[Nuas]

This is my first time posting here. I'm not sure how to deal with this, I'm looking for pointers. Background: I'm in my early 50's, good looking, I do 100% online game, last trip to the Philippines I scored 14 news lays in 28 days. The trip before that (Taiwan/Philippines) was more enjoyable with 3 new lays in 15 days.

I do not like one-night stands. I prefer meeting women over a period of three days where I make an emotional connection and explore their sexuality in a deeper and more satisfying way.

The last trip to the Philippines, two of the women I met online, asked me "Is it okay if no sex the first time we're together?" They both had previously agreed to be my girlfriend and to spend the night at my airbnb the first time we got together. What I did was answer "no, it's not okay" and in each case they left me. So, playing tough doesn't work.

Now I'm planning a trip to Thailand and may deal with the same issue as the women with whom I'm talking are quite shy. How do I deal with this? Does anyone have experience with this one?

[Simeon_Strangelight]

Say: "Sure, of course it is."

But then you whip it out just in case:

[scotian]

No means no, unless she’s dyslexic, then it’s on!

[MongolianAbroad]

(09-15-2018 03:30 PM)Nuas Wrote:  

I do not like one-night stands. I prefer meeting women over a period of three days where I get to explore their sexuality in a deeper and more satisfying way.

Agreed.

One night stands are so 2000's.

Three night stands are where it's at.

[Shimmy]

She's testing you to see if you're going to pump and dump her, and obviously you fell for it. If you think a Filipina is capable of not having sex on a first date I weary about the validity of your claim about spending a month there.

[Davoer]

Look for another girl

[Sidney Crosby]

Just ignore her when she asks, then Weinstein her.

[asdfk]

You have to buy her a ring first.

[Poseidon]

Many girls (especially in developing countries) will say some variation of that, if they're trying to score a long term "sponsor."
They feel a need to establish they're not ones to bang every gringo at first sight.

I'd say respond "is it okay NO spending?" However, I imagine you're not one to go that route.

[Cobra]

"Whatever happens happens."

"Let's see what happens."

or

"I don't want to be serious. Let's meet and enjoy ourselves first."

[In all cases, ignore the question and don't answer.]
....

Bang

[zamfir112]

do not meet those type of girls if you want DTF without issues.theres so many options.honestly if a girl has attitude problems get rid and fast.these girls are not worth your time.

[Titus]

2 girs out of 2 refused. So, what's the difficulty to answer just "it's okay"?

You'll have her in your apartment and will try to have sex anyway. This question is kind of pointless...

[RawGod]

I like girls who are attracted to me and looking forward to sex. Are you in shape? Being in your 50s can make that aspect more difficult. But still, I'd be inclined to work on myself and my selection process.

[Alpha_Romeo]

"Sure. No problem."

Female psychology. If she agrees to have sex beforehand with someone she has never met, then she might worry that she is a slut.

But if she comes over without the expectation and caught up in the romance of the moment, "things just happened" she can rationalize it in a way that she is not a slut.

[Montrose]

It’s like women who write ‘no hook ups’ on their Tinder profile. It means they’re looking for hook ups but want to pretend they’re not sluts. In that case just say ‘ok no hook up’ and you’re guaranteed an immediate lay. Honestly I’m at a loss to understand the psychological process behind this.

[Brother Abdul Majeed]

Tell her that her consent is unnecessary.

[Endless Escapes]

(09-16-2018 01:03 AM)Titus Wrote:  

2 girs out of 2 refused. So, what's the difficulty to answer just "it's okay"?

You'll have her in your apartment and will try to have sex anyway. This question is kind of pointless...

I would to the same. Just say "ok" and do fifferently.

[Nuas]

(09-15-2018 05:40 PM)Shimmy Wrote:  

She's testing you to see if you're going to pump and dump her, and obviously you fell for it. If you think a Filipina is capable of not having sex on a first date I weary about the validity of your claim about spending a month there.

Yes, I did spend one month there. I sent out 400 messages, got 100 replies and worked that number down to 25. The two I was referring to, were in the list of 75 eliminated. Of the 25 remaining I met with 14 and scored with each and every one within 3 hours of meeting.

So, I know that elimination works. But I hated to see those two go, because they had great bodies. I could say "no problem" but then there is a risk I will waste three days without getting laid. And I enjoy getting laid a lot. I don't want to travel all the way around the world to get blue balls.

[SeaFM]

I would flip the script on her and say something like “whoa you think I’m that easy?”

Just agree to it and take her out if you like her.

They’re not all prostitutes.

[Trumpian]

I like to flip the script too. If they bring it up, I always say I never do that before the 3rd date.

Had one girl write back "never say never" lol.