[Sonoma]

Ignore and put on mass snapchats

[HighSpeed_LowDrag]

If it's a decline without counteroffer, I'll give it a week and try again (usually). If still nothing, then the number gets deleted.

HSLD

[kingq]

I usually do one and done but a friend of mine has been having me ask out this girl in our school over and over again. She's indirectly rejected me twice now but I think I'm gonna try again. It's actually kinda exciting and if anything it gets me to go out of my comfort zone and ask someone out.

[Lizard King]

Here is an update on my previous question.

I got bored, and broke radio silence, and texted a greeting to the lizard. I knew this could force her to answer the suggestion I had put to her earlier.

She let me down gently, and politely told me she didn't want a second date.

The following is what I learned from my failure:

ALWAYS go for the bang.
Dates are not my strength. I play it too nice on a date. She had pushed the date forward two days as she was eager to meet me. We had had a lot of sex talk in between matching on tinder and our date. I should have carried this on in the date. My home was 5 minutes walk from the date venue for fucks sake! I blew an easy lay.

Don't force decisions from a lizard
I might have been a 'maybe' prospect to her. I forced her to place me in Yes or No category. Bear in mind this is a typical Western lizard, using tinder, OKC and other dating services. She might have been past the Wall, but she still has loads of options. I might have been in her 'maybe' category after the sexually lacking date. I would have been better off ignoring her and forgetting about my suggestion for a second date. Who knows? I know I'm learning about myself from these experiences.

[Thoroughbred]

^^Those rides/walks home when you know you have just snatched victory from the jaws of defeat are killer. Have some of my best realisations then though.

(03-03-2015 07:31 PM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:  

Do what Gio said in another post: next her emotionally and psychologically, but not mechanically.

Good advice, but what if nexting her emotionally and psychologically means nexting her mechanically?
I have caught myself subconsciously hanging onto a maybe with a girl because I still had a line of contact. Sometimes I'll clean out my phone, and new drafts will start to filter though my life, or I find a bit of extra motivation to source new leads.
Not always the case though, I think there is a big mental/frame component to this and it's possible to have one without the other.

[Thoroughbred]

^^* Defeat from Jaws of Victory. Fuck.

[Sonsowey]

I have had cases where girls were difficult to get out, I casually texted them when bored over the course of many weeks, and then when they did come through we banged very quickly and I never saw them again.

Sometimes of course this is a waste. You never know. I have also had girls who were eager to meet up several times but ultimately only wanted to fool around and not bang. Life is a crapshoot.

Sometimes people really are just busy.

Just because your game is not jext level where she drops everything, doesnt mean she wont want to hang at some point.

[therealpoder]

I ask twice. If she flakes on me both times or comes up with excuses why she cannot meet, then I move on.

1. I don't like to chase. I would chase girls when I was younger but now, I just don't have the patience for it. I don't feel like I should beg some girl to hang out.

2. After having female roommates, I have learned that if a girl is interested and haven't heard from you in a while, she will contact you. And if she doesn't contact you, assume she's not that interested. If she is interested, she'll make time for you. If she doesn't make time for you, she's not interested.

3. Some women like to play games. I dealt with some women in the past that would continually agree to hang out, cancel at the last minutes, suggest to hang out again, and cancel again repeating the process until you realize that you're getting played. Forget that.

Ask twice, if she flakes or comes up with reasons why she cannot hang out, move on. I don't care what her excuses are, move on.

[polymath]

I go after what I want.

If I want a girl, I will seek a way to get her to be attracted to me.

If she turns me down and I still want her, I change up my game and try again.

Do this without stalking, begging, or losing confidence. You're a man, you don't just quit because someone turned down your approach. You quit only when you choose that it's appropriate to quit, based on circumstances and your own desires.

Then again, sometimes you should just forget the woman and move along.

[Latan]

I have 0 patience for women.
So, if she cancels a meetup or flakes once, I delete the number and next her, always.
I don't even take the time to send a "ok" sms.

Is this a good bang strategy?
Absolutely not, as very few will contact me again to arrange a new meeting.
But I don't care.