I recently came across this blog. I don't usually care much for "red-pill women" blogs, but the authoress does not describe herself as "red-pill" or appear to have any connection to the manosphere, and there were some interesting pieces of advice she has for her fellow women:
Overall, she focuses a lot on giving women what we would consider to be red-pill relationship advice. She emphasizes to women that submission and vulnerability are not bad things, that men want to own their women, that casual sex lowers a woman's value, etc.
The only negative thing is that she does fall into the "you can have it all" "you go grrl" mindset of having a high-powered career and a loving husband and kids, but that is a minor flaw, in my opinion, considering the good advice she has for women that they might actually listen to since it is coming from another woman.
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The reason we feel like men want sex all the time, is not because they DO want sex all the time.
It is because men are always trying to get women to ‘open’. And we interpret their advances, their touching etc, as a push for sex with us. That is not necessarily true.
To ‘Open’ means to not be separate from the moment and from connection with him.
We pull away out of fear that he just wants sex.
But what if, instead, we didn’t pull away? What would happen? What if we just stayed with that fear we felt and melted into whatever emotion came next? (no separation from the moment)
What if we allowed a man to ‘open’ us? To influence us? To connect with us?
Well then; men might want sex; because that’s the natural progression of things.
But men’s deeper desire (which not every man can articulate) is to have you belong to him.
The sign that a woman belongs to a man is her openness to him (not to lots of different men).
Do I really have to say out loud that men want to own a woman and a woman wants her man to own her?
If a man owns a woman, she feels safe. But it takes a courageous woman to be willing to be owned. And a courageous man to ‘step in’ and take ownership despite the fact that a woman will say a bunch of things that she doesn’t mean.
I would even suggest that men’s actual desire is for a woman to be open to him – not to have sex with her.
It is not about sex.
It is about a woman being open with her energy. To translate: to be open and energetic and faithful to him; open to his influence and open to him having command in her life.
A woman who is taking her energy everywhere – trying to take attention from a bunch of different men, is usually not being faithful and selective with whom she shares her energy with. And we lose out on the good men when we do this.
Out of a need for “freedom” and equality – we sacrifice the passionate, deep connection that comes with men wanting to own us and us relaxing into our desire to be owned.
This is often what men are trying to get from a woman – faithfulness; a feeling that her feminine energy is going to him only, not just to any random douche on the street.
Is there something really wrong with allowing a man to have command and direction in your life, if he does it out of love?
And if his ability to command you (FOR you) is better than your own?
Absolutely not.
If it were so wrong, 50 Shades of Gray wouldn’t be so damn popular. We are too afraid to live out our fantasies.
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What do you suppose men sacrifice when they sleep around a lot?
A committed relationship? Maybe.
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A good reputation? Yes, men can jeopardise their future potential to have a high value mate through perpetual promiscuity (See the book social Psychology and Human Sexuality, 2001).
But more importantly – what, on a reproductive/biological level, do men sacrifice?
Quality.
They sacrifice quality.
And that’s quality of the women. Many men who sleep around don’t mind this; all they are looking for is novelty in experience anyway. Almost any willing woman will do.
It’s still a sacrifice – in terms of a relationship and in terms of a reputation for the purposes of having a relationship with a high value woman though.
Of course, the ACT of sex carries with it very little sacrifice for a man. In fact, it’s all gain to the male limbic system. Get in and get out – hopefully. Unless she stalks him.
But quality is still the sacrifice for a promiscuous man – and that’s why men will try to get the highest value woman they can for a relationship – and have low standards for casual sex.
Women might be attracted to promiscuous men and have sex with them. But the kind of man who is being promiscuous is not generally having sex with 10 women who are rated 10s every week.
The more a man is eagerly looking to sleep around, the lower quality women (low mate value) he has to settle for in that act.
Another way we can think about it is – it is generally assumed among the male community that high reproductive value women are extremely hard to ‘hook up with’, in COMPARISON to lower mate value women.
What do women sacrifice when they have sex quickly?
And what do WOMEN potentially sacrifice, if we sleep with a man quickly (as in, before enough attraction has been built up)?
According to scientific research reported in the book ‘Social Psychology and Human Sexuality’ – women potentially sacrifice their reputation, and risk being viewed as having lower mate quality.
Overall, she focuses a lot on giving women what we would consider to be red-pill relationship advice. She emphasizes to women that submission and vulnerability are not bad things, that men want to own their women, that casual sex lowers a woman's value, etc.
The only negative thing is that she does fall into the "you can have it all" "you go grrl" mindset of having a high-powered career and a loving husband and kids, but that is a minor flaw, in my opinion, considering the good advice she has for women that they might actually listen to since it is coming from another woman.
