"This is one of the first eras where men have to bring something to the dating and flirting table beyond the very fact of their being a male who is willing to date a women. Which means that they have to actually respond to women’s cues. They have to learn how to read women."
This is an absolute total lie. I'm surprised she can get away with writing this, considering people now have the history of world (and U.S. culture) at their fingertips via the Internet.
There was NEVER a time when men didn't have to bring something to the "dating and flirting table." NEVER.
Men had to have jobs. They had to earn a decent wage. They had to have a place in society. They had to look respectable. They had to be able to pay for dates.
When disease was rampant, they had to be healthy. In the South, they had to come from decent families.
The reason men have dating issues now is because the rules changed -- but only for women. This is part and parcel of our society today, which combines the worst elements of Christian chivalry and pop culture feminism.
Women are allowed to have a laundry list of criteria for men and that's called "standards." But when men have these criteria, it's called "bigotry" or "shaming."
An easy way to expose this is to go on any dating site. All of them allow women to demand specific heights, salaries, and education for men. But if you're a man and
expect women to be a certain weight or you express "incorrect" political views, you get banned from the dating site.
Finally, the issue of "nice guys" is so wrongheaded it's mind-boggling. What's the other option? Being a bastard?
Anyone who has to navigate domestic life knows that the quickest ticket to divorce is to pair up with someone who is difficult and argumentative. No matter what feminists claim, that's the opposite of "nice."
If the entire world was composed of "bad-asses" and "bad boys" instead of nice guys, you'd get a dysfunctional culture. You'd get war. You'd get the Third World. This is the endgame of feminism.
And I don't want to hear about how awful nice guys are. Back in the 1940s and a few decades after that, men were expected to be nice and polite. If you put today's "bad boy" back in that culture, he'd be laughed at as a coarse, inarticulate reject.
Ironically, it looks like she married the ultimate "nice guy." So that alone should disqualify everything she says.
I'd love to meet the parents who are raising daughters to write articles like this. Or is it the colleges that are warping their minds?