Disclaimer:
The following are merely my observations and experiences from the years 2017 and 2018. I don’t know what Mexico used to be before that nor do I want to discourage anyone from trying their luck. Everyone’s experience may vary. If you’re willing to learn from someone who has spent over half a year in that country then feel free to read.
I spent most of my time in Mexico City and State of Mexico and brief periods around Nuevo Leon, Guerrero, Guanajuato, Queretaro and Quintana Roo.
This post will primarily focus on your chances of finding a girl for something more serious (e.g. girlfriend, wife or even the mother of your future kids). Mexico has always had a good reputation when it came to finding a family oriented girl who’d be viable for a potential wife. Or at least that’s the consensus on the internet. Tired of American girls? Go and get yourself a Mexican lady who’ll cook chicken pozole for you and make an excellent mom.
I won’t publish any data sheets about Mexico City and its surroundings since there’s already a lot of information on that. And at the end of the day I think every person’s CDMX experience will vary vastly since it’s such a gigantic maze in which everyone will lose themselves in a different way. There’s literally everything here: from rave parties in the forest to upscale night venues that will leave you speechless. But be careful: there are some places in Mexico City and even more places in the surrounding State of Mexico which should be avoided. I visited some of those colonias and municipios and they do indeed have a sketchy feel to it. Make sure to inform yourself about potential danger zones before you get there and always be aware of your location. A person who's slightly European looking will stick out like a sore thumb in areas like Ecatepec de Morelos or Chimalhuacan. All the upper scale Mexicans and even many Uber drivers avoid areas like these for good reasons.
Women:
In general the women are nothing to write home about in terms of looks. The vast majority are dark-skinned mestizas. They tend to be short with a square build and most of them carry some extra weight. The higher you move up on the social classes ladder the prettier and more European looking the girls will get. While most girls in Mexico are not very attractive, there's some extremely beautiful girls in the country. And if you pick the right spot for the night chances are you won't see any stocky or dark girls. So there's really different galaxies within a place like Mexico City itself. Pick wisely.
When it comes to their character traits, Mexican girls know how to make you feel good. They're generally not shy and when you get to know them they tend to spread a positive energy. I would describe it as the happy gene. They know how to be positive and many of them tend to be very emotional. So it's easy for them to fall in love at a relatively fast pace. They just go with their emotions which can also have its downsides.
Feminism:
It’s spread everywhere now: Brazil, Poland, Latvia & Ukraine are not the paradises where feminine women once used to roam anymore. And Mexico is no exception. If you've spent some time in Mexico you'll realize what it's all about: it's a savage backlash against the macho culture of Mexican men.
You'll walk around colonia Roma and Condesa which many people describe as the Paris of Mexico City (which in nonsense by the way) and it's not rare to see hipsters and chicks covered in tattoos and piercings drinking lattes on the sidewalk. They try so hard to imitate the Western lifestyle of freedom and equality it's almost pathetic.
Once you've accumulated some Mexican female Facebook friends you'll understand that there is virtually no difference between a Western girl and a Mexican morra. They love to complain about the patriarchy they live in and all they wish to do is to be free and travel the world. The only difference is that they won't be able to travel outside of Mexico because of financial reasons and the tone they take when bashing Mexican men and culture is harsher than the one their Western counterparts use. To me it seems obvious that Mexican women love to complain about their terrible situation they're living in. Femicidios is also a huge thing. Whenever a woman is murdered there's a movement reminding everyone of how terrible men are and that women need more rights and power. What happens when a man is murdered though? You guessed it right: absolutely nothing.
Religion:
If you're familiar with Mexico, you'll already know that it's a predominantly Catholic country. But don't be fooled: Catholicism in Mexico in most cases is only a facade and nothing more. The truth is that I've yet to meet a Mexican who takes religion seriously. Every Biblical law is broken on a daily basis. You'll find yourself walking with a girl you just bedded a couple of hours ago doing the sign of the cross across her chest when you stumble upon a statue of la virgen de Guadalupe. It's a funny sight seeing someone being so hypocritical. Why even bother? Obviously she's not living by the rules of Catholicism. In Mexico, it's all about perception.
Religion is viewed as a social activity and not as a conduct of life. Thinking that a self-proclaimed Catholic girl is marriage material is not a good idea. Just understand that religion is viewed completely differently in Mexico.
Relationships:
There are some memes which indicate that girls in Mexico tend to have their first novios at the tender age of 10. It's actually encouraged or at least viewed as normal by their own tias and other family members to have a novio when you're young. I’m not implying that they are having sex at that age but merely that it’s normal for girls to experience puppy love from a very young age.
I was shocked to find out how disastrous most adult relationships in Mexico were. I’m by no means a relationship coach but you can smell a bad one from a mile away. Most relationships are all about drama. One day they’re together, the next day they break up because the boyfriend is an alcoholic. Girl gets drunk and fucks a random guy she met at a party. The next day the ex boyfriend comes with an inflatable flamingo and begs for a second chance. She agrees and it’s all chocolate and flowers from them on. Except that this pattern repeats itself on a weekly basis.
You're probably asking yourself right now if cheating is common in Mexico. From what I've seen it's not only common but it also beats most European countries I know in that regard. And while Mexican guys are known to cheat on their esposas Mexican women are even worse in my opinion. Most of the girls cheat as soon as they feel neglected or unhappy. And they're world champions at rationalizing their behavior. Actually there's even some data from Ashley Madison which indicates that Mexican women might be the most unfaithful women on planet earth. And if you thought that Colombian and Dominican women were worse off in that regard then I have to disappoint you: according to a study by Second Love Mexican women are the most unfaithful in Latin America.
One recent trend I've been observing is the sugar daddy lifestyle. From what I know it's always been common in Mexico for older guys to have a young mistress but now this whole sugar daddy thing has gone mainstream. In fact, you might hear a girl boasting about her sugar daddy on how he bought her a purse and jokes about this new sugar daddy lifestyle plastering the feeds of Instagram.
Casual sex:
Contrary to what most people think casual sex is widespread within Mexico. They're just better at maintaining a cleaner appearance than let's say Westerners. The dynamics are slightly different because most of the time sex happens within the social circle itself. So it's common to see a group of friends where everyone has hooked up with everyone. It just makes it easier to get it on if you already know the person. Regular one night stands between strangers as we know it are also a common reality.
To back this up you can just look at all the love hotels and motels in Mexico. There's a wide array of them ranging from cheap shit holes to luxurious suites with pools. I suggest the former of them as a perfect location for a private party.
The most extreme story I can think of was a girl from Monterrey whom I met in another state. She was 18 years old and according to her still a virgin. We met up in Monterrey and she put out two hours after meeting. Which is somewhat sad since by my standards she was one of the most gorgeous girls I had met in Mexico. Dark blonde hair, green eyes and a skinny figure. So even if a girl tells you she's a virgin, that doesn't make her LTR material. Which should be common sense but I just added that to be sure.
Sociocultural environment:
In Mexico, it's all about social circles. If you don't know anyone there, it's basically not worth your while when it comes quality women. The average Mexican girl is not very attractive and in many places you'll even fail to find a single decent girl. You'll surely find some cute girls at mainstream places and venues but there's a night and day difference between a bar in the town center and an established nightclub where you won't see a single foreigner.
This is a huge thing in Mexico and it also shows that an outsider would not be able to give a representative view of the situation because many tourists and expats spend most of their time in clubs like Pata Negra and M.N. Roy. Most guys believe that you'll encounter the hottest girls in Polanco and Lomas de Chapultepec. This couldn't be further from the truth. I found the spots with the most beautiful European looking girls of the Mexico City metro area in a part of Estado de Mexico. But then again maybe there's a hidden spot that I'm not aware of which is filled with even hotter ladies. I also remember another instance where I went to visit my friend at a university in Monterrey. If you're not studying there, you can only get in with someone who is enlisted at the university. And let me tell you one thing: this university did not disappoint. The talent was unbelievable and rivaling the ones of top-notch European universities. It would have been a great place to game but unfortunately I wasn't able to.
What I'm trying to say is that you'll have a much better time if you actually know people who can show you around and get you to places that are worth a visit. The issue is that you won't even be able to enter certain parts of town without knowing the right people because some of the best house parties are in gated communities behind wired fences and armed security guards.
Alcohol & drugs:
We’ve all heard stories about tios borrachos and how Mexicans love their cerveza. A Mexican fiesta usually involves lots of beer, tequila, whiskey and sometimes mezcal. Which is fun and games for someone who’s not familiar with that culture. But once you spend an extended period of time in Mexico your image of this endless peda will soon start to crackle. You’ll also get tired of the parties from Wednesday to Sunday very soon. It's simply not a sustainable lifestyle and you'll find yourself unable to keep up with the locals.
In Mexico no chance is missed to have a drink. Whether it’s a Tuesday evening of Don Julio Reposado after work or some Micheladas with Clamato to recover from a hangover on a Sunday afternoon. Mexicans, and by that I also mean the women, love their booze. And when they drink, they drink excessively. It’ll start nice and slow with a couple of Indio chelas and soon everyone will start talking in cursive chilango Spanish where every second word is either güey or pedo. For the majority of young people it’s not uncommon to get absolutely shitfaced three or four times per week. If they can find excuses to drink on even more occasions they’ll gladly do so.
The percentage of (borderline) alcoholics is alarming. You’ll meet tons and tons of people who drink every day and to them it’s simply normal. Sure, they know it, and they’ll tell you: they have to lay off the booze for a bit, and they'd like to change the lifestyle they're living. But tomorrow you’ll see them again passed out on the sofa. It doesn’t bother them since everyone’s doing it so it's somewhat normal. People from all different age groups drink frequently and no one bats an eye. And there's also the fact that it’d be disrespectful to deny a cold beer.
There are tons of families where either a girl’s dad or her brother, many times even both of them, are obvious alcoholics. Alcoholism in Mexico starts when you’re 14 years old and it ends when you die. But it’s rarely called alcoholism even when it’s obvious to everyone else. I didn’t find any differences in the frequency of the drinking behavior between the social classes. The lower ones will opt for cheap, local beer and Oso Negro vodka while the upper classes prefer Stella Artois and Herradura Plata tequila.
Drugs are also common in Mexico. There's your typical stoners who smoke on a daily basis. Nothing unusual since this practice is also widespread in the West. But what's more interesting is that they have something called perico. It's basically a dainty synonym for cocaine. And most of the younger people in Mexico has tried it at least a couple of times. It's mind-blowing how widespread the use of cocaine is. There was even this girl who invited me to her home party. She was only seventeen years old, and she told me that her and her friends usually do some perico every other weekend totally oblivious to the fact that it's actually cocaine. I mean that she actually didn't know that perico is cocaine. She said it's a white powder they stuff into their noses and when I asked if she means coke she simply said no. Don't be surprised if a girl you're seeing has some coke next to the condoms in her stash box.
Language:
Most people in Mexico are either not able or willing to converse in English. You’ll find exceptions once you enter fresa social circles. Fresa meaning that they come from upper class families where daddy pays for private schools where English is taught, and he can send his kids the to the US or Europe for their summer holidays. Apart from that some young women between the ages of 18-25 will gladly make an exception and babble in unintelligible English. But that's about it.
If you don’t speak Spanish I’d highly suggest you either learn it or otherwise you’ll have a somewhat limited experience in Mexico. Monterrey and some other places up North are an exception but even there only the kids who come from wealthy households speak fluent English.
Music:
Mexico City is the biggest market for Spotify worldwide so if you want to check out what's popular right now you can just check there.
Reggaeton is by far the most popular music genre you'll hear at bars and clubs. I for myself really enjoy the rhythms and the lyrics since it's more primitive and sexual than more popular genres you'll find in Western countries. If you're into Latin music, I can only suggest you listen to some trapeton which is a rather new phenomenon.
As we all know music in general tends to influence people and their behavior and with reggaeton it's no exception. When it comes to dirty and nasty lyrics reggaeton might be one of the most extreme. It's basically about fucking with different people all the time. Great examples for someone who's unfamiliar with the genre are "Sin Pijama" by Becky G and Natti Natasha. It's basically about booty calls and female empowerment. Songs like "Mi Mala" and "Mayores" are also similar. The artists want to convince the listeners that women can be just like men and that they shouldn't be afraid to be a perra.
Apart from reggaeton popular music genres are mariachi, banda, norteño, sierreño and corridos. Their lyrics are less explicit and usually revolve around heartbreak. In these Mexican regional genres t's not rare to hear the singer complain about his cheating girlfriend.
Crime:
It’s no secret that Mexico is considered a risky country to travel to. We all hear about shootouts and random kidnappings which are usually tied to the notorious cartels. Some very modern and open-minded millennial will scream at you that Mexico isn’t dangerous at all, that it’s all just the media demonizing this beautiful country and its super friendly inhabitants and that your chance of getting shot in Chicago or run over by a combine harvester in Wyoming is much higher.
Guys, let’s cut to the chase here: In Mexico there’s a dog-eat-dog culture where people steal and kill the living shit out of each other. Okay, I may have exaggerated a bit. But hear me out. There are countless examples and I’ll list just a couple:
- a close friend’s mom was kidnapped in the middle of the day
- during my stay a buddy of my friend was stabbed to death
- the same friend’s apartment was emptied a couple of weeks later when he rented it to two guys via AirBnB
- just about a month ago the same guy was beaten by about 6 others and robbed
There’s a couple of other incidents which I won’t list here but you get the gist of it. And I’m not even a native so my circle of friends is rather small. This one guy, who’s jacked as hell (think steroids) was targeted three times within a period of more or less four months. Of course he was unlucky but the numbers speak for themselves. Even my phone was snatched during a night out. My mistake, but stuff like that doesn’t just happen everywhere.
When in Mexico, you have to be extra aware of your surroundings. And even that might not save you. Am I implying that you’ll be kidnapped and held hostage for the rest of your life? Of course not. But there’s no guarantee for your safety. You can’t even trust the local authorities since they’re also known to be in some shady stuff. I forecast this year’s murder toll at over 30’000. Believing someone who tells you that Mexico is absolutely safe, heck, even safer than any major city in the US, is simply naive. The numbers speak for themselves and bodies hanging from a bridge shouldn’t be considered normal. It doesn’t happen all the time but just recently on August 3 there was such a case in Naucalpan de Juarez, State of Mexico. A stone’s throw from bustling Mexico City.
What’s important to know is that most people here grow up in a constant state of insecurity and fear. And this has its effects on the female population. Stealing is considered normal by many. I remember a friend telling me that her best friend usually steals money from her boyfriend’s wallet, so they can go shopping together. Basically she would ask for money and when he'd deny her request she'd just take a couple of hundred pesos when he was showering. I also remember when my jacked friend once invited two girls two his apartment only to find out in the morning that all of his cash in his wallet was missing.
Conclusion:
What I wrote about this country seems rather harsh and negative. I for myself love Mexico and its people. But Mexico is no fairy tale by any means. It might look like paradise on the surface but there are some serious issues with the majority of mexicanas. It's rather easy to fall in love with a girl from there since they're incredibly easygoing and affectionate. But beware of the dangers. If I can at least prevent one person reading from getting their heart broken or even setting themselves up for a divorce then my mission is accomplished. People who are looking for a long term partner in Mexico should be alert at all times. Your chances of finding a girl that is wife material in Mexico are slim. Probably even slimmer than in your home country since you won't have any access to social circles where there might be some viable options. Don't believe the myth of the loyal Aztec wife who'll cook for you and love you unconditionally no matter what. Mexican women are just women. Women who come with their own kind of baggage which might be different from American and European women. I'd even go as far and say that Mexican women tend to be more promiscuous and less loyal than European women. I know I'll get a ton of hate for that but that's just what I've seen. When I first arrived in Mexico I imagined it to be a paradise for a man on the lookout for something more serious. Oh boy was I wrong.
The following are merely my observations and experiences from the years 2017 and 2018. I don’t know what Mexico used to be before that nor do I want to discourage anyone from trying their luck. Everyone’s experience may vary. If you’re willing to learn from someone who has spent over half a year in that country then feel free to read.
I spent most of my time in Mexico City and State of Mexico and brief periods around Nuevo Leon, Guerrero, Guanajuato, Queretaro and Quintana Roo.
This post will primarily focus on your chances of finding a girl for something more serious (e.g. girlfriend, wife or even the mother of your future kids). Mexico has always had a good reputation when it came to finding a family oriented girl who’d be viable for a potential wife. Or at least that’s the consensus on the internet. Tired of American girls? Go and get yourself a Mexican lady who’ll cook chicken pozole for you and make an excellent mom.
I won’t publish any data sheets about Mexico City and its surroundings since there’s already a lot of information on that. And at the end of the day I think every person’s CDMX experience will vary vastly since it’s such a gigantic maze in which everyone will lose themselves in a different way. There’s literally everything here: from rave parties in the forest to upscale night venues that will leave you speechless. But be careful: there are some places in Mexico City and even more places in the surrounding State of Mexico which should be avoided. I visited some of those colonias and municipios and they do indeed have a sketchy feel to it. Make sure to inform yourself about potential danger zones before you get there and always be aware of your location. A person who's slightly European looking will stick out like a sore thumb in areas like Ecatepec de Morelos or Chimalhuacan. All the upper scale Mexicans and even many Uber drivers avoid areas like these for good reasons.
Women:
In general the women are nothing to write home about in terms of looks. The vast majority are dark-skinned mestizas. They tend to be short with a square build and most of them carry some extra weight. The higher you move up on the social classes ladder the prettier and more European looking the girls will get. While most girls in Mexico are not very attractive, there's some extremely beautiful girls in the country. And if you pick the right spot for the night chances are you won't see any stocky or dark girls. So there's really different galaxies within a place like Mexico City itself. Pick wisely.
When it comes to their character traits, Mexican girls know how to make you feel good. They're generally not shy and when you get to know them they tend to spread a positive energy. I would describe it as the happy gene. They know how to be positive and many of them tend to be very emotional. So it's easy for them to fall in love at a relatively fast pace. They just go with their emotions which can also have its downsides.
Feminism:
It’s spread everywhere now: Brazil, Poland, Latvia & Ukraine are not the paradises where feminine women once used to roam anymore. And Mexico is no exception. If you've spent some time in Mexico you'll realize what it's all about: it's a savage backlash against the macho culture of Mexican men.
You'll walk around colonia Roma and Condesa which many people describe as the Paris of Mexico City (which in nonsense by the way) and it's not rare to see hipsters and chicks covered in tattoos and piercings drinking lattes on the sidewalk. They try so hard to imitate the Western lifestyle of freedom and equality it's almost pathetic.
Once you've accumulated some Mexican female Facebook friends you'll understand that there is virtually no difference between a Western girl and a Mexican morra. They love to complain about the patriarchy they live in and all they wish to do is to be free and travel the world. The only difference is that they won't be able to travel outside of Mexico because of financial reasons and the tone they take when bashing Mexican men and culture is harsher than the one their Western counterparts use. To me it seems obvious that Mexican women love to complain about their terrible situation they're living in. Femicidios is also a huge thing. Whenever a woman is murdered there's a movement reminding everyone of how terrible men are and that women need more rights and power. What happens when a man is murdered though? You guessed it right: absolutely nothing.
Religion:
If you're familiar with Mexico, you'll already know that it's a predominantly Catholic country. But don't be fooled: Catholicism in Mexico in most cases is only a facade and nothing more. The truth is that I've yet to meet a Mexican who takes religion seriously. Every Biblical law is broken on a daily basis. You'll find yourself walking with a girl you just bedded a couple of hours ago doing the sign of the cross across her chest when you stumble upon a statue of la virgen de Guadalupe. It's a funny sight seeing someone being so hypocritical. Why even bother? Obviously she's not living by the rules of Catholicism. In Mexico, it's all about perception.
Religion is viewed as a social activity and not as a conduct of life. Thinking that a self-proclaimed Catholic girl is marriage material is not a good idea. Just understand that religion is viewed completely differently in Mexico.
Relationships:
There are some memes which indicate that girls in Mexico tend to have their first novios at the tender age of 10. It's actually encouraged or at least viewed as normal by their own tias and other family members to have a novio when you're young. I’m not implying that they are having sex at that age but merely that it’s normal for girls to experience puppy love from a very young age.
I was shocked to find out how disastrous most adult relationships in Mexico were. I’m by no means a relationship coach but you can smell a bad one from a mile away. Most relationships are all about drama. One day they’re together, the next day they break up because the boyfriend is an alcoholic. Girl gets drunk and fucks a random guy she met at a party. The next day the ex boyfriend comes with an inflatable flamingo and begs for a second chance. She agrees and it’s all chocolate and flowers from them on. Except that this pattern repeats itself on a weekly basis.
You're probably asking yourself right now if cheating is common in Mexico. From what I've seen it's not only common but it also beats most European countries I know in that regard. And while Mexican guys are known to cheat on their esposas Mexican women are even worse in my opinion. Most of the girls cheat as soon as they feel neglected or unhappy. And they're world champions at rationalizing their behavior. Actually there's even some data from Ashley Madison which indicates that Mexican women might be the most unfaithful women on planet earth. And if you thought that Colombian and Dominican women were worse off in that regard then I have to disappoint you: according to a study by Second Love Mexican women are the most unfaithful in Latin America.
One recent trend I've been observing is the sugar daddy lifestyle. From what I know it's always been common in Mexico for older guys to have a young mistress but now this whole sugar daddy thing has gone mainstream. In fact, you might hear a girl boasting about her sugar daddy on how he bought her a purse and jokes about this new sugar daddy lifestyle plastering the feeds of Instagram.
Casual sex:
Contrary to what most people think casual sex is widespread within Mexico. They're just better at maintaining a cleaner appearance than let's say Westerners. The dynamics are slightly different because most of the time sex happens within the social circle itself. So it's common to see a group of friends where everyone has hooked up with everyone. It just makes it easier to get it on if you already know the person. Regular one night stands between strangers as we know it are also a common reality.
To back this up you can just look at all the love hotels and motels in Mexico. There's a wide array of them ranging from cheap shit holes to luxurious suites with pools. I suggest the former of them as a perfect location for a private party.
The most extreme story I can think of was a girl from Monterrey whom I met in another state. She was 18 years old and according to her still a virgin. We met up in Monterrey and she put out two hours after meeting. Which is somewhat sad since by my standards she was one of the most gorgeous girls I had met in Mexico. Dark blonde hair, green eyes and a skinny figure. So even if a girl tells you she's a virgin, that doesn't make her LTR material. Which should be common sense but I just added that to be sure.
Sociocultural environment:
In Mexico, it's all about social circles. If you don't know anyone there, it's basically not worth your while when it comes quality women. The average Mexican girl is not very attractive and in many places you'll even fail to find a single decent girl. You'll surely find some cute girls at mainstream places and venues but there's a night and day difference between a bar in the town center and an established nightclub where you won't see a single foreigner.
This is a huge thing in Mexico and it also shows that an outsider would not be able to give a representative view of the situation because many tourists and expats spend most of their time in clubs like Pata Negra and M.N. Roy. Most guys believe that you'll encounter the hottest girls in Polanco and Lomas de Chapultepec. This couldn't be further from the truth. I found the spots with the most beautiful European looking girls of the Mexico City metro area in a part of Estado de Mexico. But then again maybe there's a hidden spot that I'm not aware of which is filled with even hotter ladies. I also remember another instance where I went to visit my friend at a university in Monterrey. If you're not studying there, you can only get in with someone who is enlisted at the university. And let me tell you one thing: this university did not disappoint. The talent was unbelievable and rivaling the ones of top-notch European universities. It would have been a great place to game but unfortunately I wasn't able to.
What I'm trying to say is that you'll have a much better time if you actually know people who can show you around and get you to places that are worth a visit. The issue is that you won't even be able to enter certain parts of town without knowing the right people because some of the best house parties are in gated communities behind wired fences and armed security guards.
Alcohol & drugs:
We’ve all heard stories about tios borrachos and how Mexicans love their cerveza. A Mexican fiesta usually involves lots of beer, tequila, whiskey and sometimes mezcal. Which is fun and games for someone who’s not familiar with that culture. But once you spend an extended period of time in Mexico your image of this endless peda will soon start to crackle. You’ll also get tired of the parties from Wednesday to Sunday very soon. It's simply not a sustainable lifestyle and you'll find yourself unable to keep up with the locals.
In Mexico no chance is missed to have a drink. Whether it’s a Tuesday evening of Don Julio Reposado after work or some Micheladas with Clamato to recover from a hangover on a Sunday afternoon. Mexicans, and by that I also mean the women, love their booze. And when they drink, they drink excessively. It’ll start nice and slow with a couple of Indio chelas and soon everyone will start talking in cursive chilango Spanish where every second word is either güey or pedo. For the majority of young people it’s not uncommon to get absolutely shitfaced three or four times per week. If they can find excuses to drink on even more occasions they’ll gladly do so.
The percentage of (borderline) alcoholics is alarming. You’ll meet tons and tons of people who drink every day and to them it’s simply normal. Sure, they know it, and they’ll tell you: they have to lay off the booze for a bit, and they'd like to change the lifestyle they're living. But tomorrow you’ll see them again passed out on the sofa. It doesn’t bother them since everyone’s doing it so it's somewhat normal. People from all different age groups drink frequently and no one bats an eye. And there's also the fact that it’d be disrespectful to deny a cold beer.
There are tons of families where either a girl’s dad or her brother, many times even both of them, are obvious alcoholics. Alcoholism in Mexico starts when you’re 14 years old and it ends when you die. But it’s rarely called alcoholism even when it’s obvious to everyone else. I didn’t find any differences in the frequency of the drinking behavior between the social classes. The lower ones will opt for cheap, local beer and Oso Negro vodka while the upper classes prefer Stella Artois and Herradura Plata tequila.
Drugs are also common in Mexico. There's your typical stoners who smoke on a daily basis. Nothing unusual since this practice is also widespread in the West. But what's more interesting is that they have something called perico. It's basically a dainty synonym for cocaine. And most of the younger people in Mexico has tried it at least a couple of times. It's mind-blowing how widespread the use of cocaine is. There was even this girl who invited me to her home party. She was only seventeen years old, and she told me that her and her friends usually do some perico every other weekend totally oblivious to the fact that it's actually cocaine. I mean that she actually didn't know that perico is cocaine. She said it's a white powder they stuff into their noses and when I asked if she means coke she simply said no. Don't be surprised if a girl you're seeing has some coke next to the condoms in her stash box.
Language:
Most people in Mexico are either not able or willing to converse in English. You’ll find exceptions once you enter fresa social circles. Fresa meaning that they come from upper class families where daddy pays for private schools where English is taught, and he can send his kids the to the US or Europe for their summer holidays. Apart from that some young women between the ages of 18-25 will gladly make an exception and babble in unintelligible English. But that's about it.
If you don’t speak Spanish I’d highly suggest you either learn it or otherwise you’ll have a somewhat limited experience in Mexico. Monterrey and some other places up North are an exception but even there only the kids who come from wealthy households speak fluent English.
Music:
Mexico City is the biggest market for Spotify worldwide so if you want to check out what's popular right now you can just check there.
Reggaeton is by far the most popular music genre you'll hear at bars and clubs. I for myself really enjoy the rhythms and the lyrics since it's more primitive and sexual than more popular genres you'll find in Western countries. If you're into Latin music, I can only suggest you listen to some trapeton which is a rather new phenomenon.
As we all know music in general tends to influence people and their behavior and with reggaeton it's no exception. When it comes to dirty and nasty lyrics reggaeton might be one of the most extreme. It's basically about fucking with different people all the time. Great examples for someone who's unfamiliar with the genre are "Sin Pijama" by Becky G and Natti Natasha. It's basically about booty calls and female empowerment. Songs like "Mi Mala" and "Mayores" are also similar. The artists want to convince the listeners that women can be just like men and that they shouldn't be afraid to be a perra.
Apart from reggaeton popular music genres are mariachi, banda, norteño, sierreño and corridos. Their lyrics are less explicit and usually revolve around heartbreak. In these Mexican regional genres t's not rare to hear the singer complain about his cheating girlfriend.
Crime:
It’s no secret that Mexico is considered a risky country to travel to. We all hear about shootouts and random kidnappings which are usually tied to the notorious cartels. Some very modern and open-minded millennial will scream at you that Mexico isn’t dangerous at all, that it’s all just the media demonizing this beautiful country and its super friendly inhabitants and that your chance of getting shot in Chicago or run over by a combine harvester in Wyoming is much higher.
Guys, let’s cut to the chase here: In Mexico there’s a dog-eat-dog culture where people steal and kill the living shit out of each other. Okay, I may have exaggerated a bit. But hear me out. There are countless examples and I’ll list just a couple:
- a close friend’s mom was kidnapped in the middle of the day
- during my stay a buddy of my friend was stabbed to death
- the same friend’s apartment was emptied a couple of weeks later when he rented it to two guys via AirBnB
- just about a month ago the same guy was beaten by about 6 others and robbed
There’s a couple of other incidents which I won’t list here but you get the gist of it. And I’m not even a native so my circle of friends is rather small. This one guy, who’s jacked as hell (think steroids) was targeted three times within a period of more or less four months. Of course he was unlucky but the numbers speak for themselves. Even my phone was snatched during a night out. My mistake, but stuff like that doesn’t just happen everywhere.
When in Mexico, you have to be extra aware of your surroundings. And even that might not save you. Am I implying that you’ll be kidnapped and held hostage for the rest of your life? Of course not. But there’s no guarantee for your safety. You can’t even trust the local authorities since they’re also known to be in some shady stuff. I forecast this year’s murder toll at over 30’000. Believing someone who tells you that Mexico is absolutely safe, heck, even safer than any major city in the US, is simply naive. The numbers speak for themselves and bodies hanging from a bridge shouldn’t be considered normal. It doesn’t happen all the time but just recently on August 3 there was such a case in Naucalpan de Juarez, State of Mexico. A stone’s throw from bustling Mexico City.
What’s important to know is that most people here grow up in a constant state of insecurity and fear. And this has its effects on the female population. Stealing is considered normal by many. I remember a friend telling me that her best friend usually steals money from her boyfriend’s wallet, so they can go shopping together. Basically she would ask for money and when he'd deny her request she'd just take a couple of hundred pesos when he was showering. I also remember when my jacked friend once invited two girls two his apartment only to find out in the morning that all of his cash in his wallet was missing.
Conclusion:
What I wrote about this country seems rather harsh and negative. I for myself love Mexico and its people. But Mexico is no fairy tale by any means. It might look like paradise on the surface but there are some serious issues with the majority of mexicanas. It's rather easy to fall in love with a girl from there since they're incredibly easygoing and affectionate. But beware of the dangers. If I can at least prevent one person reading from getting their heart broken or even setting themselves up for a divorce then my mission is accomplished. People who are looking for a long term partner in Mexico should be alert at all times. Your chances of finding a girl that is wife material in Mexico are slim. Probably even slimmer than in your home country since you won't have any access to social circles where there might be some viable options. Don't believe the myth of the loyal Aztec wife who'll cook for you and love you unconditionally no matter what. Mexican women are just women. Women who come with their own kind of baggage which might be different from American and European women. I'd even go as far and say that Mexican women tend to be more promiscuous and less loyal than European women. I know I'll get a ton of hate for that but that's just what I've seen. When I first arrived in Mexico I imagined it to be a paradise for a man on the lookout for something more serious. Oh boy was I wrong.
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