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02-08-2018, 08:25 AM
Have a few options on where I want to take my life. The thread title is one of them.
I’ve reached a point where I enjoy work and building my business more than anything else. I do think that gaming all the time hurts my productivity significantly. At the same time, so does travel - but I still want to see more of the world than I’ve seen.
I also know myself, and know that gaming + consistent travel at the same time is completely nuclear disaster for productivity.
So, what’s your thoughts - is doing the travel thing with a girl in tow a feasible option?
I’m less concerned about the money or living situation of it. I’m consistently generating five figures of passive income, so that’s handled. We’ve also spent enough time living together that it doesn’t concern me. We have traveled together before for an extensive period of time (about a month), with no real issues.
I guess my biggest concern is just keeping her busy enough so I can focus on work.
I have flat out told her I will boot her out of the apartment or house a couple days a week, and send her out on free walking tours or something to take photos that will benefit my business and brands. She has a knack for photography and would like to improve. She is also keen on trying to build up some freelance clients and maybe pursue her own business ventures down the road.
But, she is still a girl. And she is young, and the type of feminine who really needs that guidance in life. She has the intellect, but it’s going to fall on me to provide the guidance. It is a lot to bear on me, I can see that just by writing this post and having thought this all through many times already.
There are a million small details and nuances that you could question me on for pages, but I’m hoping this provides a macro enough level overview that some people will chime in with advice.
Have you ever tried to do this, and if so, how’d it turn out?
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02-08-2018, 08:29 AM
Yes. It was good while it lasted. Depending on her nationality visas will become an issue sooner or later. If you don’t marry her you’ll have to move on. Unless you’re ok with doing a shortlist of the same countries.
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02-08-2018, 08:39 AM
If you’re smart you’ll use it as an opportunity to get dual citizenship and perhaps some other benefits in exchange for your citizenship.
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02-08-2018, 08:55 AM
My dad used to say, "if you really want to get to know someone, go on a trip with them." Sounds like you've done that already. Seems legit. Maybe you're different from me, though. Just so much easier to travel alone. I hate waiting on people. It's unbearable. I'd rather just roll solo.
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02-08-2018, 09:21 AM
My experience having her work was that it interfered with domestic duties for chump change. Just from the hassle of getting her the tourist (far easier) vs. working visa (often impossible) it wasn’t worth it.
If you really really need the money, maybe. Even off the books many of the same problems. At most I’d advise her to work while in her home country. Keeps her from wasting all her time on the “visiting family and friends” routine.
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02-08-2018, 09:25 AM
Dude, fucking visas have been the bane of my existence since 2000... They will fuck your life up.
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02-08-2018, 09:49 AM
Kinda on the same situation here. Been with a girlfriend from FSU for a while and we traveled to some European countries together. Been pretty good so far. It's pretty easy because she does whatever I want to. What bothers me later on the travel is I when want to get some work done, her lack of things to do end up falling into me trying to do more stuff with her. I guess because I am actually "living" more than traveling, and for her is the traveling moment.
What I thought at the moment is:
- Her trying to do 1-2 sports, so she goes out of the home everyday for 2-4 hours;
- Pursuing some online master degree or general;
- Trying the business route. But as you said, I know for sure that I will be bombarded with questions 100% of the time and I will end up taking care of her stuff. No thanks;
- Her meeting new friends.
About visas: pain in the ass for a lot of countries, but founds some ways to be in the EU for a year.
Don't know about you, but for now I still send her back to her country for a while, so not living together 100% of the time.
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02-08-2018, 09:56 AM
That’s great advice, and suggestions about things to pass the time.
I definitely agree, the gym (separately) is a must. That’s ideally 2 hours she’s gone and 2 for you, too. Doing EVERYTHING together is a kiss of death for those of us who like space.
The meeting new friends thing is tough.
How many girls, other than loud-mouthed American ones, can really do that well, every month in a new place. Heh.
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02-08-2018, 10:00 AM
Not gonna happen. Don't depend on that.
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02-09-2018, 12:19 AM
The easiest thing for me was to get her massage certified. I got a daily professional massage from her which is what I really cared about. To be really good she’ll need an anatomy and physiology class.
She could do massages on the side as informal location independent income. A decent rate would be $40-60 cash per massage in the West. Do that 2-4 times per day and it’s a significant income while you work from home in the other room.
It’s almost a worthless skill in the developing world though. Anywhere, still kind of a hassle, unless it’s something she only does for family and friends.
Use word of mouth and keep it within a social circle. You don’t want to be accused of trafficking. Or have her going out to meet strangers at their place.
Of course you’re supposed to get formally licensed. But it’s not like practicing medicine. No law enforcement is gonna care if she’s giving friends a few massages for cash. There’s no law against giving your friends a back rub.
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02-09-2018, 11:35 AM
I met my bonnie wee lass during a vagrant adventure, she had my same plan literally: Go north,and figure it out.
A while passed till we got on as we relied on each other professionally for support and verifying our current status as to the trip.
We literally spent almost every waking minute together for the entire duration of the journey.
We discovered that despite our differing origins, we worked together like clockwork and had similar and/or complimenting interests and abilities.
Eventually my brambled noggin realized that I would forever and in coming eternities regret it if we parted ways.
I was very lucky ^_^
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02-11-2018, 02:18 AM
OK, she likes photography. Wedding/event photography is generally a very location dependent business, but editing wedding photographs is not.
If she's got skills in that department, maybe that's the direction to go in.
Remember, if you're already covering expenses for the two of you, she won't need to work for top dollar to generate a profit, because it will all be profit.
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02-11-2018, 05:20 AM
I'm in a similar situation, but sent her back home because things were heading south after trying it out for six months. Now she's pregnant and wants to keep it. FML
There are a lot of downsides to trying to make that situation work. What attracts you to them in the first place, becomes something you end up hating in the end.
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02-11-2018, 08:15 AM
Tried it three times and it failed miserably. What I learned: test, test, test. Start small, with low investment. We cannot give you good advice because there are 100s of things that can go wrong. You don't know beforehand what will cause trouble.
Start slow. See if it works and if it does not cut her loose.
I have met a few couples who have done it succesfully... but its hard.
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02-11-2018, 09:09 AM
Yes, I agree. Every situation like this will have huge differences from as big where you can both go with visas to as small as whether you like the same foods.
Why did yours not work out, if you don’t mind?