[amistod]

I feel safe posting this after reading a few of the end game threads.. Quite a few of you are planning on settling down with various degrees of monogamy.

I really enjoy reading relationship game articles and a recent on Roissy talked about "Leading by Example". He claims that this is the best way to make sure your relationship stays on track and doesn't erode via fat/worthless/contempt.

For those of you planning on having some form of LTR, even if you are years away from it, what do you plan on doing? You can't very well expect to eat like shit and have it not effect your LTR, etc.

I think one of the most obvious things for me is learning to cook together. This should take care of some of the lazy and fat tendencies we develop.

As the winter hits and we 'mini relationship up', I am interested to hear what you guys have up your sleeves.

[Smitty]

(10-11-2011 03:48 PM)amistod Wrote:  

I feel safe posting this after reading a few of the end game threads.. Quite a few of you are planning on settling down with various degrees of monogamy.

I really enjoy reading relationship game articles and a recent on Roissy talked about "Leading by Example". He claims that this is the best way to make sure your relationship stays on track and doesn't erode via fat/worthless/contempt.

For those of you planning on having some form of LTR, even if you are years away from it, what do you plan on doing? You can't very well expect to eat like shit and have it not effect your LTR, etc.

I think one of the most obvious things for me is learning to cook together. This should take care of some of the lazy and fat tendencies we develop.

As the winter hits and we 'mini relationship up', I am interested to hear what you guys have up your sleeves.

I can tell you from experience it's not just about learning to cook, but learning about food in general. You can find the many threads on here about eating whole, unprocessed (clean) foods. I have not dated a woman in the last ten years who was not influenced by my healthy lifestyle. They always feel like shit ordering the chili fries if you're just having a piece of salmon. If you're working out and looking good, there's a good chance she will too. The only downside I've experienced is when the douchebags can't keep with the discipline needed and they start slipping and gaining weight. They will get pissed at you for it as if you are acting better than them just because you are disciplined (women are irrational).
Bottom line, I very much believe in leading by example -- it replaces you having to tell the woman she is getting fat because she'll know it and feel it when she sees you staying in shape.

But, and this is the important part, do NOT stay in shape and eat healthy just to influence your woman. You need to do it for yourself and only for yourself. Having her follow suit is a secondary effect (benefit) but there is no love stronger than the disgust for a fat woman, so the moment she gets fat, get rid of her. I don't care how much you think you love her.

[Pusscrook]

(10-11-2011 03:48 PM)amistod Wrote:  

For those of you planning on having some form of LTR, even if you are years away from it, what do you plan on doing? You can't very well expect to eat like shit and have it not effect your LTR, etc.

I would hope that the woman one wants to have an LTR with/marry, will at least have some of the basic points of how to cook healthy foods , and, enjoy cooking. If she can't cook, what is the point of even bringing up cooking healthy foods? If she isn't into health, what is the point of bringing up "eating healthy"? When it comes to eating healthy, women who are into health and maintaining a healthy body, usually will have no problem with the meals you desire. Those who are used to cooking with lard, engine grease, and anything else that could stick to your guts for a week, will certainly scoff at the thought of all things "healthy" . Hopefully, you would have pre-screened the whore prior to any such commitment , thereby limiting the stress of having to lead by example in a kitchen.