[Suits]

Why do you only have one girlfriend?

[StackGsMan]

OP, I have a strategy that I've never used but that I came up with as a perverted teenager and used to tell girls and it would get them visibly turned on. The reason I haven't used it is because almost every girl I've wanted head from has given it to me, with one exception. The others I simply just wanted pussy. Keep in mind though that most girls that put my cock in their mouth at least once I usually return the favor and eat out.

This idea plays on the whole master/servant or dominant/submissive idea.

Tell the girl that you are going to teach her to deepthroat just so she knows how, but specifically say that you are going to "train" her.

Tell her that the first week she can not suck more than an inch of your dick, which will generally just be the head. Tell her by the end of the week she has to learn how to make you cum just by sucking on that one inch. When she does that you'll "allow" her another inch. While she is working on that first inch and also moving forward take control of the situation. Tell her, "babe" or "bitch" or whatever you like, "look me straight in the eyes while you have that inch in your mouth". Slap her hand away when she tries to use it to hurry the process along, and tell her you'll only allow her to use one hand to hold it in place.

Basically turn it into a kinky mission for her to accomplish, and if she does a good job try to give your best sexual performance, including oral, either later that day or the next time you can, as a reward.

Again, I haven't used the strategy but every girl I've told it too over the years has visibly gotten turned on or told me they were wet.

[Steelex]

(05-08-2017 07:37 PM)TigOlBitties Wrote:  

She'd love sucking dick if you were Channing Tatum.

That's the damn truth.

[Rhyme or Reason]

I forget who said it, but someone coined the phrase:

"never trust a woman who doesn't go down on you"

If she doesn't WANT to suck your dick, she's not really that into you.

[Leonard D Neubache]

(05-08-2017 03:37 PM)BrandonCodi Wrote:  

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I've talked to her about these things before but she says she feels self conscious giving head? I tell her that she is great and has nothing to worry about. I don't know. She just overthinks a lot. I don't necessarily want to break up with her. She is really great girl and has a lot of other things going for her and she cares a lot about me. I don't think this reason is enough to break it off, but if this were to be combined with several others then I would have a problem. I just wonder if anyone has been in a situation like this before and how/if they were able to overcome it.

Y'know, it's really bizarre. There are times I think "what are the odds". See, when I was a sissy, skinny pushover it just so happened that every girl I dated was "too self conscious" to give head, and they always seemed to "overthink" it, even though they really "cared a lot about me".

Conversely, once I put on some muscle and started being a man I miraculously dated a string of girls that couldn't get enough of the the taste of dick.

Like I said. "What are the odds".

I'm not hating on you, young player, but your game needs work if you're even in this relationship in the first place. Fact is, you had to settle for a lazy bitch for a reason. I doubt you turned down a string of cock-guzzling cum-sluts to spend quality time with this girl because "she really cares for you".

[Super_Fire]

I had a girlfriend like that once.

I dumped her.

[Jetset]

Cum dodging is an unacceptable defect. Send it back for a refund.

[Baronxrus]

Next this hoe are you kidding me buddy. Women are made to suck fuck and love​ your sperm.

Next this bitch

[DrugAdvisor]

Suits quote

"Why do you only have one girlfriend?"

Main problem right here.

[Old SEA Dog]

(05-08-2017 02:33 PM)Malone Wrote:  

Next.

Women will do whatever to please you, if you're attractive enough. You are not, apparently, and you didn't correct that shit early.

You're not married, why would you accept that behaviour?

True, this is unacceptable behavior from a GF, but if you are married it is even MORE important not to accept such behavior. One thing is for sure: as long as you are not confident you can keep your woman well-behaved even if you marry her, marriage is never gonna work for you. But contrary to what some bitter divorced and unmarried guys will tell you, there are advantages to marriage too. (That's why I have done it five times until hitting it 95% right at last.) So actually OP now has a chance to practice what he'd do if his future wife will be of the "Why does the bride smile? Because she won't have to suck his dick any more" variety. Don't just next her without warning. You will learn nothing by that. Tell her what you need and insist she gives it to you. It may work, and if it doesn't you can next her then. And if you next her, avoid repeating the error of getting attached to a girl like that in the first place.

[ExploringReality]

Yeah yeah, had the same problem, a girl that claimed she didn't like to blow. Might be true, as she sucks at sucking, I'm working on training her properly now. This is how I handled the problem.

After a couple of sex sessions where I imposed my dominance over her I revealed my kink: shibari. She was instantly turned on by the thought of being all tied up and being at my complete disposal. And so I proceed with a classic double column along the arms that ended nicely in her waist passing by the labia (this makes her pussy experience pressure and movement whenever you decide to tighten or loosen the rope). Then I proceeded to fuck her head.

That's it. No bargaining, no talk, no nothing, just have her all tied up and then use her mouth. Now she very cutely tries to get it all inside, and excuses for not knowing how to properly fellate. So just do that. And if the relationship is too old to impose a new frame; then start a new one when you impose a dominant frame since the beginning. Aaaah, if only I knew this with my first Gf...that girl had more times her hair cut than my dick sucked over 5 years. I love the manosphere.

[Baphomet]

(05-08-2017 08:24 PM)Rhyme or Reason Wrote:  

I forget who said it, but someone coined the phrase:

"never trust a woman who doesn't go down on you"

If she doesn't WANT to suck your dick, she's not really that into you.

Correct. My current GF literally sucks my dick and swallows like it's the Fountain of Youth. Recent text - "I love waking you up with my mouth on your cock!"

(05-09-2017 09:01 AM)Old SEA Dog Wrote:  

Don't just next her without warning. You will learn nothing by that. Tell her what you need and insist she gives it to you. It may work, and if it doesn't you can next her then. And if you next her, avoid repeating the error of getting attached to a girl like that in the first place.

Rhyme or Reason was right. She's just not that in to him. Talking about it will do nothing constructive for the relationship.

OP, she knows that you want oral and she knows she just doesn't feel those kind of hots for you. Sit her down, tell her that you need a GF who does feel that way, and end it.

Life's short, and there is another girl out there (probably closer than you think) who will wear out her knees sucking you.

[sch]

Ya it sounds like she's not attracted to you.

Next the bitch.

[Darkwing Buck]

You mean ex-girlfriend

[RatInTheWoods]

Also there are two potential issues here:

1) Sucking your cock
2) swallowing the load

Some will do neither, but generally the real issue is the swallow. Some will not do 1) to avoid 2)

[Old SEA Dog]

(05-09-2017 09:50 AM)Baphomet Wrote:  

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(05-09-2017 09:01 AM)Old SEA Dog Wrote:  

Don't just next her without warning. You will learn nothing by that. Tell her what you need and insist she gives it to you. It may work, and if it doesn't you can next her then. And if you next her, avoid repeating the error of getting attached to a girl like that in the first place.

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OP, she knows that you want oral and she knows she just doesn't feel those kind of hots for you. Sit her down, tell her that you need a GF who does feel that way, and end it.

Rhyme or Reason was right. She's just not that in to him. Talking about it will do nothing constructive for the relationship.

You missed the key words in my suggestion: "Tell her what YOU NEED and INSIST she gives it to you." That's all about changing the frame, and it is not the same as "Talking about it." I would never suggest trying to discuss with her things like her feelings about it. What she feels about it is a legitimate problem, but it is also HER problem. What she DOES is what is important to HIM. In short, I suggest a slight edit of your own suggestion "Sit her down, tell her you NEED a GF who does feel that way, and [if she does not agree to change,] end it" (Emphasis and brackets added to your version.) Mind, I am not saying that all GFs will relent, but nonetheless, I have done it successfully a couple of times, including with a wife whose enthusiasm decreased over the years. She changed dramatically once she understood that she can be history if necessary. And if she refuses, it looks like we agree she should know why she is being dumped.

[lonewolf1992]

(05-08-2017 01:22 PM)BrandonCodi Wrote:  

The title is pretty self explanatory. It's not just those though, she doesn't like giving handjobs either. There's not a lot of foreplay for me before sex. It's always me getting her warmed up. Has anyone been in a similar situation to this? It's really frustrating when she starfishes every single god damn time

I made the mistake to get involved with a girl with no libido at all. I thought 1 year and half of relationship would change her mind, Since back then I used to think women were 'equal'. Nothing changed, she refused to fuck with me. And even in my blue pill days I manned up and dropped her. You should do the same Before you get more beta.

[Simeon_Strangelight]

(05-08-2017 04:56 PM)Serious Sam Wrote:  

My buddy's ex girlfriend gave him similar reasons for never giving him head. "I don't think I'll be any good at it." "I'm just not into that." etc, etc.

Then come to find out she used to throat dick like a porn star at every party. The point being, her reasons are bullshit. A girl will slobber the dick of a man she craves, and your girl doesn't crave you. If you're ok with that, then carry on. If not, then consider other options.

There are only 2 options:

1. She is truly not overly sexual even for the hottest man on earth (very rare)

2. She is not into you for various reasons.

Now you may be able to do something about reason 2, but it is possible that you cannot do anything. There are a few girls who simply don't like giving blowjobs because they are so selfish and "empowered" that they don't care if a guy gets off.

If you meet such a one, then why the fuck be in a LTR with her? She is a bad lay and you move on.




https://therationalmale.com/2015/07/05/h...-the-bull/

[realologist]

If it's that important you should dump her or find a Hoover side piece.

If a chick really loves you she will want to please you. She may say "I'm not good. I don't know how to do it. Excuse 3." But if she is willing to try and learn that's a good sign.

For example I dated a chick that couldn't suck dick. It was rumored her friend could. One day her friend came over and taught her on me. Now that's a GF. That's love.

[General Stalin]

If you feel unfulfilled enough with this girl to make a topic on a message board about how to deal with it, then know that it will only get worse to the point where it becomes the thing that breaks you apart anyway.

I've never invested enough time in a woman to call her a "girlfriend" if she didn't satisfy me in bed so I can't put myself accurately in your shoes. Girls who didn't do what I liked in the bedroom I would just bang once and then not meet up with them again. The best advice I can give you if you don't want to cheat on her is to convince her to start giving you head. If she is "self-conscious" then you need to comfort her and tell her you will guide her and teach her how to please you.

[Steve McQueen]

If you have to ask the question you already know the answer, fire her ass and find somebody who will suck you dry, this is not a sustainable footing for a long term relationship especially if getting head is important to you, you'll be miserable otherwise

[heavy]

+1

(05-08-2017 02:10 PM)Jack_Smith Wrote:  

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Try this and report back. I found the link in a thread here on women who cannot cum. Really good starting point, fun reading, and over a decade of success stories about making women cum faster and harder than they ever thought possible.
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I had to search a while to find this post to bump it, that's how well this worked. I did this a few nights ago with a chick I've been seeing. I posted the main paragraph from that link, but don't cheat yourself...go read the entire thing, it's not long.

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The best way to “experiment ” is for the woman to relax over a bunch of pillows, face down, bum up in the air and legs comfortably wide apart. In that position with her guy either at the side, straddling one leg or sort of in the middle, the best way is with his thumb - inserted and pointing down towards the bed. If you press the thumb into the vagina until the heel of the thumb is pressing into her lips the GSpot will be right under the fat part at the end of your thumb. It’s no harder to find than that. It is a small bump roughly the same size as that fat part at the end of your thumb too so it feels a little like there’s another thumb pressing back. (ALL women have this - all women may not react the same way) Start to rub it. You can rub like you’re trying to get a spot out - back and forth or sideways or in a circular motion - it doesn’t matter. DO NOT do it too hard at first but once it puffs up and gets a little hard, that's when you can get rough with it. She'll feel like she has to go for a pee about then. Ignore her. Hold her down. Tell her to go ahead. Ladies you aren't going to pee. It just comes from some kind of build-up and "about to release" feeling. Just hang on and tell him harder or faster to increase that feeling. The first time or two it takes a few minutes. Once you've done it a few times you can usually get the first orgasm in under two minutes - no matter what and then repeats every 30 seconds to a minute for as long as she can stand it. An average night means between 8 and 15 giant "O's". A marathon brings between 35 and 50 !!! Trouble walking the next day but Man) Man is it worth the shakes the next day.
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What I did was less scripted and set up. (Yes, I'm still working on making chicks do whatever I want, but for now, here's how I did it.)

We had just gone to bed and she was laying on her side, ass and back to me (we'd argued a lil earlier so there was some tension ). I hadn't put any moves on yet, and in a brilliant stroke of genius, I decided to use the thumb technique.

I slowly massaged my hand down around her butt, in between her legs, eventually ending at her happy area. I gradually moved my thumb in to her vag and started working the instructions above. Once she was into it, I felt comfortable to have her prop up on a big pillow.

She came. She didn't squirt, which was fine, that's not what I was going for...but I'll be using this way more in the future. Shit this is gold, Jerry, gold.

She came again with my dick, way harder. She was shaking. I'm the most skeptical person on earth, and would roll my eyes reading this, my own post...but the thumb thing worked.



Oh, and she did thank me with a nice old fashioned.

Edit: Thumb really started getting tired toward the end.