[BronzedAussie]

I am a 53 year old man who is currently seeing a 26 year old woman.

I have been divorced for 2 years and have only dated women around my age. This is the first time I'm dating a younger woman. I have 3 adult children in their twenties (she is same age as my kids)


I met this woman at my gym as I'm trying to get back in shape. She is drop-dead gorgeous, mixed-race and was flirting with me so I approach and got her number, she was very receptive.

This was 2 weeks ago and we have been texting back and forth and had a coffee date yesterday.


She told me that she is "more or less exclusively into older guys". Her father died when she was 4, so she was raised by a widowed mother and had absolutely zero male influence or role-model growing up.


I have 2 questions


1) In this situation, how do I escalate to sex with her? I've been out of the game for years and don't know how to game young women


2) Do you suggest keeping things casual with her or is a long-term relationship viable?
Are her possible daddy-issues a red-flag? please sate reasons

[kinjutsu]

Nice moves btw.

1. You escalate normally. Make sure your logistics are solid. Have her meet you are your place and then leave to the activity from your house. That way when you've gotten her excited and slightly turned on you come back to your place and start kissing her, touching her body etc. Have condoms/lube on stand by. The rest is history.

2. What do you want to happen with this girl? Since you are older, she's expecting you to know what to do and have everything under control. Its up to you here brother.
Make the most of it.

[Montrose]

There is no fundamental reason why a LTR with a 27 year difference wouldn’t work. I have dated girls 20 and 24 years younger than me for several years. Problems may arise if she wants to settle down and have kids, because you will be around 60. Also problems with your or her social circle.

[BronzedAussie]

(02-07-2019 02:16 AM)Montrose Wrote:  

Problems may arise if she wants to settle down and have kids, because you will be around 60. Also problems with your or her social circle.

I get the feeling that she does want marriage and kids, she seems like that type of girl.

I have enquired about what her friends think and she said she doesn't care what others think in general.

[kaotic]

Don't ask for her friends approval.

You shouldn't give a shit what others think, you're allowed to be happy and date whatever girl you find suitable.

A young hot girl isn't the issue, it's all in your head.

She's got daddy issues, obviously cause her dad died at a young age, so she seeks solace in older men.

kinjutsu's first step is perfect


But that last thing you need to worry about is if she wants kids and marriage.

Take her out, show her a good time, fuck her good, keep having fun, don't worry about that other shit right now.

Fuck her first.

[flyinghorse]

I hope she's got daddy issues.

[AntoniusofEfa]

(02-07-2019 02:20 AM)BronzedAussie Wrote:  

(02-07-2019 02:16 AM)Montrose Wrote:  

Problems may arise if she wants to settle down and have kids, because you will be around 60. Also problems with your or her social circle.

I get the feeling that she does want marriage and kids, she seems like that type of girl.

I have enquired about what her friends think and she said she doesn't care what others think in general.

20 years is nothing. Look at Mick Jagger's latest girlfriend ( and the mother of his youngest child !). She is a 21 yearold ballet dancer.

[BronzedAussie]

I'm not Mick Jagger.

[RatInTheWoods]

Ask out for drinks, and search this forum for escalation tips.

Start with a drinks date and see how it goes.

There's no reason she can't be your LTR and for you not to bang her, other than whats in your head.

[crispytaco]

I dated a girl about 24 years younger ( 20 - 44). Same thing, Her.father died.
As for now, it was one of the best experiences I ever had. She also wanted a long term relationship, but we live in different coumtries.
Go ahead

[Conclusion013]

Kaotic has it bang on, who cares what her friends think. I imagine your kids may have an opinion on it to, but who cares. On that point I think maintaining your frame and being decisive in your decisions is even more important when they are much younger. The whole reason they're into older men is because they want someone to lead. I still think you need to escalate sexually the same way you would anyone else, you might find she's even more compliant because of the age thing.

You're the older, more mature, more experienced one here so show it. Lead her in everything especially sexually.

[AntoniusofEfa]

(02-07-2019 04:43 AM)BronzedAussie Wrote:  

I'm not Mick Jagger.

Look up the posts by this reddit user :

https://www.reddit.com/user/VasiliyZaitzev

He made some ones specifically for older men dating younger women. I suspect that you have some internal barriers to break through. I am 100% certain about one thing: the ones who will show the most disdain to you will be women your age. Why? because they hate to see men date younger. Each guy to dates younger, reduces their own selection pool.

[DonnyGately]

My current LTR is almost exactly 24 years younger than me, we met as she was turning 21, dad is divorced and not really around and not nice to her. Age diff has never been an issue for us in public [or private].

Daddy issues ftw.

[Sooth]

My uncle has a friend that makes appearances at family events every other year. Almost every time he has a different girl with him who is considerably younger.

His tactic is to fend off the age difference comments with the rationalizations that you hear from women. He talks about star signs, destiny and how the universe acts in strange ways. Sometimes I have to turn away to hide my smirk.

Push back you get these days is out of jealousy. These people don't make noise because they're concerned about optimal partner pairing to create a healthy thriving society. They dislike it because it makes them feel bad about themselves.

[JackinMelbourne]

(02-07-2019 01:34 AM)BronzedAussie Wrote:  

I am a 53 year old man who is currently seeing a 26 year old woman.


She told me that she is "more or less exclusively into older guys". Her father died when she was 4, so she was raised by a widowed mother and had absolutely zero male influence or role-model growing up.

You can't lose! Be dominant and tell her what you want her to do. She wants to be taught. And then be caring and fatherly afterwards.

[BronzedAussie]

Hi everyone, here is a progress update.

At the time of this post me and this girl finished having sex an hour ago and she's snoozing in my bed, butt naked.


I took advice from posts and was strong and assertive with her which I noticed drove her wild and made her much more amenable.

She basically invited herself over to my home and offered to cook us dinner form starch, I was impressed with the results. She seems to have a domestic streak.

After the meal I used "assertive daddy game" and fucked her brains out, she loved it and called me "daddy" a few times during sex.

First time I've been with a young woman in years and it was certainly a treat.

Thanks for your help everyone.

[jokernot]

(02-07-2019 01:34 AM)BronzedAussie Wrote:  

I am a 53 year old man who is currently seeing a 26 year old woman.

Problem solved Congrats, just read your post after posting my comments:

I have nothing to offer here because I am not sure I understand the question. But you did remind me of something much more extreme I saw one time at a speed dating event. It was in a bar and I thought I could maybe find some chicks who were actively looking.

Anyway met a lot of not really my kind of women and most of them much older than I was looking for. Out of the corner of my eye I see this guy sitting at the bar eating olives and drinking something. He was not muscular but not fat. Did not seem to fill out his clothes very well but was not too skinny. I guess he was a runner. He was bald like waxed bald shining head, no beard. Cue ball all the way. And he was wrinkled something terrible like he was left out in the rain. Musta been at least 70 years old.

I'll be damned if he didn't chat up some 20 year old she was about a 5 or 6. Twenty minutes later the two of them left the bar together.

My bros in bang, what we should take away from this instance is it is all about capitalizing on the situation and being able to talk up chicks. This guy was dressed ok but he was far from dripping money, he looked kinda not real good, and yet he was able to fish a young girl out of there quickly. And he was like 50 years older than she was.

Don't give up hope. It's all about the game.

[JackinMelbourne]

(02-09-2019 08:37 AM)BronzedAussie Wrote:  

I took advice from posts

me and this girl finished having sex an hour ago

Thanks for your help everyone.

Excellent work and congrats!