I am at a transition stage of my life, and it is not easy. I spent most of my 20s living in Latin America and Spain, traveling, writing, banging plenty of girls.
I did sort of get tired of that, I like to be busy, and I felt like I needed a new challenge, something that would be more in line with my potential.
I was very ill in the hospital, and ended up meeting the daughter of the hospitals chief surgeon. I quickly seduced her, and through her, became close to her father, who mentored me and let me scrub in and watch a bunch of operations.
After long and careful consideration, I decided that I wanted to become a doctor, and so moved back to the USA, and am now in an intense 1 yr program of science that covers the pre reqs and links to med school. I will be around 40 give or take a couple years when I finish residency, depending on specialty.
Lately, it seems a bit suffocating. I tell myself that this is normal, that I am more mature now, but I still long for the freedom of the road.
Do any of you who have made a similar sort of transition, either from more responsibility to less, or from less to more, have similar issues?
The second part of my post concerns game. I'll admit, in the past If I thought about the PUA/pickup community and game at all, I would have thought it was kind of lame. I also have done fairly well in terms of notches on my own, probably recently passing a 100 or so, I dont have an exact count, and barely remember some of them. I realize though, that much of my success with women was probably due to my novelty in foreign places, my tall height and above average appearance, as well as a talent I have for identifying likely lays (no, not fatties).
Now that I am back in the USA, a little bit older, and for the first time in my recent life, fairly broke (the illness in Spain, and the expenses of studying have cleaned me out), I have realized that I will need to adapt and compensate.
I came to this forum because I was googling stuff about Brazil, and found Roosh's site, and liked the international aspect.
So, here's what my experience has been like with women in this new city I have been living in for two months, it explains why I am here seeking guidance.
Early on, one of my classmates who was around my age seemed notably stressed out, and had a great rack and athletic body, so I have her over my place to "watch a movie," give her some wine and my favorite single malt whiskey, and it was smooth sailing. One thing I am generally very good at, is escalating physical contact. If a girl is at my place, and we kiss, it almost always leads to fucking.
I had my sights set on another girl in my class, who was only out of college a year or two. I thought she would be a good candidate for dating. I hit on her, took her out once for a daytime visit to a museum and lunch, and we seemed to connect okay. But I was beta/needy, and overdid the pursuit. I also realized that I was very rusty in terms of my ability to win a girl over who I had not previously identified as being interested in me, or to who I did not, as in my times abroad, have an impressive hook to impress with (ie exotic, lifestyle, car, photographer). This was a quality girl, and one of my goals has been to bang less sluts, and try and get someone on my level intellectually. My failure with her definitely took me down a peg. She basically just ignored messages from me via txt or facebook about meeting up to do this or that. Having a fuck buddy of mine fly in to visit me last week was really only moderately successfully in repairing my confidence.
So, I have to be humble, and admit there is a lot to learn. This is not easy for me, since I am generally an independent person, and can be a bit arrogant and think I know best.
What suggestions do you guys have about someone in my shoes? It is back to the basics for me, since I am looking at years of studying and training and limited budgets.
I am recovering from a back injury now, and once I am better, am going to hit the gym again, which has always been a key part of my approach to women, since it gives me self confidence and an improved appearance.
Right now, I am thinking about a combination of learning about game, as well as improving myself. I can probably find enough time in my schedule for salsa lessons in addition to working out.
One thing that might limit me is that I have recently been seriously considering giving up drinking. I seem to overdo it when I am a little down, and that is not a good thing. Can you still game at a bar/club while not drinking?
It is important that I sort this shit out. Unless I keep my confidence up and get back in the groove with women, the stress of the ridiculous amount of studying I do combined with nostalgia for my past freedom will likely cause me to burnout or just quit and give up on a dream I already have invested a considerable amount of effort and money in.
I am new to this forum, and just want to say hello and good luck to everyone here.
I did sort of get tired of that, I like to be busy, and I felt like I needed a new challenge, something that would be more in line with my potential.
I was very ill in the hospital, and ended up meeting the daughter of the hospitals chief surgeon. I quickly seduced her, and through her, became close to her father, who mentored me and let me scrub in and watch a bunch of operations.
After long and careful consideration, I decided that I wanted to become a doctor, and so moved back to the USA, and am now in an intense 1 yr program of science that covers the pre reqs and links to med school. I will be around 40 give or take a couple years when I finish residency, depending on specialty.
Lately, it seems a bit suffocating. I tell myself that this is normal, that I am more mature now, but I still long for the freedom of the road.
Do any of you who have made a similar sort of transition, either from more responsibility to less, or from less to more, have similar issues?
The second part of my post concerns game. I'll admit, in the past If I thought about the PUA/pickup community and game at all, I would have thought it was kind of lame. I also have done fairly well in terms of notches on my own, probably recently passing a 100 or so, I dont have an exact count, and barely remember some of them. I realize though, that much of my success with women was probably due to my novelty in foreign places, my tall height and above average appearance, as well as a talent I have for identifying likely lays (no, not fatties).
Now that I am back in the USA, a little bit older, and for the first time in my recent life, fairly broke (the illness in Spain, and the expenses of studying have cleaned me out), I have realized that I will need to adapt and compensate.
I came to this forum because I was googling stuff about Brazil, and found Roosh's site, and liked the international aspect.
So, here's what my experience has been like with women in this new city I have been living in for two months, it explains why I am here seeking guidance.
Early on, one of my classmates who was around my age seemed notably stressed out, and had a great rack and athletic body, so I have her over my place to "watch a movie," give her some wine and my favorite single malt whiskey, and it was smooth sailing. One thing I am generally very good at, is escalating physical contact. If a girl is at my place, and we kiss, it almost always leads to fucking.
I had my sights set on another girl in my class, who was only out of college a year or two. I thought she would be a good candidate for dating. I hit on her, took her out once for a daytime visit to a museum and lunch, and we seemed to connect okay. But I was beta/needy, and overdid the pursuit. I also realized that I was very rusty in terms of my ability to win a girl over who I had not previously identified as being interested in me, or to who I did not, as in my times abroad, have an impressive hook to impress with (ie exotic, lifestyle, car, photographer). This was a quality girl, and one of my goals has been to bang less sluts, and try and get someone on my level intellectually. My failure with her definitely took me down a peg. She basically just ignored messages from me via txt or facebook about meeting up to do this or that. Having a fuck buddy of mine fly in to visit me last week was really only moderately successfully in repairing my confidence.
So, I have to be humble, and admit there is a lot to learn. This is not easy for me, since I am generally an independent person, and can be a bit arrogant and think I know best.
What suggestions do you guys have about someone in my shoes? It is back to the basics for me, since I am looking at years of studying and training and limited budgets.
I am recovering from a back injury now, and once I am better, am going to hit the gym again, which has always been a key part of my approach to women, since it gives me self confidence and an improved appearance.
Right now, I am thinking about a combination of learning about game, as well as improving myself. I can probably find enough time in my schedule for salsa lessons in addition to working out.
One thing that might limit me is that I have recently been seriously considering giving up drinking. I seem to overdo it when I am a little down, and that is not a good thing. Can you still game at a bar/club while not drinking?
It is important that I sort this shit out. Unless I keep my confidence up and get back in the groove with women, the stress of the ridiculous amount of studying I do combined with nostalgia for my past freedom will likely cause me to burnout or just quit and give up on a dream I already have invested a considerable amount of effort and money in.
I am new to this forum, and just want to say hello and good luck to everyone here.