[mike6084]

This was my Ask the Red Pill reddit post in March of 2014:

http://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/...ek_advice/

Since then, I've mainly done online dating, typically with shitty results. It was a huge investment of time (fortunately, very little money, under $150 for about 7 months) and I only had some dates with barely above average selfish/feminist careerist types or working class girls I had little in common with and also not much chemistry with. Sadly, no action whatsoever. I didn't have money to go out earlier in the year, now that I do, I'm hesitant for it has been about 4 years since I did this seriously.

I am putting myself first now, working full time and going to school at night in the hopes of a better job, so I'm a busy person. In fact, I'm off work for 9 days, this is the only reason I have time to think about this and post.

So, I have two related questions: one, I know the standard advice about ex-girlfriends, but does this apply as much to fiances, or is there an exception? In my situation, I do have a long investment with this girl, and she with me, and we do talk every week or two. The major issue and reason for break up for me was the children issue, but more than this it was the frame issue. If she doesn't agree to live in my frame, any marriage is doomed from the start, so I was better not to marry. But how to get a girl to enter your frame, when she formerly was in it and then left it??? Perhaps friends and peers poisoned her against me?

Second, I really hesitate to give up on my former fiance completely, even as I date and pursue other girls. The reason is the cultural wasteland of the US, with smart phone addicted sterile feminists careerists, slutty skanks, unfeminine girls with short hair who will seek to constantly compete with me, etc. I'm not looking to commiserate, but I'm a busy person and can't spent more than 10-15 hours per week gaming girls, so I'm looking for relatively quick and helpful references.

I go with roosh v for game, chateau heartiste for humor and science and alpha tips, and rollo tomassi for philosophy. Any other Red Pill links?

And as well, any advice on my situation? I am looking for marriage and kids with the right person, I'm 36 and thought it would happen with this girl for a while. So, the standard advice is to go for late 20s girls interested in the same thing. At the same time, I'm thinking of joining Tinder and seeing what I can get.

[eradicator]

Don't get married in the united states. Period. If you find the woman you want to have children with, great, just don't marry her. Make sure your state does not allow common law marriage. Essentially the reasoning is "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"

I don't see the point in staying in contact with your former fiance if she isn't going to have sex with you anymore, and not going to give you what you want:children. Sure, if you were still banging her, keep her in the rotation.

Why are you still talking to her if you are not going to keep banging her?

If you want to do tinder and you just want bangs, get a good photographer and lie about your age(make a facebook account that says you are 29). Have them meet directly at your place and keep the lights relatively dim or at a bar at night that is poorly lit. Otherwise, you will be wasting your time on tinder. You can try okcupid, and list your age as 34 and still bang hot women in their 20s.

If you want to find the future mother of your children, tinder probably isn't your best bet.

What I would suggest? Make your money, move to either eastern europe, south east asia or south america and find the mother of your children there, but whatever you do, do not bring her back to north america, or she may quickly become westernized(fat and entitled)