[Russian Immigrant]

How do you guys usually arrange the meeting place of the first date from daygame if it's a day or more ahead? In a huge city like London, same day meets are rarely possible, so usually have to plan a date in advance, sometimes up to a week or so.

Several years ago, I'd always have a first date in a bar, but nowdays I try to streamline the process and bring chicks to my place straight away.

What I usually notice is that if I meet a chick in daytime, and I pitch a meet over text directly at my place in advance, it tends to generate cold feet / flakiness, unless she's super down in the first place. I am thinking of circumventing this by arranging the day / approximate time of the place, but putting off the precise pitch of "drinks at my place" till the day of the date. So for example, today I had the following text exchange:

-"Hi Hannah, its V man. Was good meeting you yesterday. Drink tonight or tomorrow?"
-"Hey! Sounds good, lets do tomorrow night?"
-"Cool, I'll be free around 9, let's do then"
-"Sounds good!"
-"Great, let's talk tomorrow and arrange the meeting place. See you tomorrow night"

Normally what I'd do is suggest a date at my place directly; she might go for it, or she might decline completely. But the extra lag of over a day isn't too favourable unless she's already made up her mind to fuck (and I have no way of knowing since my initial interaction with her was too brief).

So tomorrow I intend to send her something like "Hey, so tonight at 9 is on. Let's have a drink at my place? I can meet you by X".

Your thoughts?

[dirty_old]

If I get that sense I might scare the cat, I've had better luck just giving the address/ place to meet and being intentionally vague about what the plan is.

Seems shady but also seems to get their curiosities up. "i've got something planned" or "we'll figure it out from there"

Sometimes then a walk around the block, to the store, or smoking weed and then girls who wouldn't originally come upstairs are up for it.



As for timing I don't have much advice, there are always going to be a decent percentage that drop off for whatever reason.

I might be off base, but your last text at least, and textbook style..in general... might be coming across a little too routine/player or even try hard.

not sure if this is just because of the fact it is an example...

if possible, try to throw something brief but playful in there. "callback humor" to the time you met her would be ideal. maybe "v-man" in your case is enough..

It's a fine line between leading the interaction and saying too much. If you are sticking to just straight logistics, I would try to leave it with her having said the last message, without the confirmation on your part (if at all possible), OR drop some bait in that last text so she responds, or at least gets curious. "Great, I've got something special planned" "Great, wear a dress" (love to do this to a certain kind of girl, the looks/ shit tests are priceless when she realizes you're not planning to take her out) "Great, just picked up ingredients for ________" or something like that

That said she is responding positively and seems into it, nice work!

[TheMaleBrain]

I usually go for the first meet at a bar or a coffee place.
Make sure you sit next to her so you can escalate.

Roosh, on his world tour, described how to get the lay by talking about something in your home at the beginning of the date, and after a bounce, mention it to bounce to your place.
This way the cat isn't scared.

As for logistics - schedule the meetup place near your home (including the bounce if you need it). This way logistic is out of the way.