[Harami]

Okay I'll start the thread, as soon as I join the gym. Also, I've caught a viral/ fungal infection.

Edit: Went to the nearby gym. The trainer has asked me to start from Sunday.

[Cobra]

Harami, just make sure you have a plan at the gym and not just go there and try things out for a month. This is EXTREMELY important. Lifters much better than me will tell you that. Read about compound lifts especially.

I started with Stronglifts 5x5 .. I think 3 days a week about an hour each of lifting. The other 2 days i still went to the gym and did sprints at that time. I saw results within a month having not ever lifted before that.

I'm not promoting it as god's gift, nor pretending to ve a fitness expert but as a beginner it worked for me at the age of 35.

[Harami]

My base goal is to lose the leg muscles/fat so I can wear better pants/jeans. Upper body, I don't want to end up looking like a bodybuilder, I prefer the athletic structure. Does that make any sense?

[ksbms]

How did you guys get from getting numbers to leg muscles?

[Cobra]

(03-09-2017 09:04 PM)Harami Wrote:  

My base goal is to lose the leg muscles/fat so I can wear better pants/jeans. Upper body, I don't want to end up looking like a bodybuilder, I prefer the athletic structure. Does that make any sense?

No dude that doesn't make any sense. Please explain. Can you please start with explaining how your "leg muscles" got so large? I think a lot of us are curious.

You're getting way ahead of yourself about body "structure" etc. Given that, why don't we take a few steps back and start with you going into the gym. That's it; nothing more as a first step. Otherwise, I think you'll set your expectations way too high.

Ksbms is right. Let's not derail this thread. I would suggest ypu start your self improvement thread immediately and post a link here.

[Harami]

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Legs got 'so large' by playing football.

[Fightersword]

(03-08-2017 12:52 AM)XPQ22 Wrote:  

(03-07-2017 02:14 PM)Fightersword Wrote:  

I think lately after online dating stuff exploded and every girl started using Tinder or what have you that numbers have become even less convertible than they used to be. On campus it feels like you're competing with that 'horde' moreso than any man on campus.

I feel sad that it has to be this way for a lot of college-aged young men. I was in college in the mid-late 1990s, none of us had cell phones until the very end, and I think young guys don't know just how thirsty the girls were before they had social media feeding them potential dick all day long.

If I were in my early 20s at this point, in college, and forced to use the apps I'd probably be writing girls my own age off as being too highly in-demand, and shooting for slightly older girls with smaller social circles who aren't in school anymore.

I typically try not to rely on tinder and stuff for these college girls, but even when you cold approach a girl as a college student now you're still competing with that horde. You could be the only man with the balls to cold approach on campus (and depending on the university, you may very well be. very liberal universities do not have the manliest of men to put it lightly), and you'll still lose out to Tinder or whatever the chick uses sometimes. They tend to have the attention span of an ant and they'll flake all the time for some mystery meat from Tinder (this happens a lot if you take a number and try to set up a date, regardless of how interested they are initially. this shouldn't really be a surprise to anyone though), or a million other things. Don't even think about just trying to get and actually use numbers; if you don't want to aim for Same days in college from cold approaches you may as well just use Tinder too, because your number conversion rate is laughably low. Obviously if I tighten my game a lot of this might become a lot less of a problem, but even so these are some major challenges for college guys trying to cold approach on campus.

It seems like a novelty problem. The girl may be interested in you up front, but she can so easily flip to another guy and then another guy that her brain becomes hardwired for this 'new guy novelty', that you and your approach become old news very fast. It's like some sort of social porn for her: get tired of one person flip to another chat message or another profile and on and on. It's very hard especially if you're inexperienced to have the kind of novelty required to keep a girl high on these social apps interested, especially if you don't go for the same day.