[Mr. Bigglesworth]

I’m sure that most dudes who read this forum are into the self-improvement and player life styles like I am too. This type of lifestyle leads you to being the guy that many women would deem “a catch”.

Recently though I’ve starting thinking and have concerns about dealing with chicks the next 5-10 years (25 now). Many of you probably want to be players forever but I’m starting to want to settle down and have a family.

Let’s pretend that you’re the type of guy that most women would love to marry. Tall, handsome, in shape, charismatic, wealthy, good friends and family. Pretty much every girl’s dream.

My question is how do you filter out the skanks who will lie about their past such as sexual past, drugs, etc.. basically hide their true nature just so they can try to pin you down.

Pretty much how do you defend against these sluts trying to pin you as a beta provider because of what you got going for you? Any screening techniques, advice, and tactics would be appreciated

It’s hard to explain what I’m trying to ask but if you’re picking up what I’m putting down please add your advice

[dknightbro]

Dress down.

[MongolianAbroad]

Don't mention any assets in your online profiles.

Doesn't always work, though, I'd been chatting with a girl for a few weeks, and then her sister sends me a friend request. I'm like, that's cool, no prob. Then the very first message her sister sends me are pictures of some properties I own, and she says, "I have a few questions." Apparently the sister had worked as a private investigator before and decided it was somehow not a breach of etiquette/lack of class to pull that stunt.

Insta-blocked both of them.

Also, any online profile that shows a girl that's 21 and under, traveling all over the place, instant next, a 21 and under girl can't afford to travel like that, which means she has sponsors or her family is loaded and spoils her. Sponsor is an automatic next, while if her family spoils her, it's an automatic next for me, as I don't spoil girls like that (they become spoiled if you do that, you see), but maybe some guys are cool with that kind of girl if they want to be her boy-toy/travel dildo in one scenario, or in another scenario, maybe they have so much wealth that her traveling budget is peanuts to them. In that case, I wouldn't really see an issue.

For me, I'm comfortable, but I'm not at the point where having a girlfriend that enjoys traveling everywhere is something I'd be willing to entertain. A guy that's in a higher financial echelon and perhaps actually into travel (I don't like traveling) might be more cool with that kind of girl, and it could work out.

Also, what does she do with her time. Does she make a living off of her looks? Tread very carefully, because those looks will fade, and then how will she make money? You, that's how, giddy up! She's going to be a burden on your back for the rest of your life. Now if she's kind/caring, it could be a doable exchange, like with more humble girls, but if she made a living off of her looks when you met here, humility is not too common (but it's possible).

If instead she studies her butt off and works crazy shifts, overtime, night shifts, for example, doing honorable work, and makes sure her parents are provided for, is thrifty when shopping for herself, then that's looking better. That girl's more likely to appreciate the value of a dollar in a good way, and to respect you for the work you put into your own success.

Look at her family and friends. Are her sisters/friends going to poison her mind, or be helpful towards your relationship? Because those folks will have her ear, and if they're poison, you gotta be real careful, real protective/insulating with her, or just next her if she's too susceptible to their influence.

[StrikeBack]

Check for signs of frugality and minimalism. If she has plenty of those traits, she's not in for an easy financial ride.

My wife is fully on board with my mindset on being minimalist and frugal. She still has no idea about any of my assets nor how much money I make, she doesn't care.

[JackinMelbourne]

Use time to your advantage. Just get to know them over time, hang out, bang, talk etc. They'll open up or slip up... it all comes out one way or another. Then you can decide if you want to continue or not. This secret technique has worked for thousands of years... and it has definitely worked for me.

The catch is that you need to be switched on and you sound like you're switched on.