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07-26-2018, 11:25 AM
Hey guys ive been in a mini ltr with a girl for 6 months. I have the keys to her place. I go 2-3 times a week at 12 at night after the gym and she has dinner ready for me, gives me massages and fucks till im drained. We've gone out a total of three times in those six months and the first two were dates before fucking. All i do is show up, eat and bang. she also started taking the pill for me so i blast in her snatch with my goo worry free.
However she's from a different province and often goes back home for a week at a time or goes to brazil for vacation etc. She has occasionally offered me to join her on these trips but it didn't want to take time off school and work.
Unsure whether she's fucking guys on these trips. I looked through her phone and never found serious evidence.
I see a message from a dude asking her whatsup tonight. Go through her phone and she admits Hes an ex from over a year ago. They met up once in february at the beginning of our relationship which idgaf about since we had only known each other for a month. However she said they met up a month ago but didn't bang. I told her the intention of banging was there but he fucked up which she admitted was true.
Said she never slept with anyone else during our relationship. I scroll through her shit and she's talking to some guy from brazil who looks to be 40 and not a sexual threat. Said she just hung out at the beach there with him cause she was bored and had no friends.
She cried a ton and apologized profusely for hours and was still crying in the morn. I was more stoic than a bald eagle and didn't even address a word to her when i left in the morn. She followed me out and kept crying.
Wanted to know if it would break up with her, told her i would have to think of an appropriate punishment.
Anyways...im going to canada in two weeks and then going to europe for several months. Right now only have two inferior girls to bang. Couple 5s. Dont have time to be chasing new tail during these two weeks so will probably need to rely on tinder.
Should i keep banging this bitch with my upgraded power in the relationship and advice on how to use it for the next two weeks. Should i dump her ass for her bullshit?
On one hand I don't want to waste timing scoring new girls for only two weeks worth of pussy but I don't appreciate the disrespect.
Advice needed.
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07-26-2018, 11:55 AM
Dump.
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07-26-2018, 12:05 PM
Is there an age restriction to this forum? There should be. Maybe I should re-visit the rules.
This would be a very serious dilemma, to a 12-year-old.
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07-26-2018, 12:44 PM
Doesn't sound like much of a relationship, more like monogamous fuck buddies.
Especially if you guys aren't doing shit and there isn't much more besides hanging out and fucking.
She's obviously seeking validation behind your back, obviously because you guys aren't doing much but fucking around.
This also isn't a mini LTR, you've been banging this chick 6 months, that's close to LTR territory.
You obviously can't trust her again.
You're leaving for a few months anyways - just end things on your own terms and move on.
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07-26-2018, 12:59 PM
Thanks for the advice guys. Especially kaotic. She admitted that she was insecure cause she saw tons of tinder contacts on my phone example: "Lucy tinder". And thought I was banging girls on the side. I also never text her and even when she messages me I keep the convos short.
So she blamed her insecurities still I shouldn't have to put up with her disrespect messaging other dudes.
Have lost another A1 chick who I dated over 1.5 yrs since I was moving countries. It fucks with girls heads to know the relationship has a preestablished expiration date.
Decided to cut it off with her. The feelings and trust that we're there have evaporated for me. I won't write or tell her of my decision but will wait until she messages and even then won't reply. Keep the bitch in limbo.
Gonna bang a tinder sloot tonight. Thank you brethren
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07-26-2018, 01:05 PM
Well of course she's insecure - you're supposedly "with" her but she sees Lucy Tinder texting you.
Any person in that situation would be insecure.
NEVER give girls information they don't need to know, it makes sense why she's hitting up other dudes.
Nah man, just be real with her.
Tell her that the trust and feelings aren't really there anymore and that you're leaving on travel, so you want to end things on a good note as best as possible.
Super easy, super simple, even if she's crying about it.
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07-26-2018, 01:08 PM
Seems like you have it under control and are approaching from a position of "plenty," so there's no question what needs to happen here.
You've exposed something that whether it's real or just perceived, it's still gonna fuck with you. And i think what one of the other dudes said was kinda spot-on. She went all crazy and emotional, not because she did what she did, but because you caught her and she regrets getting busted, but not doing what she did.
You're going away for several months... Just clip her and let her be. There are a dozen more just like her and maybe a hundred more better than her, and you'll be just fine.
It doesn't seem like an attainable situation, but you've already decided that and are acting on it, so maybe you're just seeking a little validation/confirmation, etc.
So, here it is: Yep. Dump her. You'll be happier in the long run and when you meet another girl that doesn't have hangups on exes or random guys she meets because she has no friends--whatever. Get rid of her. Move onto something productive.
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07-26-2018, 01:19 PM
Again, thank you guys. Like dulceacido said I just wanted confirmation for what I knew I had to do.
My final question is do I go back to her house tomorrow to tell her in person and grab my shit or just text her and ask her to have my shit ready or what.
All I have are some nice name brand gym clothes there and I still have her apartment key which I should give back to her
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07-26-2018, 01:32 PM
Go back. Do it in person. Don't be a low-level douche. Recover all your property and personal belongings. Give her back her keys to her property. It's just common sense, right? No need to turn things into some shitburger. It didn't work out. You go do you. I'm gonna go do me. No hard feelings. Wish you luck. See you!
**bonus move**
If you're really done with her and done with all the "feelz", then dismiss her and keep her on a rotation as just casual sex. But NOT a relationship. She has lost that privilege. If you can't hold that frame, then just avoid her at all costs, but do it like a man. Don't just disappear, and don't fall for her bullshit emotional ploys. You have to approach it as something that is already over and predetermined and there is no way you'll change your mind.
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07-26-2018, 03:36 PM
If you got to go through a woman's phone then I would dump her. Insecurities does not deserve a relationship.
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07-26-2018, 11:44 PM
Just got back from pumping a tinder hoe and have more bangs set up for the weekend. Feeling much better than this morning!
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07-27-2018, 07:25 PM
If you are just banging her and not hanging out, obviously you got no feels for her. So just bang as usual.
You might want to start wrapping up.
Game on.
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07-27-2018, 11:04 PM
TLDR
The answer to your question is "both"
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07-28-2018, 01:58 PM
Did have feels for her, but it just dont like going out and doing shit. Id much rather hsve her cook something delicious and plow her all night. Also my schedule is occupied, i would only see her at night after the gym and we both study and have work too.
Anyways she messaged me and wants to talk, i yhink she cancelled the trip she was supposed to go on back to her province.