[XPQ22]

So this is something that's a little outside my realm of expertise, mostly I do online and night game but for the past several months I've been pretty much rolling with the same girl I like a lot, plus lots of hours of work and the fact that online game is generally shit during the winter months and I haven't really had much time or inclination to invest in serious gaming.

Past week or so I've been hitting it off with a 29 y/o chick I reconnected with on social media from who I knew back in the day in this area; she lives in the Midwest now. She's been texting me pretty regularly with "elderly chat let's get to know each other again I'm sort of unhappy with where I live I want to travel and check out possible new places to live, I think I want to live on the East Coast/NYC again" sort of stuff. She was into me 6 or 7 years ago but for various reasons it didn't work out, she's thin and still looks good pushing 30, though.

If this were a random online chick nearby I'd have just said to meet up with me at one of my usual logistics-friendly spots ages ago, but all I've got to work with is she says she's planning on heading east during March or something.

Basically my hope is she's doing the equivalent of "girl-pipelining"; young women are often down for new dick when they travel and it's easy for them to rationalize it as being a fling or "he would be my boyfriend except for distance", and I'm certainly willing to help accommodate that.

With local online chicks I never try to romance/sexualize the conversation before meeting in person, I don't think it helps - it's just cocky/funny/elderly chat right until the (as soon as possible) in person meet. But in this case I feel I don't have much of a choice as I want to at least get a sense if she's down for something or I'm wasting my time keeping this interaction rolling. I don't have a lot of experience "escalating via text."

If I knew how to successfully transition from "Yeah, Boston has its good parts and bad parts and there are some areas that are still affordable and blah blah blah" chat to "You should text me a pic of that hot ass in a thong, babe" my position might be a little more clear.

Granted it's a longshot, but it's something I have time for the moment. It seems like a decent prospect of getting an "opportunity lay" without causing much stress on the other situations I have going on; even for a 5% chance of having the pussy come right to me for a weekend I'll make the effort to put my bid in.

Thoughts?

[LeoneVolpe]

I've kept my reply generalized, so the information can be used by both XPQ22 (OP) and other posters in similar situations as well.

Others may disagree, but I see nothing wrong in chatting this chick up since you've already got a chick you're banging. This is sort of a "bonus" opportunity. If something comes of it, great -- if not, then what have you really lost? Now if you were single and not developing a "pipeline" (heh) of girls that live closer to you and instead were putting all your eggs in one basket with this internet chick, then I'd be more concerned.

In high school, I didn't have much game. My looks would attract girls, but my "betaness" would turn them off just as quickly. Once I started developing my game, I started using the internet to "reconnect" with girls I used to go to school with. Truth be told, it's really not hard to escalate via text/message.

Here's a formula I've used:

. Keep your first few messages short and sweet

I've had success opening with:

"Hey stranger, long time no talk!"

Once they respond, you can expand the conversation by sharing a funny memory from your shared past. This helps to establish common ground, and once you've managed to do this -- you can start expanding the conversation into what they've been up to lately.

Note: Don't share every memory you have of her at once, spread them out over time. While some may consider it flattering you remember them so well, others may find it creepy -- as if you've had nothing better to do with your time than constantly think about them, or your shared past.

. Use a combination of stories from your past and present to get the ball rolling

If you live in a big, "exciting" city and she still lives in "flyover country," tell her about all the fun stuff there is to do where you live. If a girl has any interest in you at all, this might get her mind thinking about the possibility of a future trip to see you (AKA pussy delivery). After enough rapport is built you can even mention "If you ever find yourself in (fill in the blank), you should hit me up." This offer will be more enticing if you've already built your city up as a cool place to be, obviously.

. Escalation

A great way of doing this is by taking something she's said, interpreting it in a dirty way and making a plausibly deniable joke about it to "test the waters." If she plays along, you might just have a "live one" on your hands. If she doesn't, you can downplay it fairly easily.

It's just something you'll have to "feel out," but if conversation is going well and you're obviously building rapport you can make a more overt flirty comment. As they say, "Fortune favors the bold." Personally, I'd rather risk getting shot down for being "too bold" than earn myself a stint in "Palcatraz" for never making a move. Besides, even you embarrass yourself, it's not like you have to worry about the awkwardness of seeing a long distance chick everyday.

. Don't be afraid to have longer conversations with online girls.

When dealing with local girls, I recommend keeping your messages logistics based and save your talking for an actual date. But with long distance girls, the only way you can get anything going is by talking to them at greater length, so I say chat them up about a wide variety of topics. The more you talk, the more likely they are to make a comment you can interpret in a funny, sexual way and make the aforementioned plausibly deniable joke to test the waters and escalate.