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01-28-2019, 10:30 PM
Hey guys,
Flake = date was agreed upon, but then cancelled. Next date is pending or rescheduled or no go.
Drop-off = talking to a girl for a awhile but no reply back (sometimes this is probably my fault because I don't text these bitches back in a timely window--busy life)
I'm in Charlotte, NC. Not sure what the hell is going on, but I'm dealing with a high flake/drop-off rate, among ~15 girls I've talked too, 2-3 are serious date potentials, the rest are iffy. Of the 2-3, one girl I really want to bang so I guess quality over quantity. Most of the communication is over text.
My goal is try and seal the deal with more girls to go on dates. My opinion of myself is I'm a smooth talker, good openers, know how to progress the conversation, demonstrate some value, my closing is ok.
Any advice you guys have is much appreciated. I'll provide more info as needed.
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01-28-2019, 11:00 PM
Confidence, Masculinity and Physique is what matters in 2019.
Smooth talking, openings, kino, negs, the "your so pretty" comments don't.
We live in a ADHD generation controlled by smart phones, likes, tinder, and instagram, stop making dates more than 12 hours in advance or she'll find something more interesting to do than going out with her 1,000th dude. And if you do make a date, do something worth her "attention span".
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01-28-2019, 11:16 PM
Everything Linux said is correct.
Unfortunately, in my experience the flake rate is directly inverse to the value you brought to the table. In this case it's what Linux said.
Do more to maximize it and the ratio will decrease.
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01-29-2019, 01:13 AM
When did we get to the point where everything we do is about trying to prove we deserve her?
" do something worth her attention span" seriously?
Everything we do now has to be about catering to her?
Men have forgotten that women need us far more than we actually need them.
The value we bring to the table is simply that we're men. We are bigger, stronger, faster, smarter, we discover, invent, conquer, explore, think and do. Women do nothing and are capable of nothing. No matter how hot a chick is her "value" will never match that of a mans. They were created to cherish us and be used by us...not the other way around.
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01-29-2019, 07:22 AM
Quote: (01-29-2019 01:13 AM)Azlan Wrote:
No matter how hot a chick is her "value" will never match that of a mans.
The hamster is strong with this one, I see.
Listen bud, what JackInMelbourne said is 100% true - nobody needs anybody. The sooner you accept this, the sooner you can get to work building up yourself into a better, more attractive prospect.
Pussy ain't for pussies...
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01-29-2019, 07:50 PM
Update:
Guys I ended up dating the sexy cougar MILF I wanted the most. Happy with what I saw and cannot wait to bang her. Please give me some feedback and advice.
Date set over text. We meet up at a place and time of my choosing but convenient to both. She talked a lot, expressed interests in getting to know me and my background and it was mutual. The date lasted about 2 hours. Took her to a good place for dinner and drinks. I texted her can't wait to see the sexy dress.
Beginning of the date: Started off with a smile, hug, easy going conversation.
During the Date:
1) She commented that now her daughter is grown up she wants to travel and experience more things, I told her about my coming trip to Vegas and she took interest in my other trips and inquired.
2) I think I demonstrated a lot of high value, far more than any other options she probably has. She had said to me earlier "oh so you're a big money maker ;-)" and she complimented my car (end of date).
3) I did notice she had Tinder on her phone, she was showing me selfies she took of her hair. The fact that she has Tinder, but still made time to come date me--I thought was a positive indicator of my standing compared to other dudes.
4) I got her so comfortable she started sharing personal information about her job, career, daughter, family, etc.
5) She did 65% of the talking during the date, not a dull moment, made her laugh, and again I focused on making the connection strong and get her comfortable around me. Ice melted fast.
Towards the end of the date:She mentioned she was about 12 years older than me, but she said she cares more about the personality and maturity not age...She said I guess it's "in" that younger guys want to date older women.
We stood outside by her and mine car, I grabbed her by the shoulder pulled her close to me, rubbed her back as we talked outside, winding down the date. I did NOT grab her ass, although I badly wanted too-- I was thinking it could come off as unclassy and low value to do so outside a restaurant. She invited me to sit in her car and talk more.
After little more than 2 hours, I ENDED the date sending her off with a hug.
So with that said, please share any insights you guys have for me. One question I have is, how long should I wait to text her, or should I wait for her to text me? I am not 100% certain but it did not sound she'd be interested in more dates.
I hope after this date, she views me as a top high value sexual partner.
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01-29-2019, 08:18 PM
I forgot to mention. Not sure how but the topic of my bed came up. Told her I had a large comfy bed, she asked about the thread count lol
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01-30-2019, 02:53 AM
I've experienced much of the same, despite having almost all of the girls beaten by a mile in terms of both physique and socioeconomic status. I'm convinced that these women who are still single into their late 20's and beyond are, for the most part, fundamentally broken and incapable of appreciating a man, even one who would easily be considered "dating up" by any objective measure. Their conscious mind is telling them you're a good option, but their unconscious/emotional side can't bring itself to give a shit about you or anyone really.
What I've noticed is that the ones who flake are always the ones who weren't all that enthusiastic to begin with, which describes the overwhelming majority of those you'll come across. Stop using dating as a way to fill up your evenings, get involved with shit you actually enjoy, lose the "as long as she's responding it's GAME ON BRAH" mentality, and only focus on the ~5% of female prospects who actually show genuine interest in you. That is the only way to avoid serial flaking.
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01-30-2019, 03:23 AM
Quote: (01-29-2019 01:13 AM)Azlan Wrote:
When did we get to the point where everything we do is about trying to prove we deserve her?
" do something worth her attention span" seriously?
Everything we do now has to be about catering to her?
Men have forgotten that women need us far more than we actually need them.
The value we bring to the table is simply that we're men. We are bigger, stronger, faster, smarter, we discover, invent, conquer, explore, think and do. Women do nothing and are capable of nothing. No matter how hot a chick is her "value" will never match that of a mans. They were created to cherish us and be used by us...not the other way around.
^ This!
I agree with you %110. Funny I came across this post right now too because earlier today while driving back from a flake, I was thinking the exact same thing. And in the conversation I had with my analytical self, I realized the reason this happens is quite simple...
Supply and demand.
Just like oil prices, when oil producing countries flood the market with oil, prices go down. They go down because the value of oil becomes less. They reduce production=prices increase=oil more valuable.
You see... The market is flooded with dick. Dick has no value. It's easily attained. A women does not have to put much effort to get dick. Hell, if she's above 5, no effort is required. All she needs is a pulse.
Unless you change this dynamics and make dick harder to get, flakes are here to stay.
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04-13-2019, 10:11 AM
The flake rate continues to be bad, I have had over a dozen numbers but girls flaking out or making excuses "Can you pay for my uber?" "family situation", and other excuses or they go silent.
Talking to some other girls now (one is banging hot) I'll see what pans out. I think going out is too much effort for some women. One woman I met but she lives out of town I think she is in the bag, has openly told me she wants sex, problem is she lives 4 hours away so I would need to take a special trip to go visit her.
Suppose to have a date tonight with a MILF we'll see what happens.
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04-16-2019, 10:02 PM
I've definitely noticed that women grossly overestimate their options in the dating market.
When I look at what I bring to the table, in terms of income/looks/lifestyle/fitness/dress/etc there are only a sliver of guys who are in my situation.
I get ghosted/faded out regularly by five figure girls/students living in working class areas.
Their perception of having multitudes of guys like me as options is different than the reality. The statistics just don't back it up. It takes about 172k income to be in the top 1% of earners my age. Once you factor in not looking like an ugly chode, having some balls/game, and a dope lifestyle backing it up, statistically I am a lottery ticket for the majority of women who don't have six figure financial future.
Likewise, if I'm talking to 10 girls who are hot and low notch count, I know that I'd be lucky to grab one of them and make it work. There simply aren't enough of them for me to have full abundance.
It's the same thing with these women. They may be talking to ten guys like me-but it's like a game of musical chairs. Eventually guys are going to be taken off the market by themselves or other women. Most women in the 6-8 range are just not realistic with the type of guy they will eventually end up with.
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04-17-2019, 09:03 AM
I posted this in the Travel section but I think it's worth mentioning here too. I dated around 3 girls the last time I was in Warsaw. Two from Tinder, one from daygame. One of these girls I even went on a mini-break to Munich with, and all of them let me stay for a few days in their apartments when I needed a place to crash; trusting me in their place when they went to work.
I went away for about 2 months. I tried to maintain communication with them but I felt like it was always me initiating. When I returned last week they all expressed interest but ghosted or gave non-committal answers when the meet was suggested.
To reiterate, these were girls I ate with, travelled with, stayed with, and foolishly rawdogged - and precisely none had any inclination to see me again when I returned.
The flake / drop-out rate is real.
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04-20-2019, 10:41 AM
Update on post #15
The MILF and I actually dated last Saturday night, good conversation over drinks, went for a walk had my arm around her (the first few touches I like to think of as warming her up), then as we were walking I asked if she was hungry. I then decided to get Chinese food, we walked over to the Chinese takeout place grabbed food, but now we need a place to eat the food. So at first I suggested we find a place outside to eat, when that wasn't a possibility I then slyly said "We can just go eat this at my place, I'm like 5 mins away" she replied positively like 'yeah I'm down for that"... Long story short whole date time lasted 4 hours took her back to my place had dinner and pussy.
Since that night neither of us have texted each other LOL
At the end of the date I said "On a scale of 1-5 how good was it?" ... "I'm taking surveys"
The funny part is, there were dudes messaging her on her dating app while I was dating her and pounding her LOL those dudes have no idea.
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04-20-2019, 02:45 PM
Ah got it. Well I think the point still stands about the hug close, but it sounds like your making improvements.