[coffeedrinker]

I met a girl from a university society as I was one of the drivers for first event. Hardly spoke to her individually as it was a full car.

Few days later, went out to a club with a friend where we were going to meet 2 girls from the society ( but I didn't know it was going to be her and her friend).

We only met briefly in the club but there, she said something along the lines of liking me. However, I'm basically deaf in loud clubs and often mishear so I didn't do anything about it. ( I was also a bit shocked as I hardly know the girl and it came out of nowhere). She and her friend then dissapeared and I didn't see them again that night.

Next day she finds and adds me on FB and msgs me how my night was.

However, she is super slow at replying. 2 days + etc.

How do I deal with this? It feels a bit strange to just suggesting going for a drink or something but at this rate of replying, nothing's ever gonna happen anyway. Also there are many girls from this society, so extra pressure on not screwing up too much.

I think of saying something along the lines of "I hate chatting on fb , what you up to this XXXday? Lets grab a drink."

[BadBoyGamer]

Do you have a way to contact or see this girl again, without using any social media? Like a real life event or gathering?

[robreke]

I'd go silent for a week or two then open her again as if nothing happened. a few back and forths ( at least 2) then suggest a drink or meet up. If she is taking 24 hours or something ridiculous to get back, just next her. go silent and game other girls. In fact, start gaming other girls now.

[coffeedrinker]

(10-21-2018 11:53 AM)BadBoyGamer Wrote:  

Do you have a way to contact or see this girl again, without using any social media? Like a real life event or gathering?

Probably will at some point but might be a while - most members of this society don't tend to go to clubs as a group often.

(10-21-2018 12:21 PM)robreke Wrote:  

I'd go silent for a week or two then open her again as if nothing happened. a few back and forths ( at least 2) then suggest a drink or meet up. If she is taking 24 hours or something ridiculous to get back, just next her. go silent and game other girls. In fact, start gaming other girls now.

I'm not too hung up about her, just a little confused as I don't think I've done anything to either gain her initial interest or then to lose it lol. I'll do what you say tbh, seems like the only possible route anyway.

Thanks for replies

[Deepdiver]

She is a female - she lives on a 28 Day hormonal, then Physical and Emotional biorhythms cycles - unless you live with her for a while and see her plotting her cycles on a calendar when to know to stay in and take it easy it will seem confuuusing in the extreme to you. Actually not a bad sign actually means she is a natural born female and not some closeted tranny with exceptional hair and makeup skills and a great plastic surgeon.

As Robreke said above ghost a week or two and then either Netflix and Chill or Next - it has been written many times now in many threads on this and other forums - in the age of the iPhone the typical snowflake is literally over stimulated with often up to a thousand plus Cock Carousel thirsty blue pill orbiters - you have to aggressively escalate and phock her hard and put her away wet after multiple orgasms if you expect her to be a spinning plate and even current plates fall off sooner than later all due to smart phone addiction so even if you do not outright next her you need to keep multiple plates spinning and rotate as necessary.

[coffeedrinker]

(10-21-2018 01:35 PM)Deepdiver Wrote:  

She is a female - she lives on a 28 Day hormonal, then Physical and Emotional biorhythms cycles - unless you live with her for a while and see her plotting her cycles on a calendar when to know to stay in and take it easy it will seem confuuusing in the extreme to you. Actually not a bad sign actually means she is a natural born female and not some closeted tranny with exceptional hair and makeup skills and a great plastic surgeon.

As Robreke said above ghost a week or two and then either Netflix and Chill or Next - it has been written many times now in many threads on this and other forums - in the age of the iPhone the typical snowflake is literally over stimulated with often up to a thousand plus Cock Carousel thirsty blue pill orbiters - you have to aggressively escalate and phock her hard and put her away wet after multiple orgasms if you expect her to be a spinning plate and even current plates fall off sooner than later all due to smart phone addiction so even if you do not outright next her you need to keep multiple plates spinning and rotate as necessary.

I seem to forget or ignore this too many times. It's my curiosity that lets me down the most. Need to get better at just not caring about the details.

[ksbms]

Unfortunately, as Deepdiver writes, it's all true. Young girls have attention span of a hummingbird, jumping from one colourful flower onto the next.

[coffeedrinker]

So almost straight after I made this topic, she started replying much quicker so I matched her reply speed.

She invited me to go to a club but I can't make it as I'll be away from town for a week. My problem is I'm not sure whether to keep msging her while I'm away. I know that many wise people on this forum recommend keeping texts to a minimum and for setting up dates but does it also apply to when in university and part of the same society?

The way I see it - if I continue msging, I run the risk of bleeding the convo dry or misunderstanding jokes (especially since we don't know much about each other). If I don't, then she may lose interest or think that I'm not interested.

[firat113]

Don't keep texting her, you're not her texting buddy. Instead, you have two options.

1) Wait till you get back from town and send her a restart text telling her you're ready to hit the club together, or 2) you could keep her warm while you're out of town by sending her a small text a few days before your arrival home. I would usually just send a picture of something interesting im doing or something related to what we've been talking about. Something that will trigger a reaction from her.

If you have social media, like snapchat or instagram, put up an interesting story for her to see, if she opens it, you'll know she's still interested to see what you're up to, while you're out of town.

[TheFinalEpic]

I've noticed this trend more and more recently, it's an attempt at girl game to make it seem like she's super busy, doesn't have her phone on her at all times, and does things other than watch netflix. It's a lie to make herself feel better.

Just be too busy to even think about this sort of thing. I sometimes take hours or even days to reply to girls. Better yet, pick up the phone and give her a call, if she doesn't reply to you then, just keep gaming other girls and come back to her as a soft touch every month or so.

Who cares how long it takes for her to reply? You shouldn't be invested in this sort of thing. You should be too busy building your own life.

[coffeedrinker]

(10-23-2018 12:19 PM)firat113 Wrote:  

Don't keep texting her, you're not her texting buddy. Instead, you have two options.

1) Wait till you get back from town and send her a restart text telling her you're ready to hit the club together, or 2) you could keep her warm while you're out of town by sending her a small text a few days before your arrival home. I would usually just send a picture of something interesting im doing or something related to what we've been talking about. Something that will trigger a reaction from her.

If you have social media, like snapchat or instagram, put up an interesting story for her to see, if she opens it, you'll know she's still interested to see what you're up to, while you're out of town.

I like option 1. If she comes to the party, I will get a better indicator of her interest and can plan something together later or go for the pull that night if shes up for it.

(10-23-2018 12:28 PM)TheFinalEpic Wrote:  

I've noticed this trend more and more recently, it's an attempt at girl game to make it seem like she's super busy, doesn't have her phone on her at all times, and does things other than watch netflix. It's a lie to make herself feel better.

Just be too busy to even think about this sort of thing. I sometimes take hours or even days to reply to girls. Better yet, pick up the phone and give her a call, if she doesn't reply to you then, just keep gaming other girls and come back to her as a soft touch every month or so.

Who cares how long it takes for her to reply? You shouldn't be invested in this sort of thing. You should be too busy building your own life.

While this thread doesn't help my point, I was much worse at this before (investing time in things that do not help my game and probably make it worse).

I have started a business while studying, Got a rythm for going to the gym and sorting a few minor health issues that made it difficult for going gym.

But I still lose my frame regularly, particular when trying to get girls. Need to up my approaches and hopefully experience will make me improve my game.

[firat113]

(10-23-2018 12:28 PM)TheFinalEpic Wrote:  

I've noticed this trend more and more recently, it's an attempt at girl game to make it seem like she's super busy, doesn't have her phone on her at all times, and does things other than watch netflix. It's a lie to make herself feel better.

Honestly fucking spot on.

(10-23-2018 12:41 PM)coffeedrinker Wrote:  

I like option 1. If she comes to the party, I will get a better indicator of her interest and can plan something together later or go for the pull that night if shes up for it.

(10-23-2018 12:28 PM)TheFinalEpic Wrote:  

I've noticed this trend more and more recently, it's an attempt at girl game to make it seem like she's super busy, doesn't have her phone on her at all times, and does things other than watch netflix. It's a lie to make herself feel better.

Just be too busy to even think about this sort of thing. I sometimes take hours or even days to reply to girls. Better yet, pick up the phone and give her a call, if she doesn't reply to you then, just keep gaming other girls and come back to her as a soft touch every month or so.

Who cares how long it takes for her to reply? You shouldn't be invested in this sort of thing. You should be too busy building your own life.

While this thread doesn't help my point, I was much worse at this before (investing time in things that do not help my game and probably make it worse).

I have started a business while studying, Got a rythm for going to the gym and sorting a few minor health issues that made it difficult for going gym.

But I still lose my frame regularly, particular when trying to get girls. Need to up my approaches and hopefully experience will make me improve my game.

@cofeedrinker i know exactly how you feel mate, i think we've all been there. I can relate because i used to do the same all the time. If a girl showed the slightest interest in me i suddenly upped her on the scale a little more than i should have. Sure match her interest, but if she plays these games, don't be dwelling about it. I know i did this because i only had one lead at a time, one girl hooked, so i focused all my energy on her and felt shit when she didn't reply back or why she would take so long to respond when one moment she was so into me and another one she was acting cold. It was frustrating.

It's hard to understand right now, but you'll need to game more girls simultaneously to avoid this minor oneitis. I always have 2 girls up and running at the same time so this way when one acts strange or does something i don't like, i put her on freeze and move on to the next girl meanwhile. They always text you back when they find out they suddenly have to compete for you with another girl. Always keep them on their toes and thinking, don't ever let them feel that they are your only option. It turns them off.

In my opinion, don't match her interest 1 to 1, match her interest 1 to 2 if you know what i mean. Make her invest more than you when she fucks up and plays this mind trick on you again with taking days to respond. If a girl ignores you for days and sends you a message - you respond back after 30 minutes, what does that tell you? It's just an example.

[JonVonstroke]

If you're noticing that women are taking too long to respond to your messages and it's bothering you, then you've got two problems.

1. You don't have enough women in your pipeline.

2. You have too much free time on your hands.

[TheFinalEpic]

(10-23-2018 02:42 PM)JonVonstroke Wrote:  

If you're noticing that women are taking too long to respond to your messages and it's bothering you, then you've got two problems.

1. You don't have enough women in your pipeline.

2. You have too much free time on your hands.

This.

We're not ragging on you OP, you're likely new to this thing. But, you shouldn't be worried about texting girls at all, it should be on your own time, and at your own discretion. It shouldn't be swayed by her in the slightest.

If you really want to stand out, call her, say "what's up, I'm grabbing a drink tomorrow after my client, come with."

If she doesn't answer, and doesn't ask why you called, move on. This problem could be alleviated if you were talking to 10 girls at a time, and if you were building your life into what you want it to be.

[coffeedrinker]

(10-23-2018 02:28 PM)firat113 Wrote:  

@cofeedrinker i know exactly how you feel mate, i think we've all been there. I can relate because i used to do the same all the time. If a girl showed the slightest interest in me i suddenly upped her on the scale a little more than i should have. Sure match her interest, but if she plays these games, don't be dwelling about it. I know i did this because i only had one lead at a time, one girl hooked, so i focused all my energy on her and felt shit when she didn't reply back or why she would take so long to respond when one moment she was so into me and another one she was acting cold. It was frustrating.

It's hard to understand right now, but you'll need to game more girls simultaneously to avoid this minor oneitis. I always have 2 girls up and running at the same time so this way when one acts strange or does something i don't like, i put her on freeze and move on to the next girl meanwhile. They always text you back when they find out they suddenly have to compete for you with another girl. Always keep them on their toes and thinking, don't ever let them feel that they are your only option. It turns them off.

In my opinion, don't match her interest 1 to 1, match her interest 1 to 2 if you know what i mean. Make her invest more than you when she fucks up and plays this mind trick on you again with taking days to respond. If a girl ignores you for days and sends you a message - you respond back after 30 minutes, what does that tell you? It's just an example.

That describes my problem perfectly. What I have also noticed, is even if I'm talking to more than 1 girl, if one of them shows a lot of initial interest, I do the same thing of upping her in scale. I think it is because of the lack of consistent results, so it feels like I can get quicker success which in terms can sometimes give out the desperate vibe and push them away even if they were first interested.

(10-23-2018 02:42 PM)JonVonstroke Wrote:  

If you're noticing that women are taking too long to respond to your messages and it's bothering you, then you've got two problems.

1. You don't have enough women in your pipeline.

2. You have too much free time on your hands.

Definitely 1. and unfortunately it ocassionally leads me to waste too much time and energy out of things that I enjoy or improve my purpose in the world.

(10-23-2018 02:48 PM)TheFinalEpic Wrote:  

(10-23-2018 02:42 PM)JonVonstroke Wrote:  

If you're noticing that women are taking too long to respond to your messages and it's bothering you, then you've got two problems.

1. You don't have enough women in your pipeline.

2. You have too much free time on your hands.

This.

We're not ragging on you OP, you're likely new to this thing. But, you shouldn't be worried about texting girls at all, it should be on your own time, and at your own discretion. It shouldn't be swayed by her in the slightest.

If you really want to stand out, call her, say "what's up, I'm grabbing a drink tomorrow after my client, come with."

If she doesn't answer, and doesn't ask why you called, move on. This problem could be alleviated if you were talking to 10 girls at a time, and if you were building your life into what you want it to be.

Cheers for the advice all, this has been a positive reminder on what I need to focus my attention on!