A blogger publicizes new research stating that men of the past were selected not by women, but by parents of women. The men also did not choose their wives. The dysfunction we have today when it comes to marriage and family is in part due to women and men choosing their own partners. Humans, it turns out, never evolved the ability to select a good mate.
The beta male strategy of getting a mate is actually about impressing the girl's parents, who used to select her husband. When women select their mates, this strategy no longer works, and we have an automatic 50% divorce rate in most Westernized countries where "love" reigns.
For a while I thought that women selected beta males because of survival reasons, but this shows that it was also (or moreso) because they didn't have much of a choice. This also explains how even in modern times, a girl with strong family values will seek parental approval of her husband, and that husband would have more beta traits than if the parents weren't involved in the selection process.
http://charltonteaching.blogspot.com/201...rtant.html
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Apostolou shows that in most societies in human history, and continuing in most modern societies outside of The West, individual men and women had very little choice of their mates - and that this choice was nearly always made by their parents. In other words, marriages were arranged by the parents of the husband and wife - especially the daughter's marriage, and usually by their fathers more than their mothers.
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The characteristics parents prefer (compared with individual preferences) include good character, ability to provide resources (especially men), coming from a 'good family' - with high status and wealth, and pre-marital chastity (especially in women).
The characteristics individuals prefer (compared with their parents) include beauty and good looks (hair, face, figure etc. in a woman; muscular physique in a man), a charming and entertaining personality, the ability to provide sexual excitement and so on.
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...modern men and women are not adapted to select a partner from an unscreened population - and not equipped with the proper instincts to assist their choice; so they are vulnerable to deception and exploitation.
Therefore human evolutionary history has left modern individuals, in a world where parental choice and control has been all-but eliminated from mainstream life, woefully ill-equipped to manage their sexual lives.
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...men worry too much about attaining high status among men, and becoming a good provider - when these were selected for in a world where prospective in-laws wanted these attributes from men; but in the modern world they are an ineffectual strategy for getting a mate.
In sum (and in terms of their biological fitness) modern men are too worried about working hard, and not worried enough about meeting and impressing individual women.
The beta male strategy of getting a mate is actually about impressing the girl's parents, who used to select her husband. When women select their mates, this strategy no longer works, and we have an automatic 50% divorce rate in most Westernized countries where "love" reigns.
For a while I thought that women selected beta males because of survival reasons, but this shows that it was also (or moreso) because they didn't have much of a choice. This also explains how even in modern times, a girl with strong family values will seek parental approval of her husband, and that husband would have more beta traits than if the parents weren't involved in the selection process.
http://charltonteaching.blogspot.com/201...rtant.html
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