Recently I was in a really sticky situation involving logistics and paperwork. It had been really stressful and I wasn't sure how I was going to get things done. Luckily, I had an American friend who knows her stuff and managed to list out all the steps/options I had available to me which I was able to systematically follow.
That got me thinking about the whole self-sacrifice and caring about others. I don't believe any Kiwi would do the same for me, that is, care enough about someone else to systematically walk through their problems or give a favor to someone/a friend that truly needs it. The only exceptions are my sisters, and only the oldest I believe would truly care if I wasn't family. And maybe parents' church friends, although I'm not sure if I would truly count those.
At the same time, I have 5-6 American friends who consistently care about me. A European friend also. I've met Americans on two separate occasions who invited me over to their place while in NZ and said I was welcome to visit them(I believe for free if necessary) and stay if I was to head over to the US for whatever reason. Truly warm hospitality. I've never experienced this in NZ aside from those instances. Kiwis are superficially friendly but ultimately cold and heartless.
Samseau made the argument a while back(I forgot which thread/post exactly), that America is a Christian nation with Christian values and that's why the "love thy neighbor" is so ingrained in the culture. Similarly, Europe is like that also but it's had more time for "secular rot".
I've always been agnostic and don't really have a reason to believe God exists but I've been thinking it's truly important for society to follow a Christian style morality/code of conduct. Maybe me also. I want to live a life with virtue and values. Instinctively I wanted to be selfish and only care about myself, but it seems "incorrect" to do so in a proper Christian society, so I'll strive to "love thy neighbor" more even when it hurts me at times.
Reading about r/K selection this "Christian values" also seems to be rooted in K selection. But that's also interesting, since not to race troll, but here in NZ the "minorities"(Maori/Pacific Islanders, which are generally more r selected) are more likely to be Christian than whites. The Christian minorities I'm guessing are more K than the secular minorities, but more r than the middle class secular whites. Just throwing something out there.
That got me thinking about the whole self-sacrifice and caring about others. I don't believe any Kiwi would do the same for me, that is, care enough about someone else to systematically walk through their problems or give a favor to someone/a friend that truly needs it. The only exceptions are my sisters, and only the oldest I believe would truly care if I wasn't family. And maybe parents' church friends, although I'm not sure if I would truly count those.
At the same time, I have 5-6 American friends who consistently care about me. A European friend also. I've met Americans on two separate occasions who invited me over to their place while in NZ and said I was welcome to visit them(I believe for free if necessary) and stay if I was to head over to the US for whatever reason. Truly warm hospitality. I've never experienced this in NZ aside from those instances. Kiwis are superficially friendly but ultimately cold and heartless.
Samseau made the argument a while back(I forgot which thread/post exactly), that America is a Christian nation with Christian values and that's why the "love thy neighbor" is so ingrained in the culture. Similarly, Europe is like that also but it's had more time for "secular rot".
I've always been agnostic and don't really have a reason to believe God exists but I've been thinking it's truly important for society to follow a Christian style morality/code of conduct. Maybe me also. I want to live a life with virtue and values. Instinctively I wanted to be selfish and only care about myself, but it seems "incorrect" to do so in a proper Christian society, so I'll strive to "love thy neighbor" more even when it hurts me at times.
Reading about r/K selection this "Christian values" also seems to be rooted in K selection. But that's also interesting, since not to race troll, but here in NZ the "minorities"(Maori/Pacific Islanders, which are generally more r selected) are more likely to be Christian than whites. The Christian minorities I'm guessing are more K than the secular minorities, but more r than the middle class secular whites. Just throwing something out there.