Quote: (05-13-2019 06:17 AM)Going strong Wrote:
Quote: (05-13-2019 05:29 AM)Bienvenuto Wrote:
I'm in rural Vietnam.
That face that people make when they see a dead body or a hideous car wreck, just expressionless staring. Thats what me and the girls I've been out with here get.
People slow their bikes down and stare.
Old men come up within a couple of feet of my dates' faces.
Get food thrown at us.
Insults thrown.
You'd have to provide background here, please. What is your ethnicity (or appearance), to "elicit" such a level of antagonist xenophobic reaction?
Personally I am White and dress conservatively, normal haircut, have no tattoo and speak politely to everybody, employees or servers included, so, I have never experienced any racism from the quiet and polite Vietnamese people.
Granted I was not in "very provincial" Vietnam, but still, I have been to 2d tier cities with Vietnamese women and with no problem. In any case, can you give us more details? What infuriates local people so much, PDA or some?
Like you I am White and dress conservatively, normal haircut, have no tattoo and speak politely to everybody, employees or servers included.
This is not the 1st or 2nd tier, this is proper "very provincial" Vietnam...
but you know to be honest mileage varies, I know of plenty of rows that I wasn't present at in HCMC (where I've had nothing but positive experiences in general) - they can be just as racist there.
I know of people getting acid attacked, dogs poisoned or set on fire, my female neighbours near HCMC were relentlessly sexually harrassed. I had to step in sometimes.
But where I am is old school Vietnam and they're not always hostile, they can be very friendly but a foreigner is an aberration to them.
A westerner with a bona fide local girl?
They are not always hostile.. but they are shocked. They might as well see a nuclear power station explode in the distance in front of them.
Their world is unhinged.
But its not just life for white people..local people are regularly getting shot and killed here. People are getting hospitalised over local drama.
Heroin od's are regular.
Government corruption off the scale.
A "massage" parlour on every corner in the town centre.
My neighbours are always best of mates then the next minute are having massive rows in the dirt street.
Its life in the provinces. Gotta dodge Buffalo and hunting dogs on those dirt roads.
And then the fuckwits with gold teeth, Gucci caps and the latest iPhones are yelling at the waitresses back in town. An actual tall, well dressed foreigner walks in? The entire world of those malevolent gammas just turned upside down.
I just ignore them.
And then, yes, plenty of good, polite and decent people. But they won't lift a finger to help when the foreigner is being harassed.
I dunno.. I followed the forum on test injections. Complained that the 'reliable' places in Bangkok to get test weren't delivering. Turned out I was right. Managed to source some test in the end.
Didn't stop me from getting private messages from people I didn't know saying that I was obviously "creepy", obviously a beta and obviously had a "loser vibe". That was why pharmacies that don't stock test, didn't stock test.
Mileage is going to vary.
The relevance for OP is that the sweet or sassy local girls are not going to want to turn their worlds upside down by dating a foreign guy who maybe has good looks or good game.
The social backdrop makes a big difference.
Nnja edit: would not ever do PDA with a local girl. Strictly polite distance.
White guy I know dated a hill-tribe girl, stylish, educated ethnic girl. Neighbours and landlord were so angered that they went to his house as a group and involved the police. he stood his ground but there was a lot of talking and meetings with various different parties before they would allow him to have her back to his again unharassed.