[RatInTheWoods]

(10-15-2015 05:09 PM)Dantes Wrote:  

It sounds like she is the best thing in your life and you should be asking how you get her back. As you describe, she is:

a good mother

keeps a good home

provides sex/BJs on demand

contributes financially when asked to do so.

In the western world, she seems to be a fairly traditional wife who keeps up her end of the bargain. You have what many of us want in a woman, albeit a high notch count mostly accumulated before you met her.

This. She is a better wife than you are husband.

Beg to have her back and stop beating her up.

[SuperBock]

Thanks guys, bit late for that now, she must have clocked my phone pass code when I stayed over as she got into my phone, found the browsing history and link to this thread and obviously recognised the story.

She later went through all my other posts and where I had mentioned staying with her but maybe continuing gaming girls on the side, a few approaches, flirting, tinder screen shots, inc my mentioning kissing one girl.

She's been to a solicitor and knows how much she can get and now wants divorce.

I do want it to work as I said at the start of the thread and hopefully she'll change her mind but I'm not going to beg, she will do what she wants to do now, and I'll live with the consequences.

Thanks for all your input.

[CleanSlate]

The lesson?

1. Don't beat the wife to a pulp
2. Lock down smartphones, laptops, anything with personal information and any incriminating photos

Seriously, good luck OP and get a lawyer. And a therapist might be of good benefit.

[Kcoby]

That's a real shame mate!

I would definitely tell her that you still want it to work, and be treating her very very well, if you really do.
I wouldn't give up so easy if she was mine!
Finding out that stuff must have made her feel pretty bad!
Seriously lots of relationships are redeemable with marriage therapy and end up stronger for it, if your both willing, but with kids involved you have to be committed and 100% sure as I imagine they have suffered.

Good luck!!

[SuperBock]

Kcoby are you sure your not my wife incognito??

[Kcoby]

Sorry buddy if I sound like a dick just been in your situation.

[Dino]

(11-07-2015 07:32 AM)SuperBock Wrote:  

Thanks guys, bit late for that now, she must have clocked my phone pass code when I stayed over as she got into my phone, found the browsing history and link to this thread and obviously recognised the story.

She later went through all my other posts and where I had mentioned staying with her but maybe continuing gaming girls on the side, a few approaches, flirting, tinder screen shots, inc my mentioning kissing one girl.

She's been to a solicitor and knows how much she can get and now wants divorce.

I do want it to work as I said at the start of the thread and hopefully she'll change her mind but I'm not going to beg, she will do what she wants to do now, and I'll live with the consequences.

Thanks for all your input.

You need help man. I say that with compassion. This whole thread of yours reads like something from the tv show: Americas dumbest criminals

You should get on your knees and beg that woman back. I don't know how you can make it through a day without help. Step back and look at this downward spiral you are in. You need a total reboot on your life. There are kids involved so be a man and reverse course in all aspects and fix things with your family.

Psychiatrist is needed.

[SuperBock]

Not a dick at all Kcoby, just a lot of what you said was like word for word stuff she has said to me, ways of saying certain things, rationales etc

[SuperBock]

I also want to say to those telling me to beg her take me back, that although I do want it to work out, I think begging would actually do more harm than good, especially after what's happened.

I have told her I want it to work so if she has truly made up her mind to divorce, my begging will only look pathetic and confirm for her that her decision was right. If she is still undecided, begging may still drive her away for the same reason.

My gut feel is that I have made a bed and now should be man enough to lie in it and just double down on making the best of it with my kids.

If deep down she still wants it to work, that will be shown by her actions going forward, ie not proceeding with divorce, trying to communicate with me but I think in this case the die is already cast and what will be will be.

[Dino]

(11-07-2015 12:07 PM)SuperBock Wrote:  

I also want to say to those telling me to beg her take me back, that although I do want it to work out, I think begging would actually do more harm than good, especially after what's happened.

I have told her I want it to work so if she has truly made up her mind to divorce, my begging will only look pathetic and confirm for her that her decision was right. If she is still undecided, begging may still drive her away for the same reason.

My gut feel is that I have made a bed and now should be man enough to lie in it and just double down on making the best of it with my kids.

If deep down she still wants it to work, that will be shown by her actions going forward, ie not proceeding with divorce, trying to communicate with me but I think in this case the die is already cast and what will be will be.

You caused the problem and should fix it. Waiting for others to do your job is lazy and the excuse is a cop out. You attention whored and made your mind up to do nothing before you even posted this story. It's starting to sound a little far fetched. This is a prime example of what is wrong with many men these days. Man up and do the right thing.

[m22_crx]

Too long to bother reading, you need to see a shrink. And no matter how much of a bitch she was beating on her was pathetic mate. Have a word....

[Hector1]

She doesn't sound like a bitch at all.

[v7_]

didn't even read it
but if you have to second guess it
your best bet it to probably not

[RIslander]

Move to Thailand.