Hello RooshV Forum,
This is my first post here, and I really appreciate the community you all have created. I’m reaching out for some advice about a situation with my coworker and friend. A bit of background: she’s divorced and has three kids, while I’ve been in a committed relationship with my partner for over 20 years. Here’s what’s been happening:
A few months ago, my coworker suddenly started messaging me daily. She’d send “good morning” and “good night” messages every day without fail. At work, she would even send texts like “enjoy your lunch” or “bon appétit” during our lunch breaks. She also added me on all social media platforms where I noticed she has very few friends. She explained that after her pregnancy, she chose to step back from social life for a while.
We started going out—to the movies, dinner, and events we both enjoy. She’s pretty constant in reaching out to me, and she knows about my long-term partner (they’ve actually met). One day, she even joked, “If I could, I’d set you up in a place of your own,” to which I playfully replied that houses should be shared with a partner. She just blushed.
She often shares music with me and asks me to send songs back, and at the beginning of 2024, she even asked me to share the first song of the year with her. Honestly, I haven’t made a move because the fact that she has three kids gives me pause. But I have to admit, I’m starting to feel drawn to her, and her attention has made me feel something new.
At times, she’s a bit distant, which confuses me. My current partner and I have been together since we were young; we’re each other’s firsts, and this situation has me questioning things in a way I never expected. My coworker and I have even held hands while walking home, and I’m intrigued by the idea of an adventure with her, though I’m unsure if I should make a move or if she’s just being kind.
Any advice on how to handle this? I’d appreciate your insights!
This is my first post here, and I really appreciate the community you all have created. I’m reaching out for some advice about a situation with my coworker and friend. A bit of background: she’s divorced and has three kids, while I’ve been in a committed relationship with my partner for over 20 years. Here’s what’s been happening:
A few months ago, my coworker suddenly started messaging me daily. She’d send “good morning” and “good night” messages every day without fail. At work, she would even send texts like “enjoy your lunch” or “bon appétit” during our lunch breaks. She also added me on all social media platforms where I noticed she has very few friends. She explained that after her pregnancy, she chose to step back from social life for a while.
We started going out—to the movies, dinner, and events we both enjoy. She’s pretty constant in reaching out to me, and she knows about my long-term partner (they’ve actually met). One day, she even joked, “If I could, I’d set you up in a place of your own,” to which I playfully replied that houses should be shared with a partner. She just blushed.
She often shares music with me and asks me to send songs back, and at the beginning of 2024, she even asked me to share the first song of the year with her. Honestly, I haven’t made a move because the fact that she has three kids gives me pause. But I have to admit, I’m starting to feel drawn to her, and her attention has made me feel something new.
At times, she’s a bit distant, which confuses me. My current partner and I have been together since we were young; we’re each other’s firsts, and this situation has me questioning things in a way I never expected. My coworker and I have even held hands while walking home, and I’m intrigued by the idea of an adventure with her, though I’m unsure if I should make a move or if she’s just being kind.
Any advice on how to handle this? I’d appreciate your insights!
