Quote: (01-25-2019 06:15 PM)fmman Wrote:
Quote: (01-25-2019 03:42 AM)lunchmoney Wrote:
Quote: (01-23-2019 11:44 AM)Cation Wrote:
No dinner on first date, please.
One of my friends took a girl out he met on Tinder this week on a first date to a damn steakhouse haha.
In 2019, some golden rules still are broken.
Explain to me why so many are anti dinner dates? I've had lunch dates that started off in pubs or coffee shops and then because it went so well its evening by now and we are both hungry. I suppose you are going to say keep the first date to 3 or 4 hours. I understand that but I'm a no rules sort of guy and go with the flow. Plus I like eating out. Is it a not having to pay for her food thing?
I'm not trying to watch a girl eat or point out stuff stuck in her teeth.
I'm an interactive kind of date guy, give me a pub, billiards, and darts.
Lunch/Dinner/Coffee dates are BORING, it's the standard cliche thing.
You have to step outside the cookiecutter date pattern, be more interactive and fun.
My dates don't last 3-4 hours because I've got shit to do, especially if it's an evening date.
I workout before my date and try to not to go to bed too late, so it forces me to have a small window.
When you spend a ton of hours on the first date, you're giving her EVERYTHING up front, when instead you're giving her a sample of what you have to offer, and she wants MORE, so it builds attraction to meet up next time.
I'm in the mindset of sorting girls outs, if she turns out boring, I'll bounce in 30-45 minutes.
If she's attractive and fun I'll spend 2 hours with her, maybe 3 if I have time.
You might be a no rules kind of guy, but there are reasons they are rules, I'll bet you've lost a few girls who ghosted after the first date, after you invested alot of time into that date.
Don't be that guy.
If you're going to have dinner and want company - sure that's fine. IF you know what you're doing.
If you want to spend hours upon hours with said girl, that's fine, IF you know what you're doing and gauging her correctly.