[BetaNoMore]

I'm sure you guys run into this all the time. You just meet a girl, she likes you after you go on an insta-date. You try to set up another meet but your schedule is packed so you can't meet until end of the week. She can't meet at the end of the week and can't meet until late next week.

How do you keep the momentum and her feels going if there's a gap of 10-14 days before you can meet? I hate texting back and forth but if I have to, I'll do it. If you do have to text, what's the general gameplan in this situation to avoid lengthy, and even worse, boring texts? I suppose you could text something that reminded of you of her or your conversation every 3-4 days or so?

[jselysianeagle]

Excellent question, and one I'm pondering right now as well. This has happened to me off and on and I must admit, there have been times when I've been unable to keep the momentum with just texting for a whole week (or more), with the result being that I've lost a few prospects.

Like you, I don't like pointless texting back and forth - I'd much rather text/call just to discuss details of the meet.

Any experts care to chime in?

[goodington]

You already had an insta-date and it went well enough to warrant a second meetup, so you can be less worried that she's going to simply forget about you in the intervening period. If you keep texting her it risks coming off as too thirsty, so unless you have legitimate reasons to get in touch I would not do so. If it makes sense in your situation you could send a "meeting friends at xyz tonight, you should join us" even if you expect her to say no.

If you created enough interest during the insta-date she will be eager to see you again, so don't sweat it.

[Vill@in]

Well any way you cut it you're going to lose momentum. I would strongly advise against texting daily. You risk looking needy (like goodington mentioned) and chances are you'll run out of stuff to talk about and the conversation will get stale and boring.

Maybe a few short messages every 2 days or so? Also avoid the *yawn* "how was your day" questions. Just do your best to keep it exciting and fresh as best you can. And definitely have other prospects you're gaming in the meantime. That way if she ends up flaking, no big deal.