[TornadoByProxy]

Usually when guys your size tell me about dieting, I go in their house and they have chips, candy, Soda, and beer everywhere.

If you've been using MyFitnessPal, what has been happening? Do you hit your calorie targets for a week and then cheat for two? Or do you keep changing your diet and going over as you constantly adjust? What is the longest number of weeks you have stayed below target?

Since you are already exercising, I think you need to get the diet thing down first.

[RexImperator]

No, I deliberately decided to gain weight while lifting in order to get stronger. Then I tapered off calories over the summer.

Last year I lost 35-40lbs. This year I gained 40.

[Lagavulin]

Well done Rex. The first step is the hardest, onwards and upwards!

Time to get that momentum going.

[Giovonny]

I'm looking at the food diary now...

It's the typical, average American, shitty diet!

(no offense to you RexImperator, I'm just being brutally honest)

Way too much sugar, dairy, low quality meat, processed food, preservatives, fast food, low quality bread, low quality red meat, liquid sugar, etc.

Very little fresh food.

Lots of prepackaged food filled with artificial colors, flavors, preservatives, etc.

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I have to be honest...

Your diet is killing you!

No wonder you feel like shit

You are eating shit!

Look at what this diet is doing to your body?!?!?

It is destroying your body???

Who the fuck told you to eat like this?!?!?

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This is what happens in our society... We work so much that our only enjoyment many days is melted cheese, sugary snacks, fake meat, etc.

We become addicted to the sugar, meat, and cheese!

This destroys our body.

Then, our confidence begins to waver..

We no longer feel attractive..

We stop going after the girls we want.

We settle for porn, pizza, and hamburgers!

WE NEVER GET HELP!

WE WALLOW IN SELF PITY

ALCOHOL, DRUGS, & MASTURBATION BECOME OUR REFUGE!

THIS IS A SLOW SUICIDE!

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In my opinion, you eat like someone who is slightly depressed..

In constant need of a sugar high...

In constant need of the dopamine rush that comes from meat and cheese..

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Here are some sample meals that would be an improvement to what you are currently eating..

I will try to take into account your specific tastes..

Breakfast:

Eggs, turkey bacon, vegetables, a small amount of cheese

Whole grain bread

Fresh fruit

Protein shake

(less: real bacon, red meat, fake orange juice, yogurt, jam)

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Mid morning snack:

Nuts

Nut butters

Fruit

Protein shake/smoothie

(less donuts and sugary snacks)

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Lunch:

Grilled or baked meat

Fresh vegetables

Soups, stews

Rice, beans, salads

Chicken, brown rice, broccoli

(less pizza hamburgers, chinese food, deli meats, low quality white bread, condiments, sauces)

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Dinner:

Chicken/fish

Vegetables

Stir fried veggies with rice

Stewed chicken and veggies

Asian style chicken, rice, veggies

(less fast food)

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Dessert:

Berries

Fruit

*****

Other Important Notes:

- Only 1 hamburger per week!

- Only 1 pizza per week!

- Only 1 sugary dessert per week

- Less butter

- Less sugary drinks

- You eat LOW QUALITY MEAT! EAT BETTER MEAT!

- LESS MEAT

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You really need a lot of help with this..

YOU SHOULD HIRE A PROFESSIONAL NUTRITIONIST TO HELP YOU!

(10-25-2016 11:50 AM)RexImperator Wrote:  

"How do I switch from strength to physique training?"

It's very simple..

Continue strength training..

EAT BETTER!

Your physique will improve when your diet improves..

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I could go on and on..

Your diet is deadly.

It is making you fat, it is causing you to be less attractive, less masculine...

Your diet is a representation of your life.. You need to improve!

YOU NEED SERIOUS HELP!

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Also, if you wanna talk about getting leads and dates..

What is your primary method for generating new leads?

What is your secondary method for generating new leads?

Time to get to work!

[RexImperator]

I agree with much of what you said, but not this:

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Lots of prepackaged food filled with artificial colors, flavors, preservatives

I cook my own meals, especially dinners, except for Mondays and Wednesdays when I'm travelling.

Overall this thread has me pumped, though. I just did 405x1 for a back squat, a personal best.

[Giovonny]

(10-25-2016 12:56 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

I agree with much of what you said, but not this:

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Lots of prepackaged food filled with artificial colors, flavors, preservatives

When you do cook home cooked meals, you often use low quality ingredients..

Start using better meats, breads, etc.

Get a bread maker like Roosh!

Stop using cheap bread!

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Your diet is filled with artificial flavors, colors, preservatives, etc.

I'm not making this shit up! It's all right there in the "myfitnessapp"

(10-25-2016 12:07 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

I deliberately decided to gain weight while lifting in order to get stronger.

You should be able to gain muscle without getting fat!

(10-25-2016 12:56 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

Overall this thread has me pumped, though. I just did 405x1 for a back squat, a personal best.

A personal record in your diet would be more valuable than a personal record on the squat rack. Just saying..

Sorry to be so harsh, I'm trying to help you,

[RexImperator]

What's wrong with pot roast (chuck), chicken breast, and roast chicken?

[Giovonny]

(10-25-2016 01:07 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

What's wrong with pot roast (chuck), chicken breast, and roast chicken?

Nothing is wrong with them IF THEY ARE OF A DECENT QUALITY..

I fear that the pot roast you are using is of an extremely low quality..

What is the brand of pot roast that you use?

Lots of CHEAP red meat contains "" and other artificial fillers.. Plus, the cows live in their own shit at cheap cattle farms.. Better to eat grass fed, free range cows.

But, I'm less worried about your home cooked meats or far more concerned about the frequency of fast food burgers, Wal Mart fried chicken, processed, packaged nitrate meats, etc. (too much of this stuff!)

When you make roast chicken.. Do you buy it from a store already cooked or do you cook the bird yourself??

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This is hard work, emotionally, mentally, and physically -- but, it needs to be done.

[Bury Zenek]

(10-25-2016 01:04 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

Stop using cheap bread!

Better yet, stop using that shit altogether (unless it's buckwheat flour).

[RexImperator]

Oh I see. I didn't actually buy the fried chicken at Walmart. It came from the supermarket deli, but I used that selection in the database in order to estimate my macros.

[Giovonny]

Sorry if it sounds like I'm being hard on you!

I do it cause i want you to evolve faster and better!

We can shift gears and talk about dating any time you want.

I will speak on the phone with you any time you want!

Seek help from H1N1 !

[doc holliday]

*****

Also, I think you should immediately visit a legal brothel and allow yourself some sexual gratification.

I think there is a time in a mans life when he needs the convenience of a brothel and there should be no shame in that.

You need sex. Get the sex. Alot of it..

Then, after you feel satisfied and your sexual mind is at peace.. Start to think about how you can improve your life.. What changes can you make that will improve your quality of life and your romantic opportunities.. You may have to make drastic change.. It might not be easy..

I encouraged you to go fucking crazy -- in pursuit of a better life.

Hunt a higher level of food and romance.
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I agree wholeheartedly with this. There's a time in a guy's life where he just wants, no wait, needs to get laid without all the hassle. Guys who are coming out of a divorce, guys who are working like mad, focusing on their careers and hell sometimes just because you want to fuck a 9. Rex, you're a few hours away from Montreal. Go there for a few days and go crazy. Fuck as many chicks as you can during that time. Who cares. It's legal, way cheaper (plus you have the favorable exchange rate) and those women are stupidly hot and YOUNG. These chicks love doing menage a trois, menage a quatre, bdsm whatever fucked up shit you want to do. Plus you can still go out and try to pick up chicks the old fashioned way but with way less thirst. Like Giovanny said, all in the pursuit of a better life.

[Cattle Rustler]

What food brands are you eating? That way we can see their content and nutrional value.

Quit being defensive.

[Lagavulin]

The only bread I buy is bagels, which I will toast and have with an omelette.

The trick is to only buy fresh, natural food. Nothing processed, no ready meals, no cheap cuts of meat.

Don't buy junk food, chips, sweets or sugary drinks. Don't have them in your house. Throw that shit out tonight and go shopping tomorrow.

My regular shopping list varies very little:

7 bananas
Bag of apples
Bag of pears
3-4 lemons
2 cucumbers
Big bag of spinach
Celery
Avocados
Ginger (root)
Big bag of kale
Broccoli
1 red pepper
1 red onion
Jalapeños
Peanut butter (no additives or sweeteners - read the label)
Porridge oats
2 tubs of mixed frozen berries
12 pints of milk
24 eggs
Cold cuts of chicken and beef from the butcher section (deli)
Rice
Sweet potato
Rice cakes
Cheese
Bagels

That's about it, in and out within 20 mins. Things I buy in bulk:

Whey protein
Chicken breasts (no added water), and lean minced beef from a butcher
Ingredients for chilli - kidney beans, tinned tomatoes, mushrooms, whatever you fancy
Mixed nuts (unsalted)
Herbs and spices

Breakfast every day is a smoothie consisting of:
1 banana
Handful of frozen berries
Oats
30g protein powder
Milk
Spoonful of peanut butter

Lunch generally consists of:
Cuts of chicken (or beef when I fancy a change)
Rice or sweet potato cooked the previous night
Spinach
Cucumber
Apple
Pear
3-4 rice cakes

The food goes in a tupperware tub and I eat half around 11-11:30am.
Around 1:30pm I have the rice cakes and a pear.
Around 3-3:30pm I have the other half of the food.
I eat the apple walking home.

My evening meals are mostly pre-prepared. I defrost 6-12 large chicken breasts and enough ground beef for 6 portions of chilli, generally on a sunday morning every 2-3 weeks.

Stir fry the chicken in a large saucepan or wok and boil up a couple of broccoli, separate into meal size portions and freeze. Sometimes I will include mashed sweet potato for a complete ready to go meal. If I fancy rice I boil this from scratch when I'm ready to eat.

Cook the chilli and freeze up 6 servings (that's what fits in the pan). Freeze.

If I fancy a change or something light I have an omelette and a toasted bagel.

That's breakfast, lunch and dinner taken care of. The other thing I have daily is a green smoothie using the celery, avocado, kale, ginger and half a lemon. I usually down this with my evening meal.

The nuts are a great healthy snack.

I also make my own muesli, and I'll have a bowl with a protein shake for breakfast if I fancy a change now and again.

Of course you can prepare your own variations, that's just what I've been living on for years. It's tasty, healthy, easy and quick. The key is to cut the shit out and prepare all your own meals, it doesn't actually take a great deal of effort, just a little discipline.

I do allow myself a treat now and again. If I want a pizza or a takeaway at the weekend I have one guilt free because I know my diet is clean 95% of the time.

The biggest expense is the meat but it's one thing that I refuse to compromise on. Hence why it's better to buy it in whatever bulk you are able to freeze.

I'm sure other members will have their own staple diets, which they can suggest to you. I've just found what works for me, take from it what you will.

Ps, minced beef is also great for home made burgers. All you need is the meat, capers, red onion, and an egg or two to bind together. Add some mixed herbs for a bit of variety. Freeze them up. Delicious and cheaper than steak.

[Balkan]

It's quite rare when the entire forum comes together to assist in a thread. Take advantage of this!

I'd pay particular attention to your correspondence with Gio and H1N1 as they're living proof of their advice whereas other sources can be questionable.

I encourage you to start a workout thread similar to General Stalin's here. It's rather amazing the progress and momentum you get when you track your lifts and hold yourself accountable within a community.

By the way, a random podcast that might inspire you is the Jocko podcast. He's a retired navy seal that led task unit Bruiser in Ramadi. He's incredibly intense and has a no nonsense attitude about relentlessly attacking life. Most of his podcasts are military oriented book reviews and memories from Iraq. They've helped humble, ground, and motivate me in the gym.

Get after it!

[Il Bersagliere]

How exactly have you been lining up dates before, Rex? That's probably the bigger issue, not your your diet.

[Chowder Head]

It looks like Rex's diet may be the least of his problems -- he already goes to the gym. I think what he's doing socially is the issue. Great grocery list from Lagavulin. How old are you Rex? Maybe your libido is low?

[RexImperator]

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You should be able to gain muscle without getting fat!

It obviously depends on how fat you are when you start. It's impossible to gain muscle if you're not gaining weight:
http://www.artofmanliness.com/2016/09/09...-of-gains/

[XXL]

I knew that a question about a date next day would result in "get in shape" and "dress up" type of responses

[Huey]

(10-25-2016 04:41 PM)XXL Wrote:  

I knew that a question about a date next day would result in "get in shape" and "dress up" type of responses

You clearly didn't get the memo. Lifting is the new game.

[RexImperator]

Quote:

What is your primary method for generating new leads?

What is your secondary method for generating new leads?

Mostly since finding RVF I just talk to girls in my daily interactions and try to see if the conversation goes anywhere. Usually it doesn't, but I use some variation of the GALNUC idea: if she asks me some personal questions I figure there's some interest and will ask to hang out/for number.

This generates about 1-2 possible dates per year.

I posted about some night game adventures. Mostly a waste but there was that one 40yo single mom I posted about here who asked me to kiss her. ("It's a trap!") After that I felt discouraged, because I realized how I am a magnet for low-quality, and always have been.

[RexImperator]

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you should have fucked her even though she's fat. 12 years is a long time.. I don't like banging fat chicks, but if I'm in a 12 year dry spell I'll take anything I can get.

I've regrettably passed on better-looking opportunities in the last couple of years by not acting fast enough but the fat feminist may still be a possibility. I ignored her text until today, when I suggested going for a hike was possible although unfortunately it looks like it will rain. (I was thinking of telling her we could be "activity partners" but I'm not looking for more.) She texted back:

"A short hike wouldn't be too bad in the rain assuming it's not pouring. We could always do something else like see a movie or dinner if you're up for it. I hope your **** went well yesterday!"

[RexImperator]

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What food brands are you eating? That way we can see their content and nutrional value.

A typical breakfast is something like:
2 eggs scrambled w/butter
1 cup plain 0% Greek Yoghurt (Fage or Maple Creek or Chobani)
3 oz. Fresh Raspberries
Trappist Raspberry Jam
Thomas' English Muffin

[redbeard]

[GlobalMan]

As important as nutrition and exercise is -and it is very important and should be worked on- I feel like this will end up as another way to distract yourself further, prolong this drought, and avoid resolving whatever is truly holding you back.

Improving your health should not be seen as something that must be accomplished to completion before you begin living the parts of life you have been missing.

Right now it's fitness and nutrition, next year it will be hairline or career or finances or some other reasoning to just wait a little longer.

You have all you need right now to start improving your situation with women, if you truly want to.

Lets say the 15 pounds are gone tomorrow- then what happens?