Quote: (07-05-2017 06:23 PM)Delta Wrote:
My takeaway is surprise at how little has changed in the past 25 years.
Ah, but it has changed.
I take your point for sure, as far as the talking points go. What has changed though, is that back then, the only people who would have seen this were people who
happened to be watching that tv show at the time it was on, and that's it.
Videotaping shows to watch later wasn't
that popular back then, kind of a nerdy librarian impulse, and even if you did, how would you share it widely?
It is a sad fact that men and their experiences and problems existed, back then,
mostly in isolation.
You didn't think that what you were experiencing and feeling was shared by millions of men not only across the country but across the world. You thought you were alone with your thoughts, and that the way your chick was misbehaving was specific to her.
You saw guys who were naturally good with women, and thought it was just something intrinsic to the individual, not a skill that could be learned.
You couldn't really share your feelings and doubts about women and the world with your friends, feeling as you did that you were the only one having them. What if you got mocked or dismissed? Better just to suck it up and get on with things.
It was the reach and the anonymity of the internet that changed all that. Men began to realize that women were AWALT, and all sorts of other guys were having exactly the same experiences they were.
And that changed everything. Comparing notes, learning the statistics and studies that gave the lie to feminist propaganda, reading lay reports, and figuring out a way to be successful with women that fit your personality.
Men finally had a fighting chance, and I for one am grateful to the internet, and places like this forum for this very reason.
I think that it is this very technology, that allows wide instantaneous dissemination, as well as anonymity, that will take down philosophies like feminism which rely on the isolation of men, and ignorance of female nature, and the constant subterranean feelings of shame.
So, you are right, all of the problems and solutions were probably there all along, but if men didn't have access to the vocabulary to define their experiences, as well as access to other men to put their heads together and decide what to do about it all, it was as if none of it existed at all.
And you left it to the media to tell you what to think about it.
For all of the challenges of today, I am so glad it is now and not then.