So, this is my first post on the forum. Few thing about me, I am 26 years old Caucasian 6'2 blonde(more like Slavic appearance, not the Scandinavian one), Face decent, maybe a bit above average but nothing special, skinny body, not much of muscle mass. I would say my game is basically non existent, I haven't really worked on it, what worked for my so far in SEA nightclubs is that most of the times i get some attention, and from there it's really easy to seal the deal. Not much success in Europe for example.
My background: I am working for the last months as a cabin crew in a famous middle eastern airline. That gives me the opportunity to be very often in places like Phuket, Bangkok, Jakarta and Manila. These are my main gaming destinations, and most of the months i manage to get all of them, usually staying for just 1-2 days but that's enough for me to go to the local nightlife. So, while I tried a lot of times the nightlife in Bangkok,Phuket and to a lesser extent Manila, with great success(especially a night out in Bangkok is almost guaranteed success) I never tried Jakarta nightlife before. So yesterday I had this layover on a Saturday night and decided to give it a try, as a lot of you guys describe Jakarta as a poosy paradise, and even easier than Thailand or Philippines
How it went
I start at around 12 in a place called Swillhouse, which was quite a disappointment, almost empty dance floor, people weren't dancing. Outside of the club I saw two girls, and the one(18yr old Scottish-Indonesian) she said hey to me(she was very tipsy tho) and then i start making a conversation. We talk for half an hour (her friend was Indonesian extremely shy, barely talked) and while i had no real interest on her, i thought i can stick with them for a while so I ease myself at the club and not wandering alone. Then she recommends there is a better place across the street and to go with them.
So we enter this place called Zoo, much better vibe, packed dance floor, cool music. We go to the bar ordering and I saw some girls looking at me, didnt open them as I had my new friends and we just entered, so I thought let's wait a bit. As we go to the dance floor It was kinda weird cause their body language changed completely they were dancing by themselves and i was feeling like i was alone there. After 10 minutes they tell me they're going to the toilet, and to wait them, and they never got back. Damn, that was weird, i wasn't touchy or flirting with them, so I didn't understand it. I was having fun in the crowd, then I see a girl barely a 5, looking at me, I ignore her for a bit, then she's telling me are you alone? Come and join us, I thought whatever, much better than standing alone. There were some cool guys, 2 Indonesians, one Singaporean and one American girl living in Singapore, not my type but whatever these guys were fun. Then they recommend an underground place with techno music that stays open till late, I thought okay why not let's go. This guy had a nice car and drove us there, looks like these dudes had money.
We arrive on this techno place and I thought wow it's impossible to not get laid here. I have to. I could see some stares from the girls here and there, but for now i was sticking to my group. Finally i go to a girl that was looking at me, we talk and then she asks for a drink (this is a huge red flag, unless you're into p2p, Run). At that point i ask her to go home with me to see her reaction, she says how much? I left her. Looking for my friends, and they nowhere to be found, they left the place I guess. I'm going for another girl, again same story, asks for money. Damn, I didn't expect such a p2p scene in Indonesia. Looked worse than Phuket at that point. My confidence is starting to leaving me at that point, yet I go order a drink and chat with a girl. She turns out to be a flight attendant for a local company, we chat a bit, but there was no sexual vibe and then she's telling me i will go home with my friends. Okay. I open another girl and she's throwing her friend to me, a cute 21 petite girl she seemed very into me, holding my hand telling me how handsome i am, then i recommend her to go dance in the dancefloor she's like nah i wanna stay with my friends. I continue chatting a bit more, she's telling me sorry i will sit with my friends. Another really weird moment, she completely changed attitude instantly. So the place starts getting emptier it's already 5am and I'm thinking to call it a night. Then i have a group of 3 girls in a table staring and smiling at me, I approach they look excited, one of them was particularly into me, they even asked me to take a photo of me and them. The party was over at that point, they asked me where im staying, and said okay let's take a taxi together to your place. At that point i was pretty sure, that the girl is coming to my place, otherwise why would we ever take a taxi all together. So we get into the taxi me and the 3 of them we arrive in my hotel and they say goodbye. Im so confused, i ask the girl if she wants to come with me, but she was very reluctant, she said no I'm sorry, the next time you will come for sure. Fast forward to next day, we go for a coffee on a nearby mall with that girl, ended up in my hotel but I didn't have the time to get the bang, i need to get ready for my flight, if i had one more hour it was a sure thing. Anyway she was nothing special, barely a 6.
So all things considered, I was very disappointed by that night, it honestly was one of my worst nights in Sea's nightlife. I tried so many local places, where honestly the competition was very low(there were some foreigners, but not the young Aussie guys, I'm talking about some Italians in their 50's) and yeah I feel like i definitely stood up. Despite that, I felt like there was a wall i was hitting every time i was trying to. It might be that I was solo for most of the time, and social proof is a big thing. It also affects my confidence in a big way, I'm not the same person as being with a group I'm comfortable with, and people can sense this. Despite that, few days ago, i rolled solo in Phuket's Bangla road and got laid with the first girl I talked with. Same with khaosan road. Manila as well looks so much easier than Jakarta and the girls are not too conservative.
I was wondering if anyone can share recent experiences from Jakarta, and how it is compared to Thailand and Philippines. After all, It might be as well that I was just unlucky that night, I don't wanna judge this place just by this experience
My background: I am working for the last months as a cabin crew in a famous middle eastern airline. That gives me the opportunity to be very often in places like Phuket, Bangkok, Jakarta and Manila. These are my main gaming destinations, and most of the months i manage to get all of them, usually staying for just 1-2 days but that's enough for me to go to the local nightlife. So, while I tried a lot of times the nightlife in Bangkok,Phuket and to a lesser extent Manila, with great success(especially a night out in Bangkok is almost guaranteed success) I never tried Jakarta nightlife before. So yesterday I had this layover on a Saturday night and decided to give it a try, as a lot of you guys describe Jakarta as a poosy paradise, and even easier than Thailand or Philippines
How it went
I start at around 12 in a place called Swillhouse, which was quite a disappointment, almost empty dance floor, people weren't dancing. Outside of the club I saw two girls, and the one(18yr old Scottish-Indonesian) she said hey to me(she was very tipsy tho) and then i start making a conversation. We talk for half an hour (her friend was Indonesian extremely shy, barely talked) and while i had no real interest on her, i thought i can stick with them for a while so I ease myself at the club and not wandering alone. Then she recommends there is a better place across the street and to go with them.
So we enter this place called Zoo, much better vibe, packed dance floor, cool music. We go to the bar ordering and I saw some girls looking at me, didnt open them as I had my new friends and we just entered, so I thought let's wait a bit. As we go to the dance floor It was kinda weird cause their body language changed completely they were dancing by themselves and i was feeling like i was alone there. After 10 minutes they tell me they're going to the toilet, and to wait them, and they never got back. Damn, that was weird, i wasn't touchy or flirting with them, so I didn't understand it. I was having fun in the crowd, then I see a girl barely a 5, looking at me, I ignore her for a bit, then she's telling me are you alone? Come and join us, I thought whatever, much better than standing alone. There were some cool guys, 2 Indonesians, one Singaporean and one American girl living in Singapore, not my type but whatever these guys were fun. Then they recommend an underground place with techno music that stays open till late, I thought okay why not let's go. This guy had a nice car and drove us there, looks like these dudes had money.
We arrive on this techno place and I thought wow it's impossible to not get laid here. I have to. I could see some stares from the girls here and there, but for now i was sticking to my group. Finally i go to a girl that was looking at me, we talk and then she asks for a drink (this is a huge red flag, unless you're into p2p, Run). At that point i ask her to go home with me to see her reaction, she says how much? I left her. Looking for my friends, and they nowhere to be found, they left the place I guess. I'm going for another girl, again same story, asks for money. Damn, I didn't expect such a p2p scene in Indonesia. Looked worse than Phuket at that point. My confidence is starting to leaving me at that point, yet I go order a drink and chat with a girl. She turns out to be a flight attendant for a local company, we chat a bit, but there was no sexual vibe and then she's telling me i will go home with my friends. Okay. I open another girl and she's throwing her friend to me, a cute 21 petite girl she seemed very into me, holding my hand telling me how handsome i am, then i recommend her to go dance in the dancefloor she's like nah i wanna stay with my friends. I continue chatting a bit more, she's telling me sorry i will sit with my friends. Another really weird moment, she completely changed attitude instantly. So the place starts getting emptier it's already 5am and I'm thinking to call it a night. Then i have a group of 3 girls in a table staring and smiling at me, I approach they look excited, one of them was particularly into me, they even asked me to take a photo of me and them. The party was over at that point, they asked me where im staying, and said okay let's take a taxi together to your place. At that point i was pretty sure, that the girl is coming to my place, otherwise why would we ever take a taxi all together. So we get into the taxi me and the 3 of them we arrive in my hotel and they say goodbye. Im so confused, i ask the girl if she wants to come with me, but she was very reluctant, she said no I'm sorry, the next time you will come for sure. Fast forward to next day, we go for a coffee on a nearby mall with that girl, ended up in my hotel but I didn't have the time to get the bang, i need to get ready for my flight, if i had one more hour it was a sure thing. Anyway she was nothing special, barely a 6.
So all things considered, I was very disappointed by that night, it honestly was one of my worst nights in Sea's nightlife. I tried so many local places, where honestly the competition was very low(there were some foreigners, but not the young Aussie guys, I'm talking about some Italians in their 50's) and yeah I feel like i definitely stood up. Despite that, I felt like there was a wall i was hitting every time i was trying to. It might be that I was solo for most of the time, and social proof is a big thing. It also affects my confidence in a big way, I'm not the same person as being with a group I'm comfortable with, and people can sense this. Despite that, few days ago, i rolled solo in Phuket's Bangla road and got laid with the first girl I talked with. Same with khaosan road. Manila as well looks so much easier than Jakarta and the girls are not too conservative.
I was wondering if anyone can share recent experiences from Jakarta, and how it is compared to Thailand and Philippines. After all, It might be as well that I was just unlucky that night, I don't wanna judge this place just by this experience