To give you a little background, I’m in my late 20s. I have a college degree, a job in my field and I make a middle class wage. I’m tall, fit and attractive. Many people have told me that I’m funny, witty and intelligent. However, I lack a social life. I have less than 10 friends scattered throughout the country (I live in the U.S., if that matters), but only one of them lives close by and I hang out with him once every few weeks at most. When we do hang out, we either go out to eat or watch a movie. When I’m not at work, I sit inside my room watching movies and TV shows, listening to music, browsing the internet, and rarely playing video games. I don’t have any interesting hobbies that involve me getting outside of the house. I’m extremely introverted and it’s just my personality, so I don’t want to get out there and meet new people. I’ve tried, and I wasn’t happy at all; it’s just not my thing.
I’ve recently joined okcupid.com and I’m practicing my online dating skills, trying to see what works well and what doesn’t and getting a feel for online dating in general. The messages that I send out are witty. I keep things light and funny. I get a decent response rate, and the women who I message are usually average-looking and they are in their late 20s to mid 30s. The first 2 messages of mine get a good response rate, but after my third message, women stop responding.
This is my third message:
“How was your weekend? My weekend was beyond exciting. I put on my super hero cape and fought crime. Okay, no, I didn’t. I just stayed inside and watched a few movies and caught up on season 4 of Homeland (you should watch it if you haven’t already; it’s one of the best TV shows ever). I’m quite the introvert, so most of my weekends are spent by myself; I hang out with my friends once every few weeks at most. Usually weekends are spent watching movies and TV shows. I’m also addicted to reddit.
Speaking of super heroes, if you could be a super hero, what would your super powers be and what would you wear? I’d be like Professor X in X-Men and I would read people’s minds, which would make it very easy to fight crime. All I’d have to do is scan people’s minds and find out who is committing crimes at the moment. I’d wear my regular clothes to blend in.”
My question has to do specifically with women who I initially meet on online dating websites, not women who I initially meet in real life.
Is the reason why they stopped responding because I stay inside in my free time and I lack social status?
Women will eventually ask about it, so what do I say about my lack of social life? Do I put a positive spin on it? What if they ask me what I did over the weekend? What if they ask me what I like to do for fun?
When should I reveal my lack of social life? When I am still messaging her on okcupid? On the first phone call? On the first date? Will my lack of social life be a dealbreaker for most women or will most women not mind? I don’t message hot women; the women who I message are mostly average-looking, but they all have a social life.
I’ve recently joined okcupid.com and I’m practicing my online dating skills, trying to see what works well and what doesn’t and getting a feel for online dating in general. The messages that I send out are witty. I keep things light and funny. I get a decent response rate, and the women who I message are usually average-looking and they are in their late 20s to mid 30s. The first 2 messages of mine get a good response rate, but after my third message, women stop responding.
This is my third message:
“How was your weekend? My weekend was beyond exciting. I put on my super hero cape and fought crime. Okay, no, I didn’t. I just stayed inside and watched a few movies and caught up on season 4 of Homeland (you should watch it if you haven’t already; it’s one of the best TV shows ever). I’m quite the introvert, so most of my weekends are spent by myself; I hang out with my friends once every few weeks at most. Usually weekends are spent watching movies and TV shows. I’m also addicted to reddit.
Speaking of super heroes, if you could be a super hero, what would your super powers be and what would you wear? I’d be like Professor X in X-Men and I would read people’s minds, which would make it very easy to fight crime. All I’d have to do is scan people’s minds and find out who is committing crimes at the moment. I’d wear my regular clothes to blend in.”
My question has to do specifically with women who I initially meet on online dating websites, not women who I initially meet in real life.
Is the reason why they stopped responding because I stay inside in my free time and I lack social status?
Women will eventually ask about it, so what do I say about my lack of social life? Do I put a positive spin on it? What if they ask me what I did over the weekend? What if they ask me what I like to do for fun?
When should I reveal my lack of social life? When I am still messaging her on okcupid? On the first phone call? On the first date? Will my lack of social life be a dealbreaker for most women or will most women not mind? I don’t message hot women; the women who I message are mostly average-looking, but they all have a social life.
