[philosophical_recovery]

This seems to be the best place for improvement logs without junking up the other forums, so here it is.

After assessing last year's bangs, I have determined that I have been relying heavily on social circle game. I went on a hot streak (for me, anyway) all of last year, doing what I could with little daygame, online game, and social circle game.

I count 9 bangs that I remember in a year or so, here's a breakdown:
2 through OKCupid (one a starfish fuck, the other a great fuck but from an intolerant feminist)
1 tinder random (worst of the bunch, was batting way below me, I would regret this one totally if she wasn't exotic)
2 tinders that I already knew in my social circle and banged
3 pure social circle (2 which were mini relationships)

I got a whole lot of matches on tinder that I never turned into bangs, which I think is the fault of my poor texting game.

Overall, the ones through the social circle were of better quality (I measure quality by age + low N count), but I still think that I can do better. I have decided that the only way to do this is improve my daygame by doing more cold approaches. The best I've done was the year before, which was sniper game which got me an EE broad, the "virgin" that I've

I have attempted this in the past, and it has resulted in some numbers. One that I got back to my place but I didn't escalate quickly enough (I didn't get the right vibe from her, but I think I could've pushed it and she was straight up foreign), the others have been fizzled numbers and rejections.

I need to get rejected more. I need to get out more. I have spent too much time here on the forum on days that I could be out daygaming. Part of this was being under the weather for close to a month, the other part was just sheer will. That broke last night and this morning. I've had a bad attitude, and have been overanalyzing just about everything, causing me to hesitate. I'm tired of seeing hotter babes with lesser men, as I know I have a lot going for me on several fronts. I just plain haven't developed enough game.

This weekend, while putting myself in a challenging environment, I froze. Luckily, I was opened by a true player, who was talking to everyone in his vicinity. He seemed like a cool guy, offered me some dance tips. I also got pinged by a girl even though I was hiding like a little shit away from the dance floor (this is not usual for me, I was in a very unfamiliar environment meant to challenge myself).

I'm about 2 weeks from kicking a plate off the whirly-stick. I didn't want her enough, her neediness was killing me, and getting booty from her was killing my motivation to approach other girls. I juggled her with another girl that I preferred, but I think poor game (and her youth) contributed to her jetting. I have tentative plans with a new plate in about a week through the social circle, but as everyone knows that can easily turn to a flake.

Anyway, I'm cooking up my dinner and getting ready to hit the pavement while it's still daylight outside. I'll update this as needed.

Special thanks to:
Giovonny (Who I will call the forum's daygame master)
Jariel (Who has fantastic contributions that have contributed to this self assessment and reboot)

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I made a mistake and switched my territory by going for a ride about 20+ minutes from home base, thinking the odds were be better. The odds were dismal. Said hi to a tatted up bright haired chick walking her dog, didn't say hi to the girl that didn't pass the test (although I should've just to warm up a bit).

Wasted an hour, bailed back to my homebase gym and started talking to a couple girls there that didn't seem to be part of the sausage fest around me. One seemed interested, then a younger guy who appeared to know them started showing them stuff. The cute one kept looking over at me. Not sure how I could've handled that differently other than spending time running group game. Maybe I should've.

[LINUX]

starfish fuck?

[philosophical_recovery]

(03-30-2015 11:25 PM)LINUX Wrote:  

starfish fuck?

She just laid there, like a starfish. The only interesting things were the things I did. She didn't even move her hips. Her whole demeanor was distant during the act.

I mean, the younger chicks with zero experience know how to get the motion in their hips, and this girl was close to 30. Lame fuck.

[LINUX]

(03-30-2015 11:27 PM)philosophical_recovery Wrote:  

(03-30-2015 11:25 PM)LINUX Wrote:  

starfish fuck?

She just laid there, like a starfish. The only interesting things were the things I did. She didn't even move her hips. Her whole demeanor was distant during the act.

I mean, the younger chicks with zero experience know how to get the motion in their hips, and this girl was close to 30. Lame fuck.

Ah.. got ya. Sounds like you fucked my ex-wife.

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(03-31-2015 12:57 AM)LINUX Wrote:  

Ah.. got ya. Sounds like you fucked my ex-wife.

I feel your pain.


Went out to hopefully run some daygame. Crap weather, so strolling in the usual hunting grounds wasn't an option. Landed at a coffee shop, but the only thing going on was a bunch of highschool girls having a bible study. Nothing good was going to come of that, so I just chatted with the girl who worked there.

Bounced to my usual social activity and decided to try to get more conversation flowing than normal. This is a very weak side of my game that needs some work, as I've let some conversations fall flat on their face before, even though it was my opportunity to lose as I had interest from them. I was just stupid.

Anyway, got a lot of giggles out of some girls that I normally wouldn't. Teased a lot more, was more aggressive in openers. Nothing real big here, as I already knew most of the people, but I wanted to practice. Tried getting a shy chick to open up more, but it's an ongoing effort.

Things I've noticed:
Getting the fuck out of the apartment more often helps. I've been looking forward to the endless opportunity when before I was staying in a lot and definitely in a rut. I bring something to do by myself that can be interrupted for talking with people, dress decent, and start talking to myself out loud on the drive over. I've noticed, especially when I haven't warmed up yet, that I tend to speak at too low a volume and I think it comes across as weak. Practiced some regular greetings. Said hi to random people on the street just to get the muscles working. I was definitely "in the zone" compared to normal, my biggest failure appears to be location and weather. I don't think there's a whole lot around here, but maybe I need to explore more within my vicinity. BSing and teasing girls I already know keeps my momentum going with the new girls.

So, other than my usual stuff I only opened the coffee shop girl with a wedding band due to few reasonable prospects. Still, it's a good habit to just get out there.

[Cobra]

Don't you have a Whole Foods or Mariano's around? They are great sources for day game in shitty weather. I do it quite a bit in this cold if I'm short on approaches.

[OregonToSoCal]

(04-01-2015 07:38 AM)Cobra Wrote:  

Don't you have a Whole Foods or Mariano's around? They are great sources for day game in shitty weather. I do it quite a bit in this cold if I'm short on approaches.

I'm moving next week and there's a Whole Foods walking distance from my place. Coincidentally I've gotten into juicing so I'll be making regular trips there for produce and will be scouting out the talent.

[philosophical_recovery]

(04-01-2015 07:38 AM)Cobra Wrote:  

Don't you have a Whole Foods or Mariano's around? They are great sources for day game in shitty weather. I do it quite a bit in this cold if I'm short on approaches.

I like that idea. They have the food court area as well as the coffee area in the entrance with tables. I'll have to try this out.

Swung by a WF on the way home to grab some muscle fuel. Every single woman there was 40+ except the employees, or had a wedding band. Saw a lone lady from behind, short and checking something out, so I saddled up right next to her and asked her about the food. Had a quick chat, but once I saw her face was about 10 years older than mine I checked out. Saw her eye raping me after I split from there.

I'll have to figure the optimum times to hit various grocery stores, as the younger crowd seems to be elusive where I'm at. At least I got an open in, I could hardly do that until very recently.

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Two more gym openers, but both of the girls were in a larger, male dominated group.

At least I'm getting swole.

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Opened a cute single mom at the grocery store yesterday, who was wearing some bright purple heels. Mainly did it for practice.

I've noticed a weakness in my social circle game: Hanging around timekillers and people that distract me from new options. I bullshit way too much with people I already know instead of putting more effort on people I don't know. This is causing me all kinds of losses.

I also need to up the ante on quicker closes. I'm letting opportunities slip by. Part of this is habitual, the other part is not realizing my own value. I literally have to psyche myself up in order to keep a reminder of my own value. It's a constant battle of inner game.

Not feeling 100% today for some reason, killer headache. Going to try to get out anyways. Hopefully hitting the gym will make me feel somewhat better after the blood gets flowing.

[philosophical_recovery]

Been having a lot of deep thought on my overall goals in life since reading Danger and Play's article on Mindset.

This goes beyond just meeting more girls.

Going back and re-evaluating my 20s, as I am now in my 30s, I have wasted a lot of time on nerdy things. While this has certainly been interesting, there was never any real end goal in all of it. I stumbled across the link to the Wallstreet Playboys blog in the Instagram Ho's forum post, and things started to come together in my mind.

First things first: My mindset needs to change. I let negative thoughts too much free reign in my mind due to past circumstance. The only way I can think of changing this is to come up with mantras, meditate on the positive, and repeat the idea of where I want to go on a daily basis. Nothing else has ever worked for me in the past. Similar things to this got me out of bad thoughts last year. Time to push it.

Second: I've got money in the bank and a solid career. I need to now leverage all of that to head towards my own company and secondary income stream. I know that I'm capable, but I keep doubting myself. I have skills beyond many people around me, and I am a long term, wholistic thinker when most of the people I see in my field are extremely narrow minded. That alone gives me an advantage. I just haven't applied it to my own separate income launch.

Third: Approach more women, men, doesn't matter. My ability to communicate and sell will be paramount. Girls can't be my end goal, and to be honest they just aren't motivating as they used to be. I have laid an average, debtless foundation during my 20s, but I could've done better if I focused and didn't let my oneitis cases distract me. Time to push it and extend. Approach new people just to see what happens, not because I'm looking for a girlfriend, but because I want to get more inside of people's heads.