Quote: (08-17-2017 07:28 AM)Lagavulin Wrote:
How were you able to achieve this?
It's not that easy to simply switch off, especially if worries are work or finance related.
Excellent question thank you.
In my experience the idea of worries being an on or off thing is in fact part of the problem. There exists this idea that there is either worrying that keeps you up at night or you are in a beach chair somewhere not thinking about anything. While certainly the beach chair sounds better neither are a solution to giving up on worrying.
Worrying usually seems to be tied to some outcome. My solution to giving up on worrying is to break down the steps toward the desired outcome. An honest evaluation will help you figure out what needs to be done. In many cases people who are constantly worried about finances simply spend or are contractually obligated to spend more than there income. So instead of either cutting expenses, raising their income or both they "worry." An honest evaluation may reveal simple steps to reverse worrying. In the case of many normal working Americans they spend $1200 a year on cable for example which as employees they may have had to earn $1500 pre tax to pay for. If they make say $40,000 a year, this is 3.75% of their earnings. So this means that a significant portion of their work goes toward being fed programming that causes more anxiety... A couple more things like this and they have regained control of 10% of their expenses. Flipping it back around to the positive side would reduce the worry of such a person drastically, and reduce the associated compounding problems such as credit card debt, another source of worry.
In no way am I saying this describes you its just an example of where the realization then a step-plan reverses the ravages of worry.
Personally in my case I also used to be prone to doing stupid things that are distractions. I like buying cars to flip but rarely make money. Instead of making money I end up with a driveway full of cars, constant projects, time taken away from my real business, multiple insurance bills, and "worry" about how much money I will make or lose. When I stopped, my worry went down.
Then, there is the past or past mistakes. It is a mistake to worry about something you already did. If in the example above I lost $1000 on a car then instead of worrying the sting of losing should simply be a reminder for me and I have to tell myself that these projects consume time and money and are only going to add to burden of worry. What to do with the free time and money is a great problem to have.
Take a look at my
NIPS thread it is somewhat related.
All of my examples are small scale but I assure you if the principle works small it works big. When you view all the problems as a sort of game to play and go for the outcome you want, worry has no place and no involvement.
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