As a needy guy starting off you have four primary options.
1. Hobbies. This needs to be done no matter what, and is the most crucial thing for any developing guy to focus on. To quote Roissy:
http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/10/18/why-so-serious/
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Women love two things: Passionate men who pursue their mission(s) in life with single-minded focus, and easily distracted men whose interests and hobbies are capable of diverting their attention from the wiles of women...Moral of this post: Get a hobby, any hobby (except video gaming or Civil War reenacting), and throw yourself into it. Make sure she occasionally sees your brow sweating with passionate single-mindedness. You don’t even have to be that good at it. Her libido will respond right on cue.
Find a mission that has nothing to do with video games or impressing women and everything to do with your passion. Invest in it. This will take time and effort, but if you pick something you actually do like9which is the point), it will be worth it.
The end result for you will be a more relaxed, confident, secure, self-assured and content persona around women. You will appear to be less needy because you've put your energies in another place that has little to do with women.
That is when women come.
2. This strategy involves a bit of a moral compromise(at least for most Americans) and some cash, but it is a pretty useful cheat code to use: paid sex.
Yes, I'm going to go there. I know this is a forum that emphasizes game first and I do not expect this strategy to be widely embraced, but it must be mentioned as its effectiveness cannot be denied.
Part of the issue with neediness is a lack of an abundance mentality. You simply have not had sexual access to a lot of women, never mind a decent number of reasonably attractive ones. Unfortunately, the most sure way to hold a strong, non-needy abundance mentality is to gain this sexual access. Guys who have been in the pants of many a 7 or 8 are less needy when they meet and attempt to game a new 7 or 8(never mind girls lower on the scale).
Why? They've been there and done that. Sexual access is less valuable to them because they'e had a decent amount of it and can thus calm down a bit when searching for more. Obviously a new guy can't quite maintain this type of mentality reliably because sex is new and rare for him, and therefore he values it more (read: needy). Whereas the experienced man can go there with confidence(he's done it before, nothing special) the greener prospect is slowed because he hasn't been there and isn't sure of how he'll get there(never mind the intimidation factor).
What is one of the easiest ways to build an abundance mentality artificially? Escorts are basically a cheat code, allowing you as an inexperienced guy to get together with solid 8's and 9's(women of that quality are not difficult to find at most agencies).
This is essentially a short cut to improving your inner game, which is necessary before you can run any serious game of any other kind. When you've had several legitimate 8s and 9s in bed performing enthusiastically for you, the neediness and enhanced value you put on sex will start to fade. This will show in the way you treat average girls on the street-once you've seen and been with a number of seriously attractive women, it starts to show on you. Women can sense it, and your neediness will be significantly eroded.
Think about it for a second: you've been in bed with several model quality women who've done just about any sexual act you can imagine and performed enthusiastically. an abundance mentality is the natural result. How do you think you would feel? You're not going to put much weight into your interaction with the average 7 on the street when you have just had a couple of 9's in your bed and can have more in the not too far future. You're not going to tolerate attitude from a plain jane when you can have a compliant model for a weekend GFE. You'll naturally be more aloof and confident sexually around these girls because you've been there and done that with women as attractive if not much more so than them. It is the ultimate cure for neediness, and also by far the most direct solution.
Combine this action with suggestion number 1, and you have a decent formula for overall improvement.
Granted, you can go other routes as suggested by the guys here, and they do work(working hard to improve inner game, study material, fake it til you make it, etc), but these are the more time consuming ways. You'll get where you want to go, but it will take longer than the strategy I suggested above.
What I've proposed essentially amounts to a shortcut, albeit a somewhat expensive one (though one could contend that the average LTR for an average American beta with your run-of-the-mill American girl is about the same price as an escort on a yearly retainer, but I digress).
Travel adds a whole new dimension to this. With an income in excess of $2000 a month, you can live like a playboy in many parts of the world. Save up a few grand and play the 3 week millionaire in southeast Asia sometime and you'll see what I mean. Men who are a lot fatter, older, uglier and needier than you are having fiestas over there at very little cost, with many even finding a host of cute young women seeking their old, tired asses out as long term partners. If they can do it, I'm sure you can.
3. An addendum to the end of the last point regarding travel. Go to the right places, learn the language and the culture and you may find a dating market far more favorable to you, with women who desire you enough to allow you to skip the entirety of my second point and date normally because you will have so many options. This option requires a lot of research (if you choose an east asian destination, for example, you'll need to learn the local language and gain a very solid understanding of the culture, which is very much not our own here in the west), but it can work and has worked EXTREMELY well for lesser men than yourself.
4. Your final option: Stay here as you are, study like a mad man in virtual celibacy for a while and eventually find some limited success with the girls.
Your choice. Make of it what you will.