Quote: (07-13-2015 08:10 AM)tommyb Wrote:
Do u think it's OK or it's something wrong?(In case everything is fine with the relationship)
I think its fine especially if you're married. Having a wife and especially kids is serious business and one true but ugly side of life I've had to face head on is the necessity of lieing to people to make them happy. I used to pride myself on my honesty and integrity with women but in a serious relationship with feelings, finances, parenting, and responsibility involved real life hits and things get more complex.
You need to keep the peace in your household to maintain happiness for everyone and a good healthy vibe at home. In order to do this authentically you need to be happy and for some men that probably includes having some sex with other women. Fucking other women also helps you stay alpha and in turn can benefit your LTR relationship.
The main risk of course is getting caught, which is pretty much guaranteed in the long run. You have to evaluate your needs and happiness for what could be many years or even the rest of your life starting now with the possible consequences. If you're alpha with her then even if she catches you she may forgive you, but this can never be guaranteed. You have to be ready to risk losing this woman and all the consequences that entails to take a chance at happiness in your life.
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I'm in relationship almost 10 years(don't want to leave her) and had couple of ONS, which I think are not enough.
How should I do it to not get caught?
Night game is not possible in my situation.
There are already several threads with good advice on how to go about the business without getting caught.
How to do it?
- Pay: Hookers / sugar daddy
- Craigslist for anonymous internet sex. There is a very good thread about this.
- Get with a girl at work - I wouldn't recommend this if it can be helped. Depending on the situation, this can have all kinds of risks for your employment status.
- Online dating, but this risks putting your pictures where she or one of her single/cheating friends can see.
- Day game approaching - Try to eat lunch at a public place, get new before/after work hobbies without your LTR. Find a way to be in a place to meet girls during your "work and hobby hours".
- Start going to the gym more often (5 days a week) and use some of those days for spending time with girls. Be careful she doesn't get suspicious and go to your gym to check on you when you're supposed to be working out there. Its probably better to get a membership at a different gym than her. You will also have to spend time at the actual gym lest she questions your lack of growth.
- Hang out with guy friends once in a while. Make this a pattern so its normal in your lifestyle with her. Then you can have them lie for you when you go to night game or go out and night game with you.
- Business trips - you can try to pipeline new girls online to maximize your weekend.
- Be a workaholic - Start working late more often and taking your job very seriously, at least ostensibly. It helps if your boss/a coworker is down and would back you up if your wife called but its still better to never tell anyone about your cheating.
- Get your LTR to do threesomes - Its possible with the right girl, esp if shes had sex with a girl before in the past.