Gents,
I wanted to share my story. Hope this helps some people going through doubt when it comes to LTR´s.
Background:
We met through HAPPN dating app. She was 4 years older than me. I am in my late 20´s. She is super good looking, into sports, career oriented, good job, she had money and was independent.
We had sex on the 3rd date, amazing. She was into traveling as well as I am, we where both financially very stable so we could do really cool stuff all the time (Renting yachts, caribbean vacations, high end hotels, you name it)
During the first 3 months of dating, I had sex with 2 other different girls. After that I ask her to be my girlfriend and felt in love with her. Hard! I stopped fucking girls. Although still flirt.
I had been gaming hard for about a year before her, I guess the loneliness took the best part of my (Emotional loneliness) and i took her as my LTR, ignoring all the red flags.
Red flags:
1. Addicted to social media (Posting selfies showing cleavage,etc...)
2. No father figure. Alcoholic, he left her life when she was 10
3. Mother has untreated depression, constantly taking pills
4. I met her through a dating app
5. My mom did not like her too much
6. She was not over her ex
7. I was her 4th boyfriend and 12th sex partner
8. Old boyfriends have all cheated on her
9. All her close friends are gay males
10. She liked to drink, at least 1 bottle of champagne when she went out
11. No belief system
12. She had 1 small tattoo and plastic surgery
How the fuck did I ended up falling in love with her?
She was super honest and open. Even though she told me things i did not wanted to hear. She would have her phone without a password, computer open at my house, she had nothing to hide. I have not seen this behavior in a while. She was a person you could trust.
She was willing to change! After she felt in love with me. She stopped posting selfies, she started contact again with her father, she started going into the psychologist to help her insecurities,etc...She did everything I wanted to. She became the perfect woman.
Sex was out of this world.
After a big party that we where hosting to one of his friends. She got drunk, she flirt with another guy in front of me. Told everybody the kinky stuff we where doing in bed, posted a selfie showing cleavage and after I just stand up and leave, she did not contact me after 4 days saying i was making a big deal of it.
I put all the memories in a box in my garage, bought tickets for a 10 day trip by myself, blocked her from whatsapp, Facebook,etc... met with her and broke this up.
Gents,
What I have learn?
a. People cannot change who they really are, they can fake it for a few months but the real person will come up when you least expected.
b. Don´t ignore the red flags.
Thanks for your support.
Gracias señores
I wanted to share my story. Hope this helps some people going through doubt when it comes to LTR´s.
Background:
We met through HAPPN dating app. She was 4 years older than me. I am in my late 20´s. She is super good looking, into sports, career oriented, good job, she had money and was independent.
We had sex on the 3rd date, amazing. She was into traveling as well as I am, we where both financially very stable so we could do really cool stuff all the time (Renting yachts, caribbean vacations, high end hotels, you name it)
During the first 3 months of dating, I had sex with 2 other different girls. After that I ask her to be my girlfriend and felt in love with her. Hard! I stopped fucking girls. Although still flirt.
I had been gaming hard for about a year before her, I guess the loneliness took the best part of my (Emotional loneliness) and i took her as my LTR, ignoring all the red flags.
Red flags:
1. Addicted to social media (Posting selfies showing cleavage,etc...)
2. No father figure. Alcoholic, he left her life when she was 10
3. Mother has untreated depression, constantly taking pills
4. I met her through a dating app
5. My mom did not like her too much
6. She was not over her ex
7. I was her 4th boyfriend and 12th sex partner
8. Old boyfriends have all cheated on her
9. All her close friends are gay males
10. She liked to drink, at least 1 bottle of champagne when she went out
11. No belief system
12. She had 1 small tattoo and plastic surgery
How the fuck did I ended up falling in love with her?
She was super honest and open. Even though she told me things i did not wanted to hear. She would have her phone without a password, computer open at my house, she had nothing to hide. I have not seen this behavior in a while. She was a person you could trust.
She was willing to change! After she felt in love with me. She stopped posting selfies, she started contact again with her father, she started going into the psychologist to help her insecurities,etc...She did everything I wanted to. She became the perfect woman.
Sex was out of this world.
After a big party that we where hosting to one of his friends. She got drunk, she flirt with another guy in front of me. Told everybody the kinky stuff we where doing in bed, posted a selfie showing cleavage and after I just stand up and leave, she did not contact me after 4 days saying i was making a big deal of it.
I put all the memories in a box in my garage, bought tickets for a 10 day trip by myself, blocked her from whatsapp, Facebook,etc... met with her and broke this up.
Gents,
What I have learn?
a. People cannot change who they really are, they can fake it for a few months but the real person will come up when you least expected.
b. Don´t ignore the red flags.
Thanks for your support.
Gracias señores
The harder you practice, the luckier you get.