[General Stalin]

(06-20-2016 01:48 PM)DamienCasanova Wrote:  

That site is hilarious!

http://totalsororitymove.com/7-reasons-w...rly-sucks/

7 Reasons Why The “Define The Relationship” Talk Majorly Sucks


One the worst talks you could have with a guy, besides telling him you missed your last period, is the “relationship” talk. The one where you decide to cut the shit and figure out what, if anything, is going on. What are we? What are we doing? Where is this going? The talk I’ve probably had twenty-five times in my head and like five IRL (most times, thank God, blackout drunk so I don’t actually remember them). No matter how many times you’ve done it, it doesn’t get any easier because the truth is, the Define The Relationship talk majorly blows.

1. It’s fucking awkward.
I mean how do you introduce them? “Hey this is my fuck buddy, but we hang out during the day and sometimes grab lunch.” “Yeah this is my friend, who I occasionally bang.” If you’re unsure of where your “relationship” stands, just think of how confused your friends are. My tip, although frowned upon by many, is to take a couple of shots beforehand. Sure, it’s a serious talk, but a lot of people seriously need a drink (or three) before having it.

2. How do you even bring it up?
When’s the best time to ask where this “relationship” is going? While he’s going down on you? After you’ve just had sex? In the car on the way to Taco Bell at 2 a.m.? I don’t know about you, but I’m not trying to scare off a guy after we just got down and dirty. But I’m also not about to risk the convo if we didn’t just get down and dirty. It’s not an easy decision.

3. It’s an annoying topic.
Especially when you can’t get a straight answer. The DTR talk is hard enough, but getting confusing answers that dance around the subject is even worse. You like me but you’re not looking for anything serious? You don’t want to see anyone else but you also don’t want to be my boyfriend? You’re scared of commitment but you want to hang out every day? Le sigh.

4. He’s confused, but doesn’t actually care enough to figure it out.
Let’s face it, if you’re unsure of what’s actually going on with your so called relationship, then there isn’t enough there. He is simply there to get what he wants without the strings attached. Don’t hold out hope for the guy who’ll only text you after 1 a.m. while he’s shit-faced doing one last look around the bar to find someone to bring home. Sure he likes you, but if he liked you enough, he would have done something about it, right?

5. There are so many options of what your “relationship title” can be.
Maybe you’re a friends with benefits situation, or just fuck buddies. Maybe you’re testing the waters and eventually going to get to the boyfriend-girlfriend label. The worst part is that every person has their own definition of each title, and unless it’s the one that works for you, it will never be enough.

6. You might end up disappointed.
There’s no guarantee that your “special friend” feels the same way. So when you finally build up the courage to sit him down and talk about what you want, you don’t know where the conversation is going to go, especially if you don’t talk about feelings often. Unless you’ve had a previous chat about it and things were looking good, there’s a chance he may not want the same things from your relationship. And then you’re left with an even more awkward conversation to deal with.

7. If it doesn’t end well, you’re basically screwed (but not in a good way).
Well, now that you’ve opened your big mouth about the situation. You cried, he felt weird, and then he explained that he’s a no-strings-attached kinda guy. Now you’ve lost a fuck-buddy and you feel like you just got dumped. But the worse part? You were never actually tied down in the beginning.

My advice, since I’m pretty much a pro at this point, is to not have the chat at all. Get drunk, do your thing, have sex, and don’t bring it up. If anything, try and lure him in and eventually he’ll bring it up himself. Make him laugh, have a good time, use witchcraft. Whatever it is, if it’s right, he’ll want to be the one to tie you down. Literally and figuratively. At which point you put on the act of being nonchalant and unaware, like you didn’t even consider being official. Call me shady, but when you’re the one changing your status from “single” to “in a relationship,” remember who told you how to do it..

ps_anonymous (from New Jersey, WB until we had a relationship talk)

Can be found chugging vodka sours at the bar or roaming the mall spending money she doesn't have. In her free time she shit talks, stalks random people on Insta, and survives on Starbucks. Sex tips and hate mail can be sent to: [email protected]

^ That woman embodies absolutely every single thing that this community is against. What an awful, deplorable, basic, slutty, trashy, graceless tramp.

I am not surprised in the least that she has "plenty of experience" with dudes only casually fucking her and wanting absolutely nothing to do with being in any sort of serious relationship with her. She's the town bike. She the EveryAmericanWhiteGirl. The broad who has zero shame in brandishing how many dicks have entered her well-used garbage hole. Bragging about how much of an irresponsible lush she is. The undisputed zenith of BasicBitch.

I'll be honest and say I would gladly use her as wet cock sock... but I'll be happy when the day comes that a girl like that I would turn down purely out of principle. She's good for one thing and one thing only. That's the most she can ever hope to be in the eyes of men.

This culture is turning out women more efficiently than top-of-the-game pimps.

[Captainstabbin]

Ms. Snow White has posted a new article - "I Miss Being A Slut". Except, I thought she claimed she had a lowish notch count of 5. She addresses that:

Quote:

I lie about my number. And pretty much everything else.

Also:

Quote:

Exhibitionism

Then: I literally did nothing but flash my tits for a year and a half. I did it in a bar. I did it to get a free taxi ride home. I did it just because people were looking. Every person who knew me during my slut days has seen my tits, probably my ass, and maybe my vagina. I walked through my apartment complex naked. I played strip poker. And I sent the hell out of some nudes.

http://totalsororitymove.com/i-miss-being-a-slut/

And the girls give their predictable approval:

Quote:

BoozeBowsBoys
If you miss it, go back to it? As long as you did it safely (protection, yo) nobody can (or should) dictate how you live your life. Let the slut-shamers sit at home in all of their prudish, horny, unsatisfied glory while you live your life.

Blackout_B
This is so right it hurts.

[Latan]

^Once a slut, always a slut.
She won't make me believe she has changed.

[StrikeBack]

I believe she meant she's had 5 official boyfriends according to Facebook.

Need to add a zero at the end at least to get in the ballpark of her notch count.

[cubanlinx]

Welp, I'm not looking to get married anytime soon. So keep at it girls, keep at it.

[Glaucon]

A slut with Daddy issues. Nothing screams red flag more

[Dr. Howard]

I regret clicking on the link for that "slut regret" story. Bitch looks like a drunken indian. Which reminds me...why is being a drunk, drug using party girl that fucks everything in sight "cool" for college/educated women but when its indians (native americans/canadians) being drunk 24/7, sniffing glue and having sex on the lawn of the park in the middle of the day its "gross" or "sad"?

[heavy]

I'm glad I can say of my mom, sister, and sister-in-laws, they would all read that and roll their eyes (actually, they'd never read it, but if they did, they would thing she's an idiot).

Ideally, the perfect man wouldn't talk to his daughter (lean on her) about the marriage issues, but she was far worse by being dishonest in not telling him she couldn't handle it. She never told him "please leave me out of this"...that's what I'd have said if I didn't want to hear it. It takes two to tango dummy.

[AnonymousBosch]

(06-28-2016 05:01 PM)Latan Wrote:  

^Once a slut, always a slut.
She won't make me believe she has changed.

Read the article again, and read between the lines.

It's not Being A Slut she misses.

It's being Young and Beautiful enough to be able to be a Slut that she misses.

At 20, being a Slut can superficially attract the type of high level man she believes she deserves for sex, but not a relationship.

Then one day, strangely, it didn't seem to reliably-work for her, and men were no longer paying attention to her tits. Why could that be?

Post-wall, attempting to be a Slut repulses the men she wants, and she's left with polite, boring dates and awkward clothed sex with Beta men she believes are beneath her standards.

Reminds me of a song I was listening to recently:

Quote:

You chased the sun around the Cote d'Azur
Until the light of youth became obscured
And left you on your own and in the shade
An English lady of a certain age

[nomadbrah]

(06-19-2016 10:36 AM)Days of Broken Arrows Wrote:  

90 percent of what she said is annoying. But she's right about 10 percent:

"He’d talk to me about his marital problems with my mom. It was a heavy weight on my young shoulders. After each of these talks I’d get a nervous and guilty feeling (which I now know is anxiety). After each of these talks I would try to be as perfect and good as I could be. One less thing my parents would have to stress about."

This isn't something parents ever did until Baby Boomers became parents. When that happened, parents became friends with their kids and they developed dysfunctional relationships sometimes called "surrogate spouses."

This is where one parent doesn't get along with the other and uses a kid of the same gender in their place. Ew. Shows the weakness of the Baby Boomers. Your kids are not your confidantes. Go to a friggin' Moose Lodge or something if you want buddies.

That said, this alone doesn't warrant her ire. She seems like a malcontent who will find fault with any man or anything. In the old days, it was a surprise to find out women were like this.

Today, we can see patterns of behavior by tracking things like stories they write or comments they make on Facebook. I have a female friend on Facebook from high school, and 100 percent of her postings are complaints. I've refused to get together with her, because I'll then be the complaint. In the old days, I never would have seen that.

God help the man who ends up marrying women like this.

Yes, and more than that, let's for arguments sake look at it from a more objective viewpoint.

First of all, I agree with you here, you should in no way, never make your adult relationship into something your children are part of, that is sick, semi-incestous, emotionally perverse crap, that is the hallmark of a narcissistic parent. Putting your own emotional needs before the emotional needs of the child.

Of course, we don't know exactly what kind of 'talks' these were. Maybe the parents were in the process of getting divorced and he wanted to warn her to not break the news out of the blue. It's possible.

It is also possible he really was a beta who only had dread game. Don't misunderstand this, what she is describing is dread game on behalf of the father, what she describes as constant belittling of the mother might very well be exactly dread game 'you can't make it on your own, don't leave me'.

I don't blame him, because in this current world, dread game might be the only game, keeping a woman from going Live.Love.Laugh in middle age. It's still rather pathetic.

[Easy_C]

The regret goes deeper than that. I've commented previously that the Alpha "respectable" males these washed up sloots think they'll have won't be available at that point because they'll have married younger, feminine, baby-crazed nice girls.

What I didn't know until recently is that some of them are acutely aware of that. Not that long ago one near wall classmate of mine was hanging out with my group at the hotel bar (loves sex and the city, drinks a lot, all about "my career".... you all know the type) had drunk a bit too much and admitted that she was frustrated that all the military vets at our school( a top-ranked business school) had attractive young wives.

So there may be an element of that as well. She's seeing all the men she thought she would have available with younger wives who are everything she's not.