Quote: (09-08-2016 06:26 AM)Suits Wrote:
Quote: (09-08-2016 04:12 AM)The Beast1 Wrote:
It isn't hard to snag a man even for a woman in her 30s. Legit this is how my wife keeps me around:
1. Cooks
2. cleans
3. Works on her image (works out/ wears nice clothes)
4. wants to stay home
5. wants a large family
6. Is intellectually interesting
7. Understands captain first mate dynamic.
Number three is very important. It does a man little good if he is married to a woman who cleans, cooks and care for children if she is sexually repulsive.
What methods have you been able to successfully implement to contribute to having a wife who keeps herself in excellent shape?
Just for clarity sake, how old is she, how long have you been married and how good of shape has she been able to maintain during that time?
Wall of text, be ready:
We're both in our late 20s.
My lady was over weight when we met. She admitted to me that she had a huge crush on me to which i replied, "I don't date fat women" .
It broke her heart. The next day she said to me she got a membership at my gym and wanted me to start lifting weights with me.
I taught her proper form on all of the big lifts and she started seeing a noticeable improvement in her mood. I helped clean up her diet too. She lost about 50 lbs.
She's now doing p90x since she works from home minus the diet. My wife isn't a stunner and she's gone from overweight to curvy, but i like curvy women so that's fine with me.
Part of her "drive" towards physical fitness is mood. She used to be depressed and woe is me. Me telling her i don't date fat girls was her wake up call to start taking diet and physical exercise seriously.
I don't want to make it seem like i have the answers, i've only been married for six months. However, in comparison to other women they don't hold a candle to her. I want a good home maker and mother of my children. That's what i found.
My advice is to be playful and tease your girl's insecurities. If she has a bit of fat around her waist grab it and jiggle it (playfully). Tease women on their insecurities the same way a young child would tease girls. Don't be mean about it, your trying to make them self conscious. Then offer them a solution to their insecurity and help them achieve it.
Lazy women will balk at this. The ones that want to change are the keepers. You almost have to break them down and rebuild them.
It keeps them in a constant state of insecurity which will encourage them to work towards something (like losing weight). With proper guidance from her man (you) they'll fall in love.
My other bit of advice is to find a woman that isn't interested in social media, drinking, and nightlife. My lady doesn't enjoy bars or staying up late. She also has a small social media presence.
I don't expect my marriage to be easy or a cakewalk. Both of our parents had different issues (mine divorced, hers got sick of each other but ultimately worked out their differences and are happy). I'm confident between our church community and our own self improvement goals both physically and mentally that we'll be able to overcome the difficulties.
I get urges to slay new women, that's natural. The thing that keeps me around are all of the gifts she provides to the relationship as well as the things we've agreed on like letting me name the children after my own family's name. She also reads this forum and surprisingly has some red pill wisdom she drops that startles me!
We're old school in how we deal with things. There's no point in reinventing the wheel.
The best story i have of her is this: an unmarried woman we knew asked her what it would take to get her boyfriend to propose to her. She asked her, do you work out, cook, eat well, look to your husband as your guide, and plan on doing this for the rest of your life?
She answered sort of to which my wife replied, "There's your problem. I sort of wouldn't marry you either."