[kingq]

So a buddy of mine and myself went out yesterday to a shopping center and tried some cold approaches. I was too scared still at this point but I did have a girl open me on my book prop. That didn't go too far. The few moments I had to premeditate my openers were wasted since I didn't use any of them. My friend did a few approaches, he didn't close but could have had he put forth more of an effort. We spent about a solid hour and a half doing this. My takeaway from this was that a compliment can make any one's day and that most people are 'lazy' they want someone else to do all the work - approach, repertoire, close. How do you know if it's time to close, look for cues after creating a connection. But it's up to you to find the cues and even if there are none there fuck it try and close anyways. My biggest problem at this point is, and I guess the only way to put this is, a fear of approaching. I always end up freezing when I've made it in my mind that I will approach. And it seems to me that this happens when I find the girl to be a bit out of my league. What I consider out of my league - The ultra preppy, high class, omg I broke a nail the world is over, kind of girl. So im hoping I can get some advise on this, how to overcome this feeling or just get over this irrational pussified feeling of fear.

Lastly, overall I had fun and learned a lot and will continue to practice approaching. A few weeks back the mayor said to me while I attended a speech he gave that you have to show up everyday and that's when you will see results. Likewise, I have a similar saying "that which is reinforced today is habitual tomorrow." I want "normal" habits not irrational pussified feelings of inferiorness reinforced.

[Cobra]

"Showing up" is key.

That means, malls, events, grocery stores, college campuses, busy intersections on the street etc.

Again, "show up" to these venues.

Walk around, ask about something in the background. Maybe it's a shoe store, maybe an apple, maybe directions.

Worry about just the above for now. Why? Because anxiety and fear are bitches. You have to get over them first. The more you socialize with beautiful women, the more you will get rid of that anxiety. You don't have to go for their number yet.

The rest can be worked on after you've done this enough times and feel comfortable just opening.

Game literature will tell you about all the steps, including opening, teasing, closing and so on. However, when you're new it is very difficult to execute these steps as your vibe has not caught up to all of them. It's daunting to think about this too much as It takes time and effort. So don't expect to number close immediately.

I'll be practical.

If you show up to a mall for example, 10 times, you will approach at least once. If you approach 10 times, you will go for the number at least once. If you go for 10 numbers, you will get at least one. If you get 10 numbers, at least one will text back. If 10 girls text you back, one will go out with you.

Your job from the above statistics is to control what you can. The rest will fall in place. You may even be surprised.

[Robert Plant]

Always be opening. Offer something to the girl in order to get her number. Eg "I belong to a couple of wineries. I taste for free. I'd be happy to bring you for a tasting."

She'll be like, "That sounds cool. I just say, "shoot me a text, I'll let you know when I'm going the next time".

Even if you don't try for the number though just talking to lots of women is fun.

[mammal]

(05-25-2015 03:11 PM)kingq Wrote:  

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I always end up freezing when I've made it in my mind that I will approach. And it seems to me that this happens when I find the girl to be a bit out of my league.
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Why does Roosh refer to the "elderly opener" in Day Bang? Because he was approached by an elderly man trying to start a conversation. Ask questions of men, of unattractive women. Once you are able to do that, talk to more attractive women. The point early on is to be chatty, friendly, and you can do that with anyone.