[keysersoze]

Ever notice when one interaction goes well, it catalyzes some sort of chain of positivity leading to all other interactions going well?

I can be confident all I want, but if I'm brooding around in not-so-great mood, I find that all my interactions seem to reflect that.

On Tuesday, the sun was shining and I was wearing some new clothes, feeling amazing after an early morning workout. Absolutely beaming with positivity. A sexy girl in my philosophy lecture, who had sat up front all semester, came to sit by me in the back (this is the last week of classes). During class, she kept looking over at me. I could feel her eyes on me. At the end of class, she says, "good luck with your chemistry test" (I was cramming for a biochemistry quiz all class). I said "thanks" ... "since I wasn't paying attention to the philosophy professor, can I get the notes?" She says yes, and invites me to join her in the library. We chatted and within about two minutes she eagerly agreed to get drinks with me after our final Thursday (tonight).

I was dressed well, exuded positivity, and she opened me. Naturally, I was in a very good mood after this. What do you know, next class, another chick starts talking to me who I hadn't spoken to all semester. We were laughing, flirting, etc. Got her number.

Later, I went to a drugstore. As I was perusing the isles for face wash, I saw a sexy girl with a fine body, gamed her, and we're hanging out after finals next week. I got this chick as I was picking out fucking acne cream! That made me laugh.

Later I went to an Italian place with my roommates for some dinner. Cashier was smoking hot. Four of my buddies watched me smoothly flirt with this chick. She was smiling and laughing with me. Didn't ask for her number, just another moral victory.

It really reinforced the whole "Law of Attraction" principle to me. It's crazy how a bit of positivity can spark a series of flawless and amazing interactions, leading the three numbers/dates in a span of a few hours. And I wasn't really trying. Just dressed well, smiled, and talked to the girls that were presented in front of me.

[xxMarco]

Just got out of the shower and was thinking about this so I thought I would write it down.

After a night out of not pulling a girl or not making even a single approach I start to get in this shit mood. I throw a pity party and think about how much I suck at actually gaming. How the last girl I was seeing dumped me pretty hard, how I messed up that one interaction, how i'm a loner and all my friends are married with kids, how things are just not happening like I want them to.

I and I am sure most of us lose sight of our previous accomplishments.
Thinking back on just 5 years ago I have banged so many beautiful women.
I have traveled and fucked girls in other countries.
My same night lay conversion has gotten really good, I don't even get phone numbers now.
My finances are in order
I live alone like a nomad. Peaceful
I have a solid career at this point
I am in the best shape of my life working out everyday

When I see a family member I have not seen in a while and I get compliments about my appearance and my confidence it makes me feel good.
I have really come a long way from that shy introverted skinny dude I used to be.

You can't let these bitches bring you down. Just because you didn't pull that one night, didn't fuck, didn't get the number, got dumped, does not mean you are not awesome guy. Don't belittle yourself over petty bullshit like this. Stay positive

[edtf]

Congratulations man.

The way I like to think about it is that by maximizing your inner game, style, and fitness you've become the male equivalent of the hot girl with perfect style, body, and looks, who no guy in the right mind would ever disqualify. That creates a positive cycle of reinforcement.

Imagine that beating of your heart when you see a hot girl walk past you, as you admire her every feature. That same feeling and excitement, the girl feels when she is looking at you.

The same way you brag to your buddies of how you got a number and set up a date with a cute girl, the girl is bragging to her girlfriends with excitement about the amazing guy she just met.

And the only thing stopping you from becoming That Guy is your own willpower.

[Ingocnito]

I had an ex plate that I really liked, i.e. considering for a bit longer term type chick, drop her guard and agree to spend time together after she found out I was banging an ex the whole time we were together.

It actually seemed to materialize in me thinking positive about her, not pedestalizing her, just realizing;"Damn, this is one of the best chicks I suspect, I've met in a long ass time." I'm not religious but I sent some good juju her way since her dad is having heart issues.

I also forgave myself, and my ex who "enlightened" this girl we were banging whole time. That was tough, I had to do it over n over to make it stick mentally.

The negativity in game for me had to get tucked away. Once I find myself talking to a girl, it starts to melt away anyways now. The most negative I might appear outwardly is during hard negs.

You really gotta internalize it, then go back to being the same person you were before learning it, and let your subconscious game interject to help you make those quick right/left turns when in the field, or with a woman, instead of fight it.

I know I've had a better outlook because I can't think of a single time in the last 10 times I went out, whether with women or the boys, and people not reflect the next day or week about having a good/great time. I think I'm part of that vibe.

[TigerMandingo]

Is there a need for artificial and uninspired threads like this? I feel like the Weighlifting, lifestyle, and knowledge forums more than adequately add to the overall positivity of the place.

[Fortis]

^ Excellent and constructive comment.

[WestIndianArchie]

Never understood the need to police topics so fiercely.

WIA

[Fortis]

Hopefully I don't come across as policing. I will gladly step out if i'm coming across that way.

[WestIndianArchie]

I meant the person trying to stop this thread from happening because in his estimation other threads do the job.

It's the internet, you don't have to read what you don't want to.

WIA

[Fortis]

Agreed, WIA.

[PainPositive]

I approached the hottest girl in the bar and thought she was gonna be tough. She turned out to be sweet and danced while stopping when I spoke. I eventually qualified her by asking 3 good things about her personality.
She took forever to get them out but said she was honest hard working and... she is tall blonde big titted Serb 9 with a white tube top and white ruffled dress... She put her head in my shoulder and said "shy". She was almost the hottest and sweetest girl I've ever met. I gave her a hard hug and she was pretty much hooked after that.

Long story she is a family girl and always sends me videos of her playing with her little brothers and cooking for her father.

[Windom Earle]

^ I'm assuming that she wasn't just hooked on your hugging ability?

Whilst I'm not alien to exuding positivity, I find my default mode can be one of brooding - mainly in part due to being an ISTJ.

It can be hard to break the cycle of negative thinking (which at times can become catastrophic without any rational basis).

The one thing I try to keep in the back of my mind is that positive people attract positive experiences and other positive people in their lives (as alluded to by the OP). This makes for healthy social interaction and a fulfilled life, in my opinion.

I read The Celestine Prophecy when I was 17, which had a profoundly positive impact on me.

In short, it highlights that humans (and all living things) are essentially energy systems that feed off one another. Among other things, it also mentions that by paying attention to life's "coincidences" (and expanding upon knowledge), you can seek out a path in life most congruent with what you desire. Conversely, if you neglect your true desires, you inevitably become restless, disillusioned, and unhappy - essentially "thieving" energy from other people instead of building upon positive energy.

I also found that it has a red-pill focus on relationships - if the "vibe" is no longer there, you can't force it and shouldn't hold on to what was once there, but instead focus on what is inevitably just around the corner with someone new.

Whilst that book has its flaws, it's definitely worth a read if you find yourself in a rut.

[almohajem]

I have high standards when it come to girls behaviour. My girls should be cool, educated, clean and cook. That's perhaps why I go by long periods of dryness when I switch from a girl to another. I have a minimum looks rule, but not too strict about that.

Guys here claim that they will be happy with a feminine, nice-looking and caring women.

On the other hand, it made me think. I left "every" women that acted this way with me. I ditched her after a certain period. Whether it was weeks or months. And I don't consider myself a player.

The truth is, we are just as hard to crack as women. We claim that we want a women who cares and cooks. But we'll leave them anyway even if they do that and more and they are nice-looking.

At this point of my life (25), I'm really still confused. But enjoying every moment nevertheless.

[Aer]

So I recently was replaced by another dude. Long story short, the girl I was with went on an exchange trip to Spain (typical) and we were keeping it pretty civil; she swore to me that she would never do anything with anyone else. She was easily an 8, and good girlfriend material.

Next thing I know, I see pictures plastered over facebook of her and another guy. If she would have just banged another guy, I wouldn't have cared so much, because she's on exchange and I've been there before and I get the urge. I was also banging other girls at the time, but none of them serious. But there was at least 10 photos of them together, and that bothered me to no end.

After a few days of being troubled, I realized something.

It's her loss.

Right now, I'm in the best shape of my life. Also, I'm leaving for Europe in 4 months to stay for the next two years (msg me if you want details of how that's happening). And while deadlifting 455lbs and getting my visa ready is nice, the one thing that really pushed me over was meeting a new girl through a networking program.

It just reminded me how crippling oneitis can be. Now, I rarely think of the girl I was gonna wife up. Now, all I think of is the optimal strategy I will use for European girls, and how to hit the gym while I'm there.

Also, I'm gonna make a ton of money this summer, so that helps too.

So long story short, don't let girls bring you down. They aren't the end-all-be-all, they're merely accessories to make your life better.

And the second they start making your life worse, get rid of them.

[PainPositive]

(05-06-2015 07:40 PM)Windom Earle Wrote:  

^ I'm assuming that she wasn't just hooked on your hugging ability?

I read "Tony's Hug Guide" on accident I now travel the world hugging tons of girls. I was recently on the Dr.Oz show where he tried to shame me into hugging fat girls. I was not amused.

[PainPositive]

(05-06-2015 07:13 PM)PainPositive Wrote:  

I approached the hottest girl in the bar and thought she was gonna be tough. She turned out to be sweet and danced while stopping when I spoke. I eventually qualified her by asking 3 good things about her personality.
She took forever to get them out but said she was honest hard working and... she is tall blonde big titted Serb 9 with a white tube top and white ruffled dress... She put her head in my shoulder and said "shy". She was almost the hottest and sweetest girl I've ever met. I gave her a hard hug and she was pretty much hooked after that.

Long story she is a family girl and always sends me videos of her playing with her little brothers and cooking for her father.

UPDATE: I saw this slut walking past me and my friend today holding the hand of a dirty looking ugly dude with a huge sloppy afro. His light jeans were so dirty that it was like a reverse faded pair of denim with the bottoms all fucked up under his black skate shoes. She also had her hair colored into a BRIGHT YELLOW stripe in the back. I shit you not. Fuck this positive shit.

UPDATE: Ok I was being funny about the fuck positive remark but I am not trolling that was 100% true.

UPDATE: This girl invited me to a photo showing (whatever that is) in a club near my house. We are going with a bunch of girls from our social circle and my best mate will be there too. Also invited another RVF member. I'm seeing a good night in my future. Staying positive.

[Fortis]

I had a funny moment last night that is in line with this thread's thinking:

I was out at a concert last night. I went sort of last minute and missed the opener. I was a little bummed, but that wasn't the biggest deal. The headliner was fucking amazing.

Anyway, the headliner is talking to the audience and says something to the effect of, "America, thank you for having us in NJ tonight!"

I throw up the horns and scream, "Americaaaaaaaa fuck yeah!"

This girl in front of me turns around looks at me and immediately starts screaming the same thing just as the band starts playing.

We're both laughing, so I throw an arm around her and she's like, "You really just made my night."

She reaches into my pocket, takes my cellphone out, puts her number in and calls herself.

At this point I'm like..."Whaaoooooo what?"



I couldn't make anything happen that night because I'd gotten a ride with a friend of mine, but my friend was like, "Dude, I didn't know you were good like that. Let me buy you a drink." The funny thing is that I didn't really do anything. I just rocking out and having a good time.

That girl even texted me a bit today. It was an all-around funny experience.

It's funny how situations like this have been going down every time I go out at night and just have fun. I know that shouldn't always be my frame, but I really just was having a good time.

[BlurredSevens]

Couple things from the last 7 days:


1. Went to a concert with this chick I've been banging for about 2 months. Normally this is not something I'd do, but she was into the music and it was a cool experience to have with a girl, especially since none of my male friends wanted to go to the show, and I probably wouldn't have just gone solo.

2. Had a first date with a 22 year old college girl. She lives 30 mins away and doesn't have a car, so long story short I had to go to her. When I walked into the bar, she had a ordered a whiskey for me and had it waiting on the table. I thought that was a cool move on her part.

3. A girl I've been fucking for maybe 5 months off and on invited me over to her new house. I had never met her friends or roommates (nor did I ever intend to) so I was surprised when I walked into her place and her whole crew was there. I thought it was cool she was down to introduce me to her friends.

4. I've got a second meetup with a girl tomorrow who I banged for the first time last week. She isn't much of a looker but she's skinny and has long hair, which I like a lot. Anyway, she suggested that she make us a dessert and grab us a bottle of wine, because she wants to show me this secret overlook spot at sunset where you can see the whole city. Sounds like a fun experience to me and I'm looking forward to it!

[Achilles]

Had a date with a blonde 7 off tinder last night.

She arrived on time, in a dress and heels (as requested) and ended up buying 3 rounds after I bought the first.

A pleasant 3 hours with a cool chick that resulted in a bang.

All in all a good evening. Will add her to the rotation

[swiss rabbit]

(05-07-2015 06:17 AM)almohajem Wrote:  

The truth is, we are just as hard to crack as women. We claim that we want a women who cares and cooks. But we'll leave them anyway even if they do that and more and they are nice-looking.

At this point of my life (25), I'm really still confused. But enjoying every moment nevertheless.

Amen. I had a girl who had an amazing personality, beautiful, wanted to cook for me, and cleaned my house. But yet...there was just something that wasn't there for me...I keep using this as an example of how human beings are just in general flawed.

[GreenHills]

I agree with what's stated in OP message's beginning. It's good to recognize bad behavior. It's good to not let someone give you shit, but a negative assumption by default is not healthy.

Yesterday I contacted a girl and she never responded to me. My mind goes "bitch is ignoring me". I mistakenly dialed her today while deleting her phone number and she told me that her uncle died. Can't be black and white about people, we live in a rich world.

[DonnyGately]

(04-25-2015 10:10 PM)Apollo21 Wrote:  

(04-25-2015 05:54 PM)BlurredSevens Wrote:  

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I am beginning to notice a vibe of negativity on the forum related to game and women. Endless threads abound about shit tests, flaking, scandals, feminism, iphones, cultural demise, and a pervasive mentality of "us against them" regardless of context.

A recent thread had a newbie asking what to do if a girl asks for his last name before the date. The most "liked" reply was to "tell that bitch to fuck off." Examples like this are increasingly seen all over RVF.

Oftentimes discussions devolve into "the sky is falling" type resolutions, and there are times when the forum can be an echo chamber that reinforces a negative view of the game and of the world.

It doesn't surprise me. Forums are like magnets for people who want to vent their frustrations.

Personally I believe very much in the "Bubble of Love" where every girl
you meet gets to experience your joy, happiness, generosity and good vibes.

I will not let a girls bad attitude ruin my mindset.

Stay happy and you'll attract happy people.

I couldn't agree more.

[HighSpeed_LowDrag]

I had a really good one some months back while I was in Poznan, Poland.

Opened an 8/10 whilst daygaming and she was bowled over at the novelty of talking to a foreigner in her city, because she was desperate to learn to speak English. She begged me to allow her to tag alongside me for about 30 minutes so that she could practice what little she knew.

We stopped and sat at a fountain for a while, and I decided that I wanted to get a photo but she adamantly refused to do so. When I asked her why she that it was because "I'm not pretty enough for photos".

I was legitimately shocked that a girl that attractive - or, for that matter, any girl at all - would ever be able to think that. This having come from Ontario, Canada, where it seems that almost every girl, no matter if she is overweight or has a tasteless personality basically think their pussy is made of gold.

That was when it really hit me that what this forum focuses much of its attention on (foreign girls >>>>>> anglosphere girls) is utterly and completely true.

[Fortis]

Had a fun night trolling with the RVF crew. Lots of great guys came out. Spider even told me my game has gotten better since he saw me last year.

Feels good man.

[RDF]

Just had a first date with a 21 year old from Tinder. I had her to drive to my apartment, park there, and then I drove her to my fav lounge for drinks. This girl had a really great personality - very nice, but not overly bubbly or fake. She had moved from a small town only a few years ago, and still had that charm. We ended up spending over 2.5 hours at the bar, made out, and had a pleasant conversation. By the time we got back to my apartment building, I was dead tired and had work in 5 hours, so I didn't even have energy to push for the bang. I have very little doubt that I'll see her again and that it will happen, but this was a really enjoyable date even though it didn't end with sex.

On that note, it's now been 3 consecutive Thursdays that I've taken first dates to the same lounge, and at least made out with all of them. None of them took out their iPhones a single time (except to show photos on request)! These were all young girls (20-21), including one typical sorority looking blonde girl. It's nice to see that when the conversation is engaging, even girls who are usually checking their phone every 30 seconds know how to put it away.