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7 Things That Can Be Rape According to Bustle
#26
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5 and 6 are wordly vaguely enough to pass. As Horus said, circumstances matter. Random black-out drunk girl whom you've never met prior? Yeah, rape. Casual FWB partners who fuck one night and kinda wishes they didn't? Regretful...but not rape.

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It saddens me that, even in 2016, some people think that their thoughts on what qualifies as rape are more important than the actual experiences of real women who have been assaulted.

This is absolutely correct. Which is also why 5 of the 7 instances listed by this article are unequivocally insulting to someone who was actually raped.

Someone close to me - a female - was truly, factually raped/molested when young and when I show her articles like this, you can see the bewilderment and frustrated anger in her face. To quote her, "If everything is rape, nothing is."

Self-enlightened people like the author don't understand the tack they take with this view is akin to telling a malnourished child from Sudan, "I knooooowwww exactly how you must feel being hungry and starving. I haven't eaten since breakfast!"

Sad.
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#27
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I beg to differ my friend.
There are plenty of cam whores who do this for their own pleasure and most likely money.

They are doing it for an audience, not their own pleasure.

Guys I have a confession to make: I'm a "sexual micro aggressor." I kicked a girl out last night because she wouldn't suck my dick.
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#28
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Quote: (09-02-2016 10:50 AM)General Stalin Wrote:  

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I beg to differ my friend.
There are plenty of cam whores who do this for their own pleasure and most likely money.

They are doing it for an audience, not their own pleasure.

Guys I have a confession to make: I'm a "sexual micro aggressor." I kicked a girl out last night because she wouldn't suck my dick.

If you were already hard, would it make you a sexual macro aggressor?
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#29
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Delete.
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#30
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Wow, our ancestors who fought off saber toothed tigers, harsh frontiers and sought a better place for their offsprings would be very proud.

Imagine bringing one of the Patriarchs back who finds that his offsprings

1. 'Questions' his gender
2. Confused about bathrooms
3. Claims he's 'discriminated against'. Jim Crow laws victims would be proud
4. Fought bitterly for same sex marriage. Cried tears of joy before the cameras when the SCOTUS allowed it. Also received a call from POTUS congratulating him.
5. Concerned about something called 'micro aggression'.
6. Pamela Anderson, a Post Wall whore, is the new mouthpiece for public morality,

They'd be very proud.
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#31
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My quick retorts on these:

1. I guess that this would be contingent on the position, but this falls into Asshole category, not rape more often than not.

2. Again this doesn't fall into rape but being an asshole.

3. Not sure how anyone is forced to deep throating unless she is tied up or has no teeth. However, my answer is the same as in question #1.

4. That is being persistent, not a rapist.

5. Magellan has a great counter on this situation from this thread:
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QFC: "I got blueballed by a chick once. She left me with a boner, rolled over and tried going to sleep. So I slid my hand onto my johnson, went to town on it for a couple minutes, and blew my load all over her leg. She never pulled that nonsense again. "

6. Ok, that is generally considered to be rape. Context does matter however, and how long the relationship has gone. If this is a turn on for a guy then he may need some professional help, or get a life size doll.

7. Context matters a lot on this. Previous posters probably have this one right. More likely to fall into asshole territory than rape.


Context matters a lot on all of these, but this seems to me that most of these actions are more of jerk behavior as opposed to rape. We should all take rape seriously, but these days, rape is easily thrown around. If these are considered to be acts of rape then our society is deep shit.

"Stop playing by 1950's rules when everyone else is playing by 1984."
- Leonard D Neubache
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#32
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Quote: (09-02-2016 05:32 PM)El Padrone Wrote:  

Wow, our ancestors who fought off saber toothed tigers, harsh frontiers and sought a better place for their offsprings would be very proud.

Imagine bringing one of the Patriarchs back who finds that his offsprings

1. 'Questions' his gender
2. Confused about bathrooms
3. Claims he's 'discriminated against'. Jim Crow laws victims would be proud
4. Fought bitterly for same sex marriage. Cried tears of joy before the cameras when the SCOTUS allowed it. Also received a call from POTUS congratulating him.
5. Concerned about something called 'micro aggression'.
6. Pamela Anderson, a Post Wall whore, is the new mouthpiece for public morality,

They'd be very proud.

Imagine how pissed that saber toothed tiger fighting ancestor will be when he sees everybody walking upright, using all these tools and shit.

On top of those things you said.

You tell him about scotus and potus and he's like "what the fuck is this copper and tin mixing shit."

Aloha!
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#33
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Quote: (09-01-2016 04:43 PM)Phil Jackson Wrote:  

This article is a bit old (2/12/16) bit old but I came across it and it scared the shit out of me.#3 & #6 are understandable, but the rest of the article is fucking bullshit. How the hell is a man suppose to have a organic relationship with a women when he's pausing every five minutes worried about "rape"? I remember reading a Return of Kings article about videotaping a women with a ihome alarm clock and letting her ride you to show consent, but some of this shit seems indefensible. What am I suppose to do, mic up every sexual encounter to show that "she wanted to switch positions". Fail every shit test when she states "we are not having sex tonight". What the hell are we suppose to do?

Link to Article: http://www.bustle.com/articles/141289-7-...-they-cant

"It saddens me that, even in 2016, some people think that their thoughts on what qualifies as rape are more important than the actual experiences of real women who have been assaulted. But two days ago, after Bustle published a heartfelt personal essay by Laura Gianino, "I Didn't Say No — But It Was Still Rape," the trolls came out in full force to do just that. In the essay, Gianino recounts a past sexual experience which began as consensual, but turned into what she personally felt was rape. Though she didn't say the words, "stop," "don't," or "no" to the man she was having sex with, she did express to him that he was hurting her, and when he asked her if she wanted to stop, she replied "kind of" while grimacing in pain. However, instead of stopping when she expressed her discomfort, he continued having sex with her until he had finished.

Though the essay has received a lot of support, a few readers have hatefully commented via Facebook that this didn't qualify as rape because Gianino didn't verbally withdraw her consent or physically push away her partner. They've even gone so far as to express concern for the man (whom Gianino never names) while showing outright hostility toward her.


But unless a person gives clear, express consent to sexual activity, they are not a consenting sexual partner. And while this is only a legal standard in certain places that have adopted affirmative consent laws, such as some college and university campuses, it should be a standard of human decency in all sexual situations. Furthermore, the absence of "no," or even a partner's total silence, does not constitute consent. If a man or a woman shows disinterest in, or discomfort with, finishing a sexual activity, but their partner ignores their uneasiness so they can finish, that qualifies as rape, regardless of what some asshole on the Internet thinks.

This isn't just an issue with trolls, however. Many people who are not trying to be malicious sometimes think they know what constitutes rape better than the people who have experienced it, simply because we get so many cultural messages about what constitutes sexual assault (most of which have little to do with how sexual assault actually plays out in real life). Many people also mistakenly believe that legal definitions of sexual assault should be the only standard by which we judge personal experiences. But just because your experience does not necessarily align with some legally actionable definition of sexual assault does not mean that you do not have the right to define your experience that way, and want support.

Quite simply, we don't have the right to tell anyone that their experience of rape doesn't "count." Sexual assault and rape are nowhere near as cut and dried as most of us were raised to believe. Just because it has never occurred to us that a certain act may qualify as rape doesn't mean that someone can't experience it that way. In hopes of furthering this understanding, here are seven things you might not think are rape that can be.

1. If You Ask Your Partner To Switch Positions And They Refuse

A while back, I asked a man I was having sex with if we could switch positions. We were in a position I normally liked, but on this day, it was just too painful. I told him the position we were in was causing me pain, but when I asked if we could switch, he said "no" and kept having sex with me in that position. I waited a few minutes to see if it would become less painful. When it didn't, I asked him again if we could switch. Again he said no. Defeated, I allowed him to pin my arms behind my back. I cried, because it hurt and I wasn't OK with what was happening. But he kept going until he'd finished. Afterwards, I knew that what had happened wasn't OK, but I didn't realize that I had technically experienced non-consensual sex until months later.

To some, this may not seem like rape at all, because I had initially consented to sex with this person. Additionally, I would never compare what I experienced to a violent rape. Technically, though, what I experienced was rape, because my sexual partner continued in an activity after I'd expressly asked him not to. If this has ever happened to you, know that it's never OK for someone to do something to your body after you've asked them not to — no matter what form that request takes. There are literally hundreds of ways to have sex. If one of those ways hurts you, you should never be forced to continue with it until your partner's finished with you. Which brings us to ...

2. If You Tell Your Partner They're Hurting You, But They Ignore You And Keep Going

If you tell your sexual partner that they're hurting you, but they pretend they can't hear you or flat-out ignore you so they can finish, that's rape. Even if you're afraid to speak up, but it's clear that you're in pain during sex, your partner should be respectful enough to ask you if you're OK. Once you've expressed discomfort and disinterest in continuing, then it's time to stop, and your partner should comply with that. You shouldn't have to ask twice — and if they don't respect that request, that can be rape.

3. If Your Partner Forces You To Deepthroat Them

This has happened to me as well. On more than one occasion, a sexual partner held my head in a locked position while I was going down on him. Even when I was literally choking on him and repeatedly smacking his thigh to try to get him to loosen his grip, he still wouldn't immediately let me go. At the time, I thought that since I actually really enjoy deepthroating (at my own friggin' pace, thank you) that this didn't qualify as rape. But again, this is technically a case in which I withdrew my consent and was not only ignored, but actually overpowered into doing something I didn't want to do.

If you're having sex with a man, and that man physically forces you to deepthroat them (even if it's only for a few seconds), then they're forcing you to do something sexual against your will. That can be rape, and that is not OK.

4. If Your Partner Keeps Asking For Sex After You Refuse, Until You Finally Say Yes

Saying "no" multiple times and then saying "yes" once doesn't equal real, obtained consent. This is called coerced consent, and it's technically rape. I'm not saying that people never change their mind about not wanting to have sex, but it should be a decision they make free of pressure and coercion. People respond to coercion for all sorts of reasons, from fear of violence to concern about emotional repercussions, and those are just the tip of the iceberg. "No" is supposed to mean "no." Not "maybe I'll change my mind if you keep asking." And coerced consent isn't really consent at all.

5. If Your Partner Continues Having Sex With You After You've Changed Your Mind About Having Sex

This is very simple. Consent is something you give, so it's also something you can take away. If you've consented to having sex with someone, and then you change your mind in the middle of the act, your partner legally has to respect that you've withdrawn your consent. If they try to tell you that you can't say "no" because you've already said "yes," then they are trying to force themselves on you, and that is rape. You can withdraw your consent to sexual activity at literally any time. Don't let anyone try to tell you differently.

6. If Someone Tries To Have Sex With You When You're Incapable Of Giving Consent

When I was in college, a friend of mine told me that his friend's girlfriend was raped at a party. She was drunk while the assault occurred, so some of the people who heard about what had happened blamed her for it, saying that it was "kind of her fault." But if someone tries to have sex with you when you're too drunk, high, or unconscious to agree to it, then it's not your fault. It's rape. Not being capable of saying "no" is not the same thing as saying "yes." Period.

7. If Your Partner Tries To Engage In A Specific Sexual Act After You've Asked Them Not To

Whether it's anal play, a painful position, being dominated when you're not feeling it, or literally anything else, you have every right to refuse to do anything that you don't 100 percent want to do. And if you've told your partner you don't want to do something (even if it's something you normally enjoy doing in bed), and then they do it anyway, that can be rape.

The Bottom Line
Obviously, there is a difference between the non-consensual sexual experiences I've had and the violent sexual assaults that so many women survive on a daily basis. But just because some people experience what we are traditionally taught to recognize as rape doesn't mean that other experiences that don't look the same are not also rape. Any sexual activity in which one party doesn't give their full consent to begin with, wishes to withdraw their consent after giving it, or is incapable of giving consent in the first place, is rape.

And until we as a society can grasp this simple concept, rape culture and victim blaming will continue to be the norm. Instead of teaching affirmative consent, we will continue attacking the women who speak up about their experiences with non-consensual sex. Silencing women who speak up about rape discourages women from speaking up during sex in the first place, and then punishes them for not finding the courage to say "no."

So stop defining women's sexual experiences for them just because they don't sound like rape to you. Take the time to learn about affirmative consent instead. Please and thank you."

Anybody have some insight on avoid these crazy rape accusations?

Someone needs to remind this undercover manhating dyke.

A women can run faster with her dress up, than a man can with his trousers down.
Case... oops 7 cases DISMISSED!!

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Moving on, I consider this "woman" a cultural terrorist.
Whats her agenda? Make Western women so repulsed by men that only immigrants procreate?

Its strange really, these feminuts have some big kinship with migrant rapists.
What pathetic excuses for women..

That would should just be rotting in some jail cell for whipping up hate and persecution.
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#34
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Quote: (09-01-2016 04:54 PM)Tactician Wrote:  

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4. If Your Partner Keeps Asking For Sex After You Refuse, Until You Finally Say Yes

Uh oh

Edit: Our marriage-material author:

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She's not bad, but it's risky.

Her face looks like a block of cheese.

WNB.
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#35
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You still maintained contact with your ex?[Image: exclamation.gif]

Quote: (09-01-2016 10:34 PM)Mushroom Wrote:  

Goddamnit. Pure coincidental timing that the ex I spoke of in my previous post, sent me this piece of shit article today:

"The Problem with How Men Perceive Rape"
http://fusion.net/story/341098/men-rape-...n-consent/

Told me she hoped I'd read it. Fuck you, you crazy feminist bitch. I've blocked her email and phone number, no more listening to her nonsense.
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#36
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Quote: (09-08-2016 07:33 AM)Tayo Wrote:  

You still maintained contact with your ex?[Image: exclamation.gif]
Not really. I just hadn't blocked her number or anything yet. We hadn't spoken in at least two months before she texted me the link to that article. Oh well, full no-contact now, she's completely blocked and has no idea where I live
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#37
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What is this nonsense? What kind of men is she sleeping with where she cries and says it hurts and they just keep going? Either she fucking with psychopats or she is a damaged woman reliving some kind of abusive trauma through sex on purpose. Most likely the latter. Or it turns her on, but she refuses to admit it.
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