said..."how about just an innocent cup of coffee" She countered with, "when we see each other again here, we'll have that cup of coffee"

So, I would say in your situation, you should have playfully pushed it with something like " That sounds great but let's not leave it to chance....here put your info in here...I'll text you sometime"

[robreke]

(08-26-2014 05:24 PM)robreke Wrote:  

(08-26-2014 04:32 PM)iceman111011 Wrote:  

so today I met a cute 7 at a coffee shop. she came on my side to charge her computer and I opened by asking questions about her machine...it went quite well as we started discussing about her studies etc and then she made a comment about my tshirt...I almost chatted with her for about 20 mins I think and in the end ran out of conversation...so I asked her if she wants to hang out sometime and didn't ask her for her number...she said that we can chat here sometime in the future...I said alright and then left the place...
Do you guys think I should have asked for her number...well we did really have a good conversation but I don't know if my closing line wasn't good enough. I did get a bit nervous in the end. and I feel I always eject before asking the number which really sucks.

Had a girl pull this with me in a coffee shop a few weeks ago. It's a BS refusual to give number/deflect. Actually this chick I talked to said "uhhh I have a boyfriend" I said..."how about just an innocent cup of coffee" She countered with, "when we see each other again here, we'll have that cup of coffee"

So, I would say in your situation, you should have playfully pushed it with something like " That sounds great but let's not leave it to chance....here put your info in here...I'll text you sometime"

If she refuses this...or the boyfriend comeback....just say "okay cool...see you later" you want to push a little but not be way too pushy I think.

[iceman111011]

will give it a shot next time around...I always get nervous when I am about to go for the number close its so stupid...do you usually approach any girl away from your table or just sit around and wait for someone to show up close to you?

(08-26-2014 05:25 PM)robreke Wrote:  

(08-26-2014 05:24 PM)robreke Wrote:  

(08-26-2014 04:32 PM)iceman111011 Wrote:  

so today I met a cute 7 at a coffee shop. she came on my side to charge her computer and I opened by asking questions about her machine...it went quite well as we started discussing about her studies etc and then she made a comment about my tshirt...I almost chatted with her for about 20 mins I think and in the end ran out of conversation...so I asked her if she wants to hang out sometime and didn't ask her for her number...she said that we can chat here sometime in the future...I said alright and then left the place...
Do you guys think I should have asked for her number...well we did really have a good conversation but I don't know if my closing line wasn't good enough. I did get a bit nervous in the end. and I feel I always eject before asking the number which really sucks.

Had a girl pull this with me in a coffee shop a few weeks ago. It's a BS refusual to give number/deflect. Actually this chick I talked to said "uhhh I have a boyfriend" I said..."how about just an innocent cup of coffee" She countered with, "when we see each other again here, we'll have that cup of coffee"

So, I would say in your situation, you should have playfully pushed it with something like " That sounds great but let's not leave it to chance....here put your info in here...I'll text you sometime"

If she refuses this...or the boyfriend comeback....just say "okay cool...see you later" you want to push a little but not be way too pushy I think.

[robreke]

(08-26-2014 11:13 PM)iceman111011 Wrote:  

will give it a shot next time around...I always get nervous when I am about to go for the number close its so stupid...do you usually approach any girl away from your table or just sit around and wait for someone to show up close to you?

(08-26-2014 05:25 PM)robreke Wrote:  

(08-26-2014 05:24 PM)robreke Wrote:  

(08-26-2014 04:32 PM)iceman111011 Wrote:  

so today I met a cute 7 at a coffee shop. she came on my side to charge her computer and I opened by asking questions about her machine...it went quite well as we started discussing about her studies etc and then she made a comment about my tshirt...I almost chatted with her for about 20 mins I think and in the end ran out of conversation...so I asked her if she wants to hang out sometime and didn't ask her for her number...she said that we can chat here sometime in the future...I said alright and then left the place...
Do you guys think I should have asked for her number...well we did really have a good conversation but I don't know if my closing line wasn't good enough. I did get a bit nervous in the end. and I feel I always eject before asking the number which really sucks.

Had a girl pull this with me in a coffee shop a few weeks ago. It's a BS refusual to give number/deflect. Actually this chick I talked to said "uhhh I have a boyfriend" I said..."how about just an innocent cup of coffee" She countered with, "when we see each other again here, we'll have that cup of coffee"

So, I would say in your situation, you should have playfully pushed it with something like " That sounds great but let's not leave it to chance....here put your info in here...I'll text you sometime"

If she refuses this...or the boyfriend comeback....just say "okay cool...see you later" you want to push a little but not be way too pushy I think.

If she's sitting by herself doing something ( on laptop...reading) I will approach.

What I usually do is wait until I'm done doing what I'm doing...I'll be in there at least 20 minutes plus so if she's aware of me...she's comfortable that I'm just honestly doing work. Then, I will pack up and head out.....if she's sitting next to me...I'll remain sitting with my half packed up laptop and open her. If she's away from me, as I walk past her to leave I will slow and pretend to notice her prop ( laptop , iphone, book ) and slow down so she may notice me staring at her prop.

Then, I will say "excuse me, is that a good laptop/ that the new iphone/ that a good book?" I'll remain standing and let her talk about it. I ask follow up questions. I'll usually let her know the reason I'm asking. eg. " yeah...I've been thinking about getting an apple laptop...I still have this old thing ( I have a non apple laptop )....or "yeah, I've been thinking about getting the iphone...all my friends have them ( I have a Samsung cell and most girls have apple products...so it's a good seque ) Then....just make comments and game from there. Depending on receptivity, you can sit and continue gaming. I got most of this from reading Day Bang. You should read it.