This is an abridged post of mine, but I'm just curious as to what you all do when you're abroad in terms of social circles? I've found them to be very powerful, but most people I've spoken to don't even bother with them.
Here are some brief tips for creating a social circle in a short time period, while abroad:
Hostels: The obvious choice most people think, is a hostel. I typically stay away from these, however. While the social interaction is nice, the contact with locals is minimal compared to the other options. Foreign girls are often initially intimidated by foreigners. Now imagine a whole group of hostel-goers hanging out at a venue, congregating in the middle of the dance floor.
AirBnB + Couchsurfing: The goal is to create a social circle in a short time period with locals. There’s no better way to meet, interact, and experience their culture than through AirBnB, or Couchsurfing. Ever since the inception of these options, I’ve been using them as an avenue to get a way into foreign cultures seamlessly and efficiently. Don’t ‘use’ your hosts, but honestly look forward to meeting new people. You’ll end up naturally meeting new friends, and be introduced to their social circle. Most AirBnB hosts I’ve used were more than happy to show me around, go out for a beer, and as a by-product, I got introduced to their friends. Whenever I message an AirBnB host, I make it clear that I’d like a local to show me around if possible. This allows me to screen those who prefer to not contact with their guests.
At The Venue: At the venue, make sure you introduce yourself to everybody. Don’t be shy. Hanging around and being a wallflower won’t get you anywhere. Become ‘that’ guy who knows everyone. Whether or not you’ve been introduced to some people by your AirBnB host doesn’t really matter. A common method I use, is to walk up to the bar, and ask someone standing at the bar what they recommend. They’ll usually recommend some local-drink, and the conversation can flow from that. People will naturally ask you questions about where you’re from.
On The Streets: Depending on where you’re going, locals love helping foreigners navigate their way, whether it be locating a local cafe or a nearby bar. This leads into a natural possibility to extend the interaction – whether it be with a guy, or a girl.
In general, I avoid hotels. You can usually meet people in the hotel lobbies, and it’s easy to bring girls back, but the social interaction with locals is minimal.
In a short time span, this is the best method I’ve been able to use in order to increase exposure to locals. Aside from the possibility of meeting women, there’s no better introduction to a culture. In Romania, I ate pig-brains at my hosts’ parents house, in Denmark I went on a weekend camping trip with locals I met on my first day, in Costa Rica I attended a wedding in a local village just by asking for directions, and in Ukraine I went to a stag party after I met a group of guys the night before at a club. In each country some of the women I slept with were in some way or another an extension of a social group I was apart of.
Sure, I still approached girls, built my online pipeline and gamed at the local venues. Building a social circle is in no way the only tool you should use, but it’s one that’s so often overlooked and can be quite powerful.
Here are some brief tips for creating a social circle in a short time period, while abroad:
Hostels: The obvious choice most people think, is a hostel. I typically stay away from these, however. While the social interaction is nice, the contact with locals is minimal compared to the other options. Foreign girls are often initially intimidated by foreigners. Now imagine a whole group of hostel-goers hanging out at a venue, congregating in the middle of the dance floor.
AirBnB + Couchsurfing: The goal is to create a social circle in a short time period with locals. There’s no better way to meet, interact, and experience their culture than through AirBnB, or Couchsurfing. Ever since the inception of these options, I’ve been using them as an avenue to get a way into foreign cultures seamlessly and efficiently. Don’t ‘use’ your hosts, but honestly look forward to meeting new people. You’ll end up naturally meeting new friends, and be introduced to their social circle. Most AirBnB hosts I’ve used were more than happy to show me around, go out for a beer, and as a by-product, I got introduced to their friends. Whenever I message an AirBnB host, I make it clear that I’d like a local to show me around if possible. This allows me to screen those who prefer to not contact with their guests.
At The Venue: At the venue, make sure you introduce yourself to everybody. Don’t be shy. Hanging around and being a wallflower won’t get you anywhere. Become ‘that’ guy who knows everyone. Whether or not you’ve been introduced to some people by your AirBnB host doesn’t really matter. A common method I use, is to walk up to the bar, and ask someone standing at the bar what they recommend. They’ll usually recommend some local-drink, and the conversation can flow from that. People will naturally ask you questions about where you’re from.
On The Streets: Depending on where you’re going, locals love helping foreigners navigate their way, whether it be locating a local cafe or a nearby bar. This leads into a natural possibility to extend the interaction – whether it be with a guy, or a girl.
In general, I avoid hotels. You can usually meet people in the hotel lobbies, and it’s easy to bring girls back, but the social interaction with locals is minimal.
In a short time span, this is the best method I’ve been able to use in order to increase exposure to locals. Aside from the possibility of meeting women, there’s no better introduction to a culture. In Romania, I ate pig-brains at my hosts’ parents house, in Denmark I went on a weekend camping trip with locals I met on my first day, in Costa Rica I attended a wedding in a local village just by asking for directions, and in Ukraine I went to a stag party after I met a group of guys the night before at a club. In each country some of the women I slept with were in some way or another an extension of a social group I was apart of.
Sure, I still approached girls, built my online pipeline and gamed at the local venues. Building a social circle is in no way the only tool you should use, but it’s one that’s so often overlooked and can be quite powerful.