For some background, I'm in my early twenties and independent, traveling through a new country and living here for a bit.
A girl I've been dating for the past couple of months is also in her early twenties (younger than me), and in her last year of university. Has no job, lives free with family, and kind of the lazy "lay in bed and scroll through instagram all day" kind of person that most of the youth has become nowadays.
Overall, she's decent and we get along quite well. Can be myself around her, and she is herself around me. She takes good care of me, and vice versa.
The problem is that she has horrible communication skills. She has the social mind of a teenager, in that she can't take any confrontation whatsoever.
I tell her to open her mouth and talk whenever there's a problem. We must have a conversation about problems in order to come to a resolution. But in her mind, silence is the best thing. She just bottles everything up inside, never wants to talk about it, never wants to come to a resolution. It's all about fun to her; if it the conversation has anything to do with self improvement or being an adult, she wants NOTHING to do with it. Very immature. She just doesn't get it. She won't talk about anything serious and has too much ego accept when she's wrong.
When I give her an ultimatum/walk out of her life (after she has blatantly disrespected me in some way), she becomes really apologetic and finally opens her mouth and apologizes/cries and all that jazz, but a few days go by and she starts going back to her old ways again.
I really enjoy her, but I just can't be with someone long term when we can't have a grown up conversation to resolve issues...it will likely just end horribly with bottled up resentment that never goes away.
How do you deal with a girl like this?
A girl I've been dating for the past couple of months is also in her early twenties (younger than me), and in her last year of university. Has no job, lives free with family, and kind of the lazy "lay in bed and scroll through instagram all day" kind of person that most of the youth has become nowadays.
Overall, she's decent and we get along quite well. Can be myself around her, and she is herself around me. She takes good care of me, and vice versa.
The problem is that she has horrible communication skills. She has the social mind of a teenager, in that she can't take any confrontation whatsoever.
I tell her to open her mouth and talk whenever there's a problem. We must have a conversation about problems in order to come to a resolution. But in her mind, silence is the best thing. She just bottles everything up inside, never wants to talk about it, never wants to come to a resolution. It's all about fun to her; if it the conversation has anything to do with self improvement or being an adult, she wants NOTHING to do with it. Very immature. She just doesn't get it. She won't talk about anything serious and has too much ego accept when she's wrong.
When I give her an ultimatum/walk out of her life (after she has blatantly disrespected me in some way), she becomes really apologetic and finally opens her mouth and apologizes/cries and all that jazz, but a few days go by and she starts going back to her old ways again.
I really enjoy her, but I just can't be with someone long term when we can't have a grown up conversation to resolve issues...it will likely just end horribly with bottled up resentment that never goes away.
How do you deal with a girl like this?
