I have found a foreign virgin from a good family, and I am already reaching the twilight of my game career. She seems like a good prospect for marriage of the type I won't find easily again so I've decided I'll try to angle it in that direction. I'm around a couple of months in, I've taken her virginity already and she is falling in love with me.
Here is the problem. As I have done with every girl all my life (I never took them seriously), I lied from the start about several key things: My name, age, occupation, nationality and background. I am confident I can keep these lies going as long as necessary. Obviously if I had known it was going to be a long term prospect I wouldn't have lied but I did so now I have to deal with it.
If it is going to lead toward marriage she has to find out the truth eventually. I am not keen to do any reveals until she is deeply pairbonded and I have her by the balls completely. Another problem obviously is that once it gets serious she will tell her family about me and it will be even harder to get out of the pickle, but telling her now before she is deeply pairbonded may be in itself a great risk.
However here is the crux of the matter: What is the smartest way to reveal these things to her? The most intelligent way to maximize damage control. I'm thinking perhaps I can wait until I propose to her and she is deeply pairbonded then make the reveals (come up with some excuses) and the positive/negative emotions will make her leaving me less likely. Another idea I had is to perhaps make the reveals gradually, plant seeds etc.
If you were in this situation and had to come up with a really really smart way of doing this to maximize the chances of a good outcome, what would it be?
EDIT: The motivation for these lies in the first place were prior convictions and history she could have found by googling me. They were necessary in order to be in this position in the first place, and I have used them from the start of my game career to great effect. A girl is more likely to overlook these things if deeply in love with you than on the first conversation (in short flings it doesn't matter, and I have even had LTRs that I wasn't going to marry where I kept the lies going for years). I am not so much worried about her criticizing my past convictions (a girl in love doesn't care about this), but it will be a huge shock to her my name and background were lies. That is why I need an intelligent way to make these reveals.
Here is the problem. As I have done with every girl all my life (I never took them seriously), I lied from the start about several key things: My name, age, occupation, nationality and background. I am confident I can keep these lies going as long as necessary. Obviously if I had known it was going to be a long term prospect I wouldn't have lied but I did so now I have to deal with it.
If it is going to lead toward marriage she has to find out the truth eventually. I am not keen to do any reveals until she is deeply pairbonded and I have her by the balls completely. Another problem obviously is that once it gets serious she will tell her family about me and it will be even harder to get out of the pickle, but telling her now before she is deeply pairbonded may be in itself a great risk.
However here is the crux of the matter: What is the smartest way to reveal these things to her? The most intelligent way to maximize damage control. I'm thinking perhaps I can wait until I propose to her and she is deeply pairbonded then make the reveals (come up with some excuses) and the positive/negative emotions will make her leaving me less likely. Another idea I had is to perhaps make the reveals gradually, plant seeds etc.
If you were in this situation and had to come up with a really really smart way of doing this to maximize the chances of a good outcome, what would it be?
EDIT: The motivation for these lies in the first place were prior convictions and history she could have found by googling me. They were necessary in order to be in this position in the first place, and I have used them from the start of my game career to great effect. A girl is more likely to overlook these things if deeply in love with you than on the first conversation (in short flings it doesn't matter, and I have even had LTRs that I wasn't going to marry where I kept the lies going for years). I am not so much worried about her criticizing my past convictions (a girl in love doesn't care about this), but it will be a huge shock to her my name and background were lies. That is why I need an intelligent way to make these reveals.