I've been meaning to ask a few things to do with game and social skills and to introduce myself to the main points of it all. I have had moments when I should have been more dominate, aggressive, and took initiative. I feel like I have missed out on opportunities to have a girlfriend or at least get laid on a regular basis. I feel like I have made myself out to be a weak person. I was told to make a post here and get some advice. So here goes.
Example #1:
Earlier this year I did the whole online dating thing and had a long back and forth on Skype plus meetings in person. I was wanting to initiate something physical on the second after a movie we watched but it just didn't feel right to me and I needed to get home. I was afraid of the whole sexual harassment thing if she wasn't up for it. I am a very socially awkward person. Its difficult trying to act in a more alpha attitude
A few days later she said I was a really cool guy but there was no spark to her. I felt like I wasted a lot of time which is why I need to start getting informed about game. She was decently attractive and I enjoyed conversations with her but I was oblivious to any signals that were positive. How can I avoid those sorts of situations in the future?
Example #2:
This is not exactly to do with game but with being assertive:
I know a old guy that has been a consistent pain in the ass and trying to bum smokes and money off of people that feel sorry for him. I've known him almost 3 years. He doesn't share or give anyone anything, always acting as if people should supply him with means to continue his habits.
This bum whenever he sees me his pretty much first thing he asks me is whether I am still not smoking. He thinks its a an easy way of getting a conversation that would lead him to a smoke if I say I'm smoking again.
I had my last one more than a year ago. Yet he remembers one instance of me smoking and giving one smoke to him and he thinks if he pushes enough he'll get more. Its incredibly annoying. How can I tell him to go fuck himself in a polite way? We have many mutual acquaintances and friends. I don't want to come off as a villain to them.
He is bloody well annoying and if he does manage to see me around again I would love to shove him. That would make me out to be an asshole with the people I know. What ways can I make him damn sure not to ask for money or cigarettes from me?
Example #3:
At my local university there is a large amount of young women. I've not been able to actually just walk up to one and start talking. I find just being around so many people that I get tense and I don't feel quite right. It makes it difficult to start something with all the noise and commontion.
There's been a few that I want to open with but the only opportunities with the that I know from class is while we are in class. It doesn't feel like the right time to initiate something. I am wondering what I can do at school but in a manner in which I won't get the whole "harassment" shit.
What are some techniques I can use to spark a conversation there with one of my fellow students? How do I move beyond talking into more physical conversation?
Anyway, that's it for me. Thanks guys for any suggestions and advice.
Example #1:
Earlier this year I did the whole online dating thing and had a long back and forth on Skype plus meetings in person. I was wanting to initiate something physical on the second after a movie we watched but it just didn't feel right to me and I needed to get home. I was afraid of the whole sexual harassment thing if she wasn't up for it. I am a very socially awkward person. Its difficult trying to act in a more alpha attitude
A few days later she said I was a really cool guy but there was no spark to her. I felt like I wasted a lot of time which is why I need to start getting informed about game. She was decently attractive and I enjoyed conversations with her but I was oblivious to any signals that were positive. How can I avoid those sorts of situations in the future?
Example #2:
This is not exactly to do with game but with being assertive:
I know a old guy that has been a consistent pain in the ass and trying to bum smokes and money off of people that feel sorry for him. I've known him almost 3 years. He doesn't share or give anyone anything, always acting as if people should supply him with means to continue his habits.
This bum whenever he sees me his pretty much first thing he asks me is whether I am still not smoking. He thinks its a an easy way of getting a conversation that would lead him to a smoke if I say I'm smoking again.
I had my last one more than a year ago. Yet he remembers one instance of me smoking and giving one smoke to him and he thinks if he pushes enough he'll get more. Its incredibly annoying. How can I tell him to go fuck himself in a polite way? We have many mutual acquaintances and friends. I don't want to come off as a villain to them.
He is bloody well annoying and if he does manage to see me around again I would love to shove him. That would make me out to be an asshole with the people I know. What ways can I make him damn sure not to ask for money or cigarettes from me?
Example #3:
At my local university there is a large amount of young women. I've not been able to actually just walk up to one and start talking. I find just being around so many people that I get tense and I don't feel quite right. It makes it difficult to start something with all the noise and commontion.
There's been a few that I want to open with but the only opportunities with the that I know from class is while we are in class. It doesn't feel like the right time to initiate something. I am wondering what I can do at school but in a manner in which I won't get the whole "harassment" shit.
What are some techniques I can use to spark a conversation there with one of my fellow students? How do I move beyond talking into more physical conversation?
Anyway, that's it for me. Thanks guys for any suggestions and advice.
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