[Vet-Boy]

As some of you guys may already know, I'm currently living out my life in India.

And while here I've now gradually become more exposed to the many benefits that can come when you have connections with the right people, or just people in general (India is filled with red pill and very confident/clever people and it is now rubbing off on me very well).

Recently i had the priveledge of attending a wedding of a powerful family which had many powerful attendees through a relative and it really hit me how many people i missed out on possibly making lasting impressions on or connections with when we left the event.

I spent most of my time tagging behind others as a result of feeling out of place (I knew very few people there, which couldve changed had i taken action)

So, my request for you guys is to provide tips on how a young guy like me go about forming these connections with these types of people in the best way.

Notice i do not wish to form relationships solely to satisfy an egotistical desire, but I have a goal to climb the social ladder (one which I am already kind of well placed on because of family) on my own, and to form these connections like a real man on my own, so that when i one day look back at my past I know that my future position is not only a product of the random luck i had to be born into the life im currently living but because of my own initiative and desire to do better and be better.

I feel like i really am growing into a man now in terms of my thoughts/mindset, but I still require assistance in converting these thoughts and ideas into actions.

This is where i request the help of the experienced members of this forum.

Feel free to criticize in anyway you guys see fit.

[Sonoma]

1. Question, are you American, American-Indian, Indian only? If you're looking to build social capital, you might consider more fruitful grounds to do so

2. If American, I have a lot of advice. I don't know India or Indian culture very well

[The Beast1]

I understand where your heart is vet-boy and i hope my post helps you though it is very western centric and may not be applicable to your experiences and social circles in India.

For myself, i've been waffling in mid level corporate gigs for a bit longer than i'm comfortable with. My connections via the collegiate route are effectively closed as i attended a mediocre private college and doubt i'll be able to solidify anything useful from it.

I personally sought out two very distinct social "clubs" per se that have helped guide me professionally, socially, and spritually. The first was my church. Again, i'm not sure how this may help you in India, but my church has helped me make connections that have come in very clutch in last minute situations. Favors really that i've called in and paid forward with cold hard cash as thank yous. The second one was seeking out a masonic organization in town that i'm still working towards full membership.

I don't think i'll catapult my life trajectory and career to dizzying heights by these means, but they've helped me and i've been able to help others. In a way, it's made me closer to my community which is really a start towards something bigger and better. It's certainly made me feel more connected to the people around me and added a sort of permanence to my life that has been generally lacking.

These may not be the answers you may be looking for, but it's certainly a step in the right direction if you're willing to invest the time. If the avenues aren't clear, start small and build. Someone may take notice and the next path will become clearer.

[SwayMe]

(11-26-2016 06:43 PM)Sonoma Wrote:  

2. If American, I have a lot of advice. I don't know India or Indian culture very well

Start with this! We can probably applicable to anywhere in the world.

[SwayMe]

(11-26-2016 04:00 PM)Vet-Boy Wrote:  

As some of you guys may already know, I'm currently living out my life in India.

And while here I've now gradually become more exposed to the many benefits that can come when you have connections with the right people, or just people in general (India is filled with red pill and very confident/clever people and it is now rubbing off on me very well).

Recently i had the priveledge of attending a wedding of a powerful family which had many powerful attendees through a relative and it really hit me how many people i missed out on possibly making lasting impressions on or connections with when we left the event.

I spent most of my time tagging behind others as a result of feeling out of place (I knew very few people there, which couldve changed had i taken action)

So, my request for you guys is to provide tips on how a young guy like me go about forming these connections with these types of people in the best way.

Notice i do not wish to form relationships solely to satisfy an egotistical desire, but I have a goal to climb the social ladder (one which I am already kind of well placed on because of family) on my own, and to form these connections like a real man on my own, so that when i one day look back at my past I know that my future position is not only a product of the random luck i had to be born into the life im currently living but because of my own initiative and desire to do better and be better.

I feel like i really am growing into a man now in terms of my thoughts/mindset, but I still require assistance in converting these thoughts and ideas into actions.

This is where i request the help of the experienced members of this forum.

Feel free to criticize in anyway you guys see fit.

Read Keith Ferrazzi and learn how to communicate properly. I don't know any books in English for this.

[Vet-Boy]

sonoma Wrote:

2. If American, I have a lot of advice. I don't know India or Indian culture very well

I am actually Canadian born and raised, but ethnically North Indian. Being a citizen from another country kind of gives me a big boost in social status amung the middle class (like amung classmates, senior students, everyday folk, etc), and a smaller but still quite noticeable one amung those of higher class (something I noticed when the subject would come up in conversations at the event I mentioned earlier)

Maybe you can help me capitalize on this?

I dont want to live off of or gloat through the achievments of my parents or relatives (some of whom are relatively powerful and exact examples of who I'd like to surround myself with). I want to be a man of my own, and build off of what they've given me and elevate all of us, rather than just try to stand on top of their accomplishments.

The Beast1 Wrote:

they've helped me and i've been able to help others. In a way, it's made me closer to my community which is really a start towards something bigger and better

This is what I want. People whom I can rely on when I am in need, and vice versa when they are in need. I have also thought about joining a Mason Lodge and will probably do so once I return home with my veterinary degree in about 5 years. I would join now but my location and my age (18) may be to great of an obstacle.

Can you give me advice on what you would've done in college?

Where I'm going to school I have taken many opportunities in becoming very friendly with lots of seniors in my program and in others. Some of them may be emmigrating to other countries in the future and thus add to a valuable network of friends/aquaintances then, but not forgetting to mention the great company they provide now in the present.

Any advice would be really appreciated, thanks guys

[chakalaka]

What can you offer?

[The Beast1]

(11-27-2016 06:15 AM)Vet-Boy Wrote:  

The Beast1 Wrote:

they've helped me and i've been able to help others. In a way, it's made me closer to my community which is really a start towards something bigger and better

This is what I want. People whom I can rely on when I am in need, and vice versa when they are in need. I have also thought about joining a Mason Lodge and will probably do so once I return home with my veterinary degree in about 5 years. I would join now but my location and my age (18) may be to great of an obstacle.

Can you give me advice on what you would've done in college?

Where I'm going to school I have taken many opportunities in becoming very friendly with lots of seniors in my program and in others. Some of them may be emmigrating to other countries in the future and thus add to a valuable network of friends/aquaintances then, but not forgetting to mention the great company they provide now in the present.

Any advice would be really appreciated, thanks guys

You'll have to wait until you are 21 (maybe 25) in some places before you can become a mason. I would look into a college level group.

For me, i wish i took college more seriously. I spent most of my time banging girls and partying which was a serious waste of time. I have very little to show from college because of it. My grades were so so. Not amazing, but they should have been better.

Since you're young and in college, just associate yourself with people who are fun and smart. Just don't go overboard with the partying and scenes. They're fleeting experiences.