Welcome to the game gentleman. The game is chess and both sides are playing. Many guys in their late 20’s have long given up on night-game but a few of us are in our 30’s and 40’s are still going strong. Why? Because we understand it's all a game and we know how to play.
It took me more than 10 years of going out three times a week to truly master night-game to the point where I actually enjoy going out. Over the past ten years the amount of women I have pulled from a night-life setting is well into the hundreds. Thursday to Saturday night is mental stimulation for me. When you go out to get laid and try to not understand the game, the game will absolutely destroy you, you’ll get depressed, get angry, get drunk, start a fight, complain, and promise to never go out again and say you're switching to daygame. You’ve been defeated and you’ve lost the game. Night-game is only for the rock solid. Remember, No man should be a slave to his own emotions.
This is going to be separated into two parts based on two different methods of doing night-game. Method one will discuss screening for one night stands and method two will involve getting numbers in preparation for dates on Sunday - Wednesdays.
Screening:
The purpose of screening is for you figure out which girls are out for one night stands. This is all that you are concerned with. This is the most fulfilling method and the method which I run in my own night-game in the states. Saying that, it’s very dangerous and you need to be able to read a situation properly and apply logic to it before you end up in prison. Soon, I’ll explain this.
Screening is not for everyone; it’s for guys who have a direct-approach style. They are bulletproof and have complete understanding of time-management and logistics. The drunk guy in the club only knows the size of the tits of the girl in front of him dancing. That’s as far as his knowledge will ever take him. The screener knows where every girl is, if she is alone or with friends, who she is talking to, who she is looking at, who she has shot down. He reads her lips when she speaks. He will look for creases in her dress, blouse, or the top of her pants; he will use those creases to make mental notes on if she is wearing a thong or panties and gage that on the probability of her menstruating and the odds of a successful one-night stand. He will look for keys in her pocket to see if she took a cab or if she drove. He looks for running mascara to see if she has been crying (sadness, break-up) , he knows if she went home to get ready for the club or if she came from work. In the chess game, he is the grandmaster and he cannot be stopped.
Once the screener has gathered all of the logistics, he is ready to begin the game. But first he must understand the three types of games that women may play with him. These games are not created by me, they were written by a renowned psychologist Eric Berne, MD in the 1960’s in a book the shocked the world called, “The Games That People Play.”
I will touch only on Chapter 9 “Sexual Games.”
The three types of games in a nightlife setting:
1. First-Degree "Kiss Off," consists essentially of mild flirtation. The woman signals that she is available and gets her pleasure from the man's pursuit. As soon as he has committed himself, the game is over. If she is polite, she may say "I appreciate your compliments and thank you very much," and move on to the next conquest. If she is less generous, she may simply leave him.
2.Second-Degree "Indignation," The girl gets only secondary satisfaction from the man’s advances. Her primary gratification does not come from the compliments but rather from rejecting him. She leads the man into a much more serious commitment than the mild flirtation of First-Degree " and enjoys watching his attitude when she repulses him.
3. Third-Degree "Rapo" is a vicious game which ends in the courtroom. Here the man leads the woman into compromising physical contact and then claims that he has made a criminal assault on her. In its most cynical form, the woman may actually allow him to complete the sexual act so that she gets that enjoyment before confronting him. The confrontation may be immediate, as in the illegitimate cry of rape, or it may be long delayed. If she chooses to play it as a criminal assault, she may have no difficulty in finding mercenary or morbidly interested allies, such as the press, the police, counselors and relatives. In some cases outsiders perform a different function. They force the game on an unwilling woman because they want to play "Let's You and Him Fight." They put her in such a position that in order to save her face or her reputation she has to cry rape.
Let’s talk a little more about girl three who cries rape. This happens a lot gentleman, it has never happened to me, but it has happened to many friends of mine. So here is my advice to you and I hope you listen. Never take a girl home from the club who is drunk. Don’t do it! If she is stumbling around and reaches out for you to be her prince charming and save her, let her drunk-ass fall down on the ground. If you’re walking to the parking garage to get in your car and you see a drunk girl sitting on the ground looking for her shoe, do not offer to take her home. Help her find her shoe and put her ass in a taxi.
Also be aware of what Berne said regarding a woman not wanting to cry rape but her friends influence her to because they want to play a game on her. If you’re approaching a group of 5 women and one of them is a little buzzed, you pull her away from the group, and take her home. The probability of her friends urging her to cry rape has just increased dramatically.
Now that you’ve understood the three types of games that women can play, you’re wondering which women play them. Most games are played most intensely by disturbed people; generally speaking, the more disturbed they are, the harder they play. And according to Berne in chapter 14 “The Players”, women who play the rape game usually have anger or resentment toward their father. You will see these different type of women in the club every night and it’s up to you leave them and go to the women who are there for sex or who are there to have fun but are open to having a one-night sexual encounter.
Finding the women:
In Denver, I have three crucial hours to find a woman with the screening method, 11:00pm - 2:00am. I pick a street that has the most clubs and I go from club to club looking for these women. I never spend more than 15 minutes with a woman before I find out her intention or ask her to leave the club with me.
Always aim for places that allow you to communicate. I find the ideal location either the area outside for smoking, beside the bathroom, or at the bar. Do not get caught up on the dance floor, you'll waste too much time.
If you are wondering what to say, don’t. It doesn’t really matter to be honest. Just make sure she knows your intention, be aggressive with her, and say "let's get out of here." An expert screener does not waste time with a girl that he knows is a dead end. You're not there to ask about her family quarrels, her boss, and what she thinks about the president. In screening, a woman is not your enemy, time is your enemy. She has already decided if she wanted a one night stand with you when you said "hello," the only reason you are still talking to her is to convince her that you are not a murderer. So it's up to you to quickly establish rapport and get her to either your apartment, hers, the car, or beside in the ally beside the club.
The Number game:
The number game is the ideal way if you do not have the direct–style approach. It is safer than the screening method and allows for more volume. It’s not uncommon to get 5 to 10 numbers a night. Because you’re doing the numbers game, you don’t have to worry so much about the games that women are playing. It is instead beneficial for you to look at the game in a different way.
In 1956, a book was published called “The Presentation of Self in Everyday Life.” by Erving Goffman. The premise behind this book is that life is one giant movie and everyone is actors or acresses and where you are is the setting and what you choose to say is the script. In other words, the nightlife setting is all bullshit, so realize this and you will be much more sucessful.
When an individual comes in contact with other people, that individual will attempt to control or guide the impression that others might make of him by changing or fixing his or her setting, appearance, and manner. In social interaction, like a nightclub, there is a front region where the “actors” (individuals) are on stage in front of the audiences (dance floor, at a table with friends). This is where the positive aspect of the idea of self and desired impressions are highlighted. There is also a back region or stage that can also be considered as a hidden or private place where individuals can be themselves and set aside their role or identity in society. You’re goal is to aim to get her to the private place where she can be herself.
When she is around her friends, she will be playing a role. She is aware that her friends, as well as the men around her are judging her. Because this script is already pre-imagined in her head, you are the outsider trying to re-write the script. It’s up to you to either find a subtle way to
1.Slip her your number on a piece of paper without anyone seeing it (do this when you believe she has a boyfriend and she is around her friends who will gossip)
2.Pull her aside away from the center of attention to the bathroom, bar, or the smoking area (do this when you think she is worried that she will come across as easy to her friends)
3.Make her feel comfortable enough to give it to you while she is standing with her friends. (She considers you attractive and she wants them to be jealous.)
The first two steps are crucial to guys who are not considered great looking. The more attractive you are, the more you can skip over these steps.
Remember, you goal is to collect numbers, so meet her, establish rapport, get the number, and split to a new club or different floor to run the same game. Do not follow her around all night like a dog. Be a man and remember your mission. Thursday thru Saturday are for numbers and Sunday thru Wednesday are for dates. Once you have a fuck list the size of a Rolodex, you can run night-game until 2am and then send out the text and find out which repeats are down to fuck. In the end, you've gotten five numbers and you still got a lay. You're better off than 95% of the people at the club.
It took me more than 10 years of going out three times a week to truly master night-game to the point where I actually enjoy going out. Over the past ten years the amount of women I have pulled from a night-life setting is well into the hundreds. Thursday to Saturday night is mental stimulation for me. When you go out to get laid and try to not understand the game, the game will absolutely destroy you, you’ll get depressed, get angry, get drunk, start a fight, complain, and promise to never go out again and say you're switching to daygame. You’ve been defeated and you’ve lost the game. Night-game is only for the rock solid. Remember, No man should be a slave to his own emotions.
This is going to be separated into two parts based on two different methods of doing night-game. Method one will discuss screening for one night stands and method two will involve getting numbers in preparation for dates on Sunday - Wednesdays.
Screening:
The purpose of screening is for you figure out which girls are out for one night stands. This is all that you are concerned with. This is the most fulfilling method and the method which I run in my own night-game in the states. Saying that, it’s very dangerous and you need to be able to read a situation properly and apply logic to it before you end up in prison. Soon, I’ll explain this.
Screening is not for everyone; it’s for guys who have a direct-approach style. They are bulletproof and have complete understanding of time-management and logistics. The drunk guy in the club only knows the size of the tits of the girl in front of him dancing. That’s as far as his knowledge will ever take him. The screener knows where every girl is, if she is alone or with friends, who she is talking to, who she is looking at, who she has shot down. He reads her lips when she speaks. He will look for creases in her dress, blouse, or the top of her pants; he will use those creases to make mental notes on if she is wearing a thong or panties and gage that on the probability of her menstruating and the odds of a successful one-night stand. He will look for keys in her pocket to see if she took a cab or if she drove. He looks for running mascara to see if she has been crying (sadness, break-up) , he knows if she went home to get ready for the club or if she came from work. In the chess game, he is the grandmaster and he cannot be stopped.
Once the screener has gathered all of the logistics, he is ready to begin the game. But first he must understand the three types of games that women may play with him. These games are not created by me, they were written by a renowned psychologist Eric Berne, MD in the 1960’s in a book the shocked the world called, “The Games That People Play.”
I will touch only on Chapter 9 “Sexual Games.”
The three types of games in a nightlife setting:
1. First-Degree "Kiss Off," consists essentially of mild flirtation. The woman signals that she is available and gets her pleasure from the man's pursuit. As soon as he has committed himself, the game is over. If she is polite, she may say "I appreciate your compliments and thank you very much," and move on to the next conquest. If she is less generous, she may simply leave him.
2.Second-Degree "Indignation," The girl gets only secondary satisfaction from the man’s advances. Her primary gratification does not come from the compliments but rather from rejecting him. She leads the man into a much more serious commitment than the mild flirtation of First-Degree " and enjoys watching his attitude when she repulses him.
3. Third-Degree "Rapo" is a vicious game which ends in the courtroom. Here the man leads the woman into compromising physical contact and then claims that he has made a criminal assault on her. In its most cynical form, the woman may actually allow him to complete the sexual act so that she gets that enjoyment before confronting him. The confrontation may be immediate, as in the illegitimate cry of rape, or it may be long delayed. If she chooses to play it as a criminal assault, she may have no difficulty in finding mercenary or morbidly interested allies, such as the press, the police, counselors and relatives. In some cases outsiders perform a different function. They force the game on an unwilling woman because they want to play "Let's You and Him Fight." They put her in such a position that in order to save her face or her reputation she has to cry rape.
Let’s talk a little more about girl three who cries rape. This happens a lot gentleman, it has never happened to me, but it has happened to many friends of mine. So here is my advice to you and I hope you listen. Never take a girl home from the club who is drunk. Don’t do it! If she is stumbling around and reaches out for you to be her prince charming and save her, let her drunk-ass fall down on the ground. If you’re walking to the parking garage to get in your car and you see a drunk girl sitting on the ground looking for her shoe, do not offer to take her home. Help her find her shoe and put her ass in a taxi.
Also be aware of what Berne said regarding a woman not wanting to cry rape but her friends influence her to because they want to play a game on her. If you’re approaching a group of 5 women and one of them is a little buzzed, you pull her away from the group, and take her home. The probability of her friends urging her to cry rape has just increased dramatically.
Now that you’ve understood the three types of games that women can play, you’re wondering which women play them. Most games are played most intensely by disturbed people; generally speaking, the more disturbed they are, the harder they play. And according to Berne in chapter 14 “The Players”, women who play the rape game usually have anger or resentment toward their father. You will see these different type of women in the club every night and it’s up to you leave them and go to the women who are there for sex or who are there to have fun but are open to having a one-night sexual encounter.
Finding the women:
In Denver, I have three crucial hours to find a woman with the screening method, 11:00pm - 2:00am. I pick a street that has the most clubs and I go from club to club looking for these women. I never spend more than 15 minutes with a woman before I find out her intention or ask her to leave the club with me.
Always aim for places that allow you to communicate. I find the ideal location either the area outside for smoking, beside the bathroom, or at the bar. Do not get caught up on the dance floor, you'll waste too much time.
If you are wondering what to say, don’t. It doesn’t really matter to be honest. Just make sure she knows your intention, be aggressive with her, and say "let's get out of here." An expert screener does not waste time with a girl that he knows is a dead end. You're not there to ask about her family quarrels, her boss, and what she thinks about the president. In screening, a woman is not your enemy, time is your enemy. She has already decided if she wanted a one night stand with you when you said "hello," the only reason you are still talking to her is to convince her that you are not a murderer. So it's up to you to quickly establish rapport and get her to either your apartment, hers, the car, or beside in the ally beside the club.
The Number game:
The number game is the ideal way if you do not have the direct–style approach. It is safer than the screening method and allows for more volume. It’s not uncommon to get 5 to 10 numbers a night. Because you’re doing the numbers game, you don’t have to worry so much about the games that women are playing. It is instead beneficial for you to look at the game in a different way.
In 1956, a book was published called “The Presentation of Self in Everyday Life.” by Erving Goffman. The premise behind this book is that life is one giant movie and everyone is actors or acresses and where you are is the setting and what you choose to say is the script. In other words, the nightlife setting is all bullshit, so realize this and you will be much more sucessful.
When an individual comes in contact with other people, that individual will attempt to control or guide the impression that others might make of him by changing or fixing his or her setting, appearance, and manner. In social interaction, like a nightclub, there is a front region where the “actors” (individuals) are on stage in front of the audiences (dance floor, at a table with friends). This is where the positive aspect of the idea of self and desired impressions are highlighted. There is also a back region or stage that can also be considered as a hidden or private place where individuals can be themselves and set aside their role or identity in society. You’re goal is to aim to get her to the private place where she can be herself.
When she is around her friends, she will be playing a role. She is aware that her friends, as well as the men around her are judging her. Because this script is already pre-imagined in her head, you are the outsider trying to re-write the script. It’s up to you to either find a subtle way to
1.Slip her your number on a piece of paper without anyone seeing it (do this when you believe she has a boyfriend and she is around her friends who will gossip)
2.Pull her aside away from the center of attention to the bathroom, bar, or the smoking area (do this when you think she is worried that she will come across as easy to her friends)
3.Make her feel comfortable enough to give it to you while she is standing with her friends. (She considers you attractive and she wants them to be jealous.)
The first two steps are crucial to guys who are not considered great looking. The more attractive you are, the more you can skip over these steps.
Remember, you goal is to collect numbers, so meet her, establish rapport, get the number, and split to a new club or different floor to run the same game. Do not follow her around all night like a dog. Be a man and remember your mission. Thursday thru Saturday are for numbers and Sunday thru Wednesday are for dates. Once you have a fuck list the size of a Rolodex, you can run night-game until 2am and then send out the text and find out which repeats are down to fuck. In the end, you've gotten five numbers and you still got a lay. You're better off than 95% of the people at the club.