Redirecting sexual energy - the merits of semen retention and sex without ejaculating
03-26-2016, 08:25 AM
I've been reading a lot about the power of sexual desire recently. The idea that everything we do, whether it be lifting weights or building empires, is essentially because we desire sex in the end. If big muscular bodies were not sexually attractive, we wouldn't lift. If women did not desire powerful men, we wouldn't desire power.
Think about a hot girl you're trying to bang. Before you bang her, you're motivated. You'll go to the gym that morning, suit up to the 9s, drive across town to meet her, take her out, run the best game you can, all the driving force of your sexual desire behind you to get to the end goal of getting laid.
Once you bust, you're calm, happy, but unmotivated. You feel like you've won the game and your motivation is gone. You'll probably just want to watch Netflix or go to sleep.
But if we live our lives as the sleeping Netflix guy we achieve nothing. To bust a load every day means we go through this "recharging" period every day, a period of being lazy and unmotivated and satisfied.
If we refrain from orgasm we keep this sexual power inside us, and with some mental fortitude can re-focus this energy towards more valuable pursuits, such as building a business, a chiseled body, writing a book, building an empire.
It doesn't mean you can't bang or jerk off. It doesn't mean you can't orgasm. It just means you can't blow your load.
I'm at the stage of my life now where I'm getting over banging sluts and busting a nut inside a bunch of different 6's isn't motivating anymore. I enjoy sex as much as the next guy, but every new bang requires many hours of approaching and dates and I feel like my time could be spent building bigger things. I see the merit now in a good LTR, but this takes things to the next level.
This is a totally new subject to me that I've only started reading about in the last few days but it all sounds interesting and I'm definitely going to experiment and see if the effects are as great as I hear. Very interested to hear anyone else's experiences and the methods they use to harness this energy and re direct it to other areas of their life. The "orgasm without ejaculation" thing is still odd to me and I feel uncomfortable just thinking about it. If this is something you've mastered, please share.
Some elementary reading on the topic:
Think about a hot girl you're trying to bang. Before you bang her, you're motivated. You'll go to the gym that morning, suit up to the 9s, drive across town to meet her, take her out, run the best game you can, all the driving force of your sexual desire behind you to get to the end goal of getting laid.
Once you bust, you're calm, happy, but unmotivated. You feel like you've won the game and your motivation is gone. You'll probably just want to watch Netflix or go to sleep.
But if we live our lives as the sleeping Netflix guy we achieve nothing. To bust a load every day means we go through this "recharging" period every day, a period of being lazy and unmotivated and satisfied.
If we refrain from orgasm we keep this sexual power inside us, and with some mental fortitude can re-focus this energy towards more valuable pursuits, such as building a business, a chiseled body, writing a book, building an empire.
It doesn't mean you can't bang or jerk off. It doesn't mean you can't orgasm. It just means you can't blow your load.
I'm at the stage of my life now where I'm getting over banging sluts and busting a nut inside a bunch of different 6's isn't motivating anymore. I enjoy sex as much as the next guy, but every new bang requires many hours of approaching and dates and I feel like my time could be spent building bigger things. I see the merit now in a good LTR, but this takes things to the next level.
This is a totally new subject to me that I've only started reading about in the last few days but it all sounds interesting and I'm definitely going to experiment and see if the effects are as great as I hear. Very interested to hear anyone else's experiences and the methods they use to harness this energy and re direct it to other areas of their life. The "orgasm without ejaculation" thing is still odd to me and I feel uncomfortable just thinking about it. If this is something you've mastered, please share.
Some elementary reading on the topic:
Quote:Quote:
Sex is the driving force that makes a man do anything. All great men of genius and power used their sex drive as fuel. The process of turning sexual energy and aggression into productivity is called:
TRANSMUTATION OF SEXUAL ENERGY
And it is the most powerful tool in existence when it comes to creation, invention, accomplishment, creativity, advancement, and achievement.
Napoleon Hill talked about the Transmutation of Sexual Energy in his ground-breaking book Think and Grow Rich. In the book, Hill noted that all men of genius used their sexual energy as fuel for their creativity. He also noted that Love must be included in the sex relationship.
“Sex, alone, is a mighty urge to action, but it’s forces are like a cyclone-they are often uncontrollable. When the emotion of love begins to mix itself with the emotion of sex, the result is calmness of purpose, poise, accuracy of judgement, and balance.” – Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich
It is common understanding that over-indulgence in drink and drugs lead to ruin but it is uncommon for people to understand that over-indulgence in sex can lead to the same thing. Let that sexual energy build up inside you. Don’t dissipate that energy haphazardly because that energy is sensed by other people and draws them into you like a magnet. Being highly sexed (i.e. having sexual energy) but not giving in to any and all desires is the key to success.
“This orgy of indulgence may account for the shortage of great leaders. No man can avail himself of the forces of his creative imagination, while dissipating them.” – Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich
There is one thing I can guarantee – the most successful men in history have a huge sexual magnetism BUT THEY DO NOT ROUTINELY GIVE IN TO THOSE DESIRES and they never make that desire the goal. They don’t go out on Friday nights looking for some action. They don’t have to, this kind of behavior will bring women to them without any additional effort.
Let me tell you about how I started making money. For years I used to dream and devise money making plans but they failed 100% of the time. I used to think to myself (before I ever read Think and Grow Rich) that guys like Bill Gates, in order for them to make fortunes, had to give up sex and the pursuit of sex in order to make money. I instinctively knew that but I would think to myself “that’s not worth it“. And because I was unwilling to give up that all consuming desire and redirect that energy I never did anything worthwhile. Not until I had a girlfriend that I lived with and I consciously focused ALL that sexual energy into money making energy that I started to make money on my own. At the time I had a full-time professional job. I had a business plan and desire and I quit my job. 30 days later I made twice my old job’s monthly salary with my new business. And I only did it because I focused my sexual energy into something highly productive. It worked and it’s the only thing that works.
Transmutation of sexual energy is the process of turning sexual energy and aggression into fuel for something bigger. Sex is the number one reason we, as men, do anything. It’s always for sex. It is our biology, our DNA. There is nothing wrong with that. But if we want to accomplish something grand, something great, we have to transform our sexual energy into fuel for something else.
-Don’t indiscriminately have sex. That’s what savages do and that’s why they will stay savage. This doesn’t mean you can’t have sex but do not make sex your primary goal.
-Don’t masturbate or watch internet porn frequently. This drains vital energy from you. You can see vast, positive changes in mood, personality and happiness by giving this up. Keeping your seed develops an animal magnetism that draws people to you, constantly spilling that seed repulses people.
-Consciously use your sexual desire and energy and focus it into your business and life plan. Sexual energy is damn near limitless and when re-directed can turn any man into a money making machine.
-Get a good woman who will take care of all your needs (not just sexual) – this will free your mind from having to even think about these things and you can focus completely on your goal at hand. The love and support of a woman is essential for success – most successful men had a good woman behind the scenes.
Sexual energy is the best fuel that exists – use it wisely. Save it up and watch your energy explode (heh).
Full article: https://boldanddetermined.com/how-to-har...al-energy/
Quote:Quote:
How To Separate Orgasm & Ejaculation?
Ejaculation and orgasm can be separated by contracting the pc muscles (the same you use to hold back pee when you need to go to the bathroom). If you’ve never done this before it’s going to be incredibly awkward during sex.
So this is what I would advice initially;
Solo Practice
Masturbate until just before “the point of no return.” But take your time for it. It’s not about coming but about practice. Masturbation sessions should last about 20 to 30 minutes. Incrementally work towards it.
Here are some tips;
-Be sure to keep your body completely relaxed whilst you do this, don’t tense your body. The more you put tension on your body, the faster you’ll cum.
-Breath slowly. Our degree of arousal is closely link with the speed at which we breath. Try to breath 5 seconds in, hold for two, and breath out for five again.
-If you get close to the point of no return. Stop everything and do 10 full, strong contractions as you were trying to hold in your pee. Let the arousal wane a bit
-Repeat this 15 times. Don’t ejaculate.
-Coconut oil – thank me later.
After a while you’ll be able to surpass the point of no return whilst keeping your pc muscles tightened, stopping the ejaculation but not the orgasm. As a result your penis will stay hard, won’t be extremely sensitive and you won’t have the refractory period (recovery period).
Basically, you’re good to go again.
Eventually, you’ll be able to do this during sex which will give you much more satisfaction, make you feel more energized and hornier than ever.
More driven imo.
Additionally, you’re able to remain hard and orgasm multiple times (my record is 6 solo, three during sex #TMI). Your girl will be able to get multiple orgasms too, since you can last (almost) indefinitely, which makes her more confident, perform better and happier.
And who doesn’t love seeing their girl enjoy herself?
Best of both worlds eh?
Sex Practice
By training your pc muscles during solo practice you’ll incrementally get better at controlling and restraining your ejaculation to the point you can last indefinitely. You can practice solo as a warm-up for “the real thing”.
During sex, when you get close to the point of no return, use what is called “locking the gate”
-Stop thrusting, hold your breath, squueze your pc muscles tightly and retreat (so only your tip is inside your girl).
-Take a deep breath and hold it, then do 10 rapid, strong contractions of your pc muscles, anal sphincter and your glutes.
-Clench your teeth, press tongue against roof of mouth
-Straighten your neck and back
-Clench fists
-Exhale after contractions (repeat cycle if necessary)
Just talk about it with your girl that you would like to “try something new.”
By preserving your semen and opting for dry orgasms (good) over spludge orgasms (bad) you’ll get the following benefits;
You can have multiple orgasms
She can have multiple orgasms
You don’t have energy/motivation drains from ejaculations
You can last indefinitely (almost at least)
You feel more driven (that’s what I’ve noticed)
It increases testosterone (study)
Other noted benefits, courtesy of reddit
Essence
Less ejaculations = more energy and desire to do shit.
Don’t waste your precious seed in front of a stupid screen but go out and get a grip on life (and not your dick). In the end it’s definitely worth a shot, even if you think it’s not going to do much good.
Also: You need a creative exhaust for your sexual energy to be channeled into something more productive: a company, a passion, a blog or a project you’re working on. Otherwise it will find lesser ways of release.
Men are builders – so you should be building shit.
Here’s what you do, even if you’re not that into it;
Try it for 30 days using my 30-day Challenge Calendar and see if you don’t notice any improvements. My recommendations;
-Don’t masturbate nor watch porn at all for 30 days.
-Practice the solo dry orgasms through masturbating x amounts of days for 30 days.
-Practice the sex dry orgasms with your girl (but don’t ejaculate) for 30 days
Full article: http://www.basicgrowth.com/harnessing-tr...al-energy/