[ManofLetters]

Met a girl at the club saturday night and kiss closed w/ # and she texted the following:

Sat. Night
Her: Have a good night
Her: and have a safe drive home
Her: we should deffinitely hang out again
Her:

Sunday mid day
Me: whats your schedule like?

Her: Weekends are usually best

So how do i proceed with this in terms of selecting a venue, time ? also how often should i contact her leading up to the date?

[Ezio31]

Keep it to the minimum number of messages you can. Save things for when you'll actually meet. Read Roosh's text guide, it'll sort you.

[XPQ22]

Her: Weekends are usually best

You: cool, looks like I can do Friday. I've heard good things about XXXX, meet me there at 8. Let's try to look nice, it's a classy place

Where "XXXX" is a place within at most a mile or two of your place or hers.

In fact in a sense you've already had a first meet that went fairly well, and her texts seem to indicate she likes you. I might not even waste time with a "traditional" bar date for the second meet. Just invite her to get ice cream or something near your place for plausible deniability purposes, be vague about any plans for the rest of the night beyond that, and if 30 minutes in she's feeling you start talking about movies, then bounce her home for the "Netflix and chill."

"Definitely hang out again" is about as close a woman you recently met is going to come to saying "I'd like you to fuck me pretty soon" without actually saying it. Don't overthink this. There's of course always the possibility that she'll feel differently before the weekend rolls around, but them's the breaks when it comes to phone numbers.

[WestIndianArchie]

Veterans and up and coming newbs,

can we get a full analysis here?

WIA

[JayJuanGee]

(07-26-2016 07:29 PM)ManofLetters Wrote:  

Met a girl at the club saturday night and kiss closed w/ # and she texted the following:

Sat. Night
Her: Have a good night
Her: and have a safe drive home
Her: we should deffinitely hang out again
Her:

Sunday mid day
Me: whats your schedule like?

Her: Weekends are usually best

So how do i proceed with this in terms of selecting a venue, time ? also how often should i contact her leading up to the date?

I agree with keeping texts to a minimum.. especially, since you already pretty much got the green light from her for the upcoming weekend.

I am a little bit curious that she texted you first? Usually guys will get the girl's digits and then text her first.

I usually send the first text right in front of her, just to confirm that we have the right number, and then I may follow up a day or two later...

So assuming that maybe you did some quicky exchange of numbers, then it seems that she texted you first?


Regarding content of the text, you may already have some idea about what you are going to do with her or where you would like to meet, so it is likely best if you take the lead and suggest a specific time and location that you will be able to meet, maybe where logistics are good for you to bounce her to another location for the make out or bounce her back to your pad or bounce her to whatever is your usual location for making out. or just tell her that you will pick her up ... for example, take her to a bar that leads to a dance club or the beach.

Since you already met her at a club you may want to take her to another club or maybe a bar instead.. if she is already into you then you just want to be able easily transition from the one place to the next and to your pad.. without directly telling her that is what you are doing. Girls will go along with these kinds of things and act like they are naive (especially if they are already into you), which kind of seems to be the case with this chick already eagerly saying that she wants to meet up.

[XPQ22]

(07-26-2016 11:05 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

Veterans and up and coming newbs,

can we get a full analysis here?

WIA

My guess: poor logistics turn a girl who was a 90% sure thing, if OP had been able to move forward the same night, into a situation where he has to ask for advice on second meet game for a meet at an indeterminate time in the future, and it becomes a 50-50 shot at best, even with a girl who texts you first.

I know this pain. You were already on your "first date" and it was going good...what'd you leave for?

My experience from online game leads my thoughts in this direction. If I can meet up with girls from online and bang them on our first meet, and even have things work out well going forward with them...exactly why should I be treating girls who I meet in bars/clubs and are into me like their gold digits are the best I can expect from them? Why should I do anything different than what I'd do with an online chick. At the end of the day, the pre-selection swipe really isn't that valuable.

My experience shows that if a girl likes me enough to be making out with me, I'm pretty much in! Go go go! Get a blowjob or bang her in your car if you have to, you'll often have a way easier time getting her out again after that, and you won't have to worry about "venue selection" or all that nonsense!

[XXL]

No need for detailed strategy or very specific steps to take.

Begin with the end in mind and engineer it backwards.

Text her [or call, whatever you like] in a "get to know you" manner so that you can figure out where she lives, when she's free, what's her schedule for the following days, etc. Once you know it all, set up the date and plan it around those logistics you have figured out. Once you're with her lead lead lead.

That's the way to go in your case in my opinion.

For the future interactions.. unless you take a quick phone number from a girl out of necessity, you should always set up another meeting with a girl on the spot as you're talking to her face to face. It means once she's hooked and you vibe you need to seed the next meeting by getting to know her [and her availability in the next days] and by talking about her interests so that you can use mutual interest as an excuse to see each other again. That's the best way. Even if you feel like the girl is ready to go all out with you that night. It doesn't matter, it won't hurt you in any way to sort these details out asap cause you might lose her while you're pulling her same night.

[eradicator]

Just call her up and get her out for a drink at a bar nearby. Asking about her schedule isn't that great of an opener because all of these women will suddenly become more available when they like you.