[rapaz12]

Today I trailed a woman for a little and eventually decided to give up and went back to my office building. After entering the elevator, to my surprise, the same woman entered. Just as I was formulating an opener, a woman from my job started to talk to me. I wanted to ignore her and open the woman, but since I'm too polite I said as little as possible to her. However, by the time I finished the other woman got off.

The other day something like this happened when I was on the street speaking to someone I hadn't seen in awhile. I wanted to cut him off and just open the woman, but since I thought it would be rude or weird, I didn't open the woman.

A similar thing occurred in my post in my journal
thread-50811...pid1624899

I have several other examples, but the idea is the same. I keep seeing women I want to open when other people are talking to me. Or, I see a woman I want to open, but someone I know professionally or someone that I feel ashamed to open in front of is with me.

How should I handle it?

[godzilla]

Realistically you don't have to open every girl you see. I probably wouldn't open in front of a co-worker personally. But there is no reason for you to be ashamed to go talk to a girl in front of anyone.

[King of Monkeys]

If you're in a more open space like a park or a mall, you could tell the person you're talking to hold on for a minute and go talk to them. Depending on your relationship with the person you were originally talking to, you could make up an excuse for why you had to talk to that person. You could say they looked like a close family friend you used to know and you wanted to be sure. Although if they're a friend, they probably won't care as much if you're going to flirt with a girl. I would just make it brief; maybe make a direct comment how you think she's cute, ask for a number, and get it out of the way quickly so the friend isn't waiting too long.

Something like an elevator would be a little trickier. Just as well, if that woman is working in the same office building it's even riskier if things go sour. You could try seguing into a group conversation to include the other girl, then slowly shift your focus to the girl you really want to talk to.

[PapayaTapper]

If the woman from your job is attractive then you actually may have gotten some accidental nice social proof. Even she isn't it could help your case in the event you run into your "target"woman again There's value in being seen engaged in conversation with another human...even if it's just a co worker

Generally speaking though there's nothing worse than regretting not seizing the moment. You could either say " excuse me" to your co worker and open the woman as planned or if you're skillful enough you can weave the target into your conversation Example:

I was at a bar on a first date when 3 stunners ( w a couple chodester dudes) sat down at a table next to us. Right away I noticed the girls had EE accents Conventional wisdom says "bird in hand" ...Long story short I pulled the table into our convo and before the night was over we were all sitting together and I had the WhatsApp for what turned out to be a Miss Czech Republic runner up who I'm currently laying in bed in Spain with as I write this

"Fortis Fortuna Adiuvat", Fortune favors the bold isn't just a cool tattoo

[rapaz12]

(08-09-2017 04:10 PM)godzilla Wrote:  

Realistically you don't have to open every girl you see.

That's very true. It's just that sometimes I feel like I'm supposed to open when I have longshot scenarios where I thought the woman was gone, but somehow she pops up right in front of me later.