[whatitdowhatitdoes]

Not sure if this has been discussed but I just wanted some feedback from anyone on the forum that may have been in my shoes previous

I am 28 and basically ran through enough girls that I am at peace with the idea of settling down and finding a legit girl

I won't drone on but the crux of it is this - I am finding myself in the situation where I have to chose between a girl that's "like me" or a "good girl" ....its really hard to quantify but I'll just illustrate with an example, two girls I am currently talking to, one has been a fuck buddy of mine for years, I fucked her on the first date, and I know she's basically a slut....but she has her masters in occupational therapy, comes from a good home, voted for Trump, and we just "click" ...we think a lot alike...but she has an edge and isn't a "good girl" , used to party and do coke etc. ...she's not like a horrendous prospect to get serious with but she's just not "ideal"

Then you have this other girl who is by all means nice, sweet, she is a babysitter and works part time at the hallmark store (lol) and is in college for human resources...she is your typical good girl, goes to church, dainty, blah blah blah and is literally obsessed with me but won't sleep with me unless we are dating ....if I had to create a "good girl" in a laboratory she would be it but there isn't that "click" I have with the other girl

So just curious if you guys have come across a similar situation where you had a girl that was more like your bro and you just genuinely enjoyed her company vs a girl that would be a great mother to your kids but she's just kind of annoying and corny sometimes haha

Sorry for the rambling nature of this post and any comments or insight would be great

[Manfred Libido]

Faced a similiar situation in my life recently and I'm grateful to never have to make that decision: The "good girl" left me for my over-the-top behaviour, so I took the girl who I "click" more sexually with.

[Donfitz007]

1. Newbie section
2. I would choose the good girl every time. No telling what virtues and values the girl you like might teach your child if you planning on having one. Plus overtime dealing with a reformed slut wears on you.
3. GIrls turn into whole different monsters once you had sex with them. The good girl may not be so good after you gave her what she wants.

[Joga Bonito]

I honestly don’t think a girl that dangles sex as a manipulation tactic to rope you into commitment is a good girl. Don’t fall for the act, as she’s already showing her hand. Continuing to explore other options doesn’t seem like a bad idea in this case, while you keep the others in tow.

[Conquistador]

This is similar to what woman go through. They want the guy they're attracted to to be the guy they settle down with. Men have Alpha-Beta traits, and women have Madonna Whore traits, which are sometimes dichotomies, and sometimes spectrums depending on the person. The girls that would make good wives often don't look too hot, are boring, and are not really into sex. The women that are good for sex...Of course I'm generalizing, but you get the gist.

Since you say that you got promiscuity out of your system, I would choose the "good" girl. The problem with this is is that you will likely get bored, and possibly cheat on her. The problem with getting with your fuck buddy is that she will likely cheat on you, and or leave you when she's bored. Maybe I'm too cynical, but I think it's a matter of choosing the least bad option.

[Checkmat]

(04-29-2019 05:58 PM)Joga Bonito Wrote:  

I honestly don’t think a girl that dangles sex as a manipulation tactic to rope you into commitment is a good girl. Don’t fall for the act, as she’s already showing her hand. Continuing to explore other options doesn’t seem like a bad idea in this case, while you keep the others in tow.

Lmao I fucked my last girl on the first date but I saw texts from her to other guys, before me, who she was telling "I told you we're not having sex until we are dating"

[PapayaTapper]

[Greyman]

(04-29-2019 03:20 PM)Manfred Libido Wrote:  

Faced a similiar situation in my life recently and I'm grateful to never have to make that decision: The "good girl" left me for my over-the-top behaviour, so I took the girl who I "click" more sexually with.

Uhhhh you didn't 'take' amigo...

You ended up with... from the sounds of it.

Petty vernacular maybe, but I had a gf that used that same wording to both imply its both just the way the situation played out...AND a positive choice made decision...and it rankles the shit outta me.

Youre on a proactive and accountable mens forum sir.

To which I'd question, what do you want? Is the sexual "click" good enough because its easier than getting what you may really want and are being lazy?

Sincere question. I'd fully expect you/anyone here to issue a similar challenge to me fyi. I want to learn more.